I'm at kind of an impasse here. DD has a "play area" in an alcove off of the living room. It's been "her" play area since we moved into the house in March. She has an easel, a table, a bin organizer, and a dollhouse. And all of the bits to everything are strewn everywhere.
I've helped her clean in the past. We would sit and organize things and throw out the garbage that accumulated. She has independently organized in the past as well. Now, she will either get distracted before she even sits down if we're doing it together, which ends up with me organizing and her playing, or she will flat out refuse. Literally, she's said, NO. "This is my play area not yours. I don't have to clean it up."
DH and I are at our wits' end with this. There literally isn't anywhere for new toys to go when Christmas comes if she doesn't do anything, and I've told her that. I've tried cleaning up here and there after she goes to bed, but she will just get everything back out.
Right now, my coffee table has a magnetic doll set, three stuffed dogs, markers, and a sketchbook on it. She REFUSED to put them away a few minutes ago when I asked. I'm also working on some almost-rage issues so I'm trying not to get into confrontations with her.
Any advice would be welcome and I'll try anything. I'm going to try to team up with her again and put things in their right places. Wish me luck.
(She went upstairs to put a doll away. I followed her up with some dress up clothes to find the hat from her head in her doorway. It fell off and she left it. AND THEN REFUSED TO PICK IT UP.)