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post #1 of 9
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I chose not to vaccinate my children.  My oldest is 11yoDS and did have his first two rounds of  vaccinations before I started to study it.  My 9yodd never had any.  At the time, I did the research and was comfortable with my decision.

 

We have had the fights with the doctors, family, ect... but tbh, it has died down a lot to practically nothing.  We started out homeschooling but because I have mental health issues, I ended up sending them to school in grades 1 and 3 and it was good.  School never gave issue about being non-vax..  They had chicken pox without incident. My son has Aspergers (so does my husband so I don't know if it's because of vaccination, doesn't matter where it came from imo).   We don't have a doctor or any health care person at all.

 

Anyway, that's my story :kid


Now, lately I notice a lot of people posting anti-vax stuff on facebook and horror stories of people not vaccinated, people who hate their parents for not getting them vaccinated, ect...  You know the stuff that is out there.

 

Because of my own mental health issues, I find myself starting to question my decision and wondering, what if something happens to them, what if I made the wrong decision, ect... I have OCD and the what if's are really starting to bother me and I am worried I still start obsessing over it and know if I start looking things up, I am really going to start freaking out.  

 

I have no one to talk to because everyone things not vaccinating is practically a death sentence.  I guess I just need some assurance things are and will be fine.  I never thought much about the long term and about when they get older.

 

Thanks!!

post #2 of 9

Bwylde:

 

I'm actually pro-vaccination, so I'm not sure that I should post here, but I wanted to let you know you don't really need to worry.

 

The chances of your children being infected and badly affected by the childhood diseases that vaccines prevent at this age are extremely low (less than 1 in 100,000, probably closer to 1 in a million). These diseases (while generally rare) are much more dangerous in babies which is why those of us who vaccinate on schedule choose to do so at such young ages.  Right now vaccinating your children would mostly help with herd immunity.

 

I think there are a few vaccines that are still useful in adulthood like the HPV vaccine which may help to prevent cervical cancer in women (probably debated by the posters on this board).  You may not be comfortable vaccinating your daughter before she becomes sexually active, but maybe you could let her know that HPV is a risk for her as part of her sexual education.

 

Your children are growing up and approaching adulthood.  If you want to do something about their vaccination status, why not let them know what it is and let them decide for themselves what to do when they turn 18?


Edited by naimah - 12/16/13 at 8:01pm
post #3 of 9
The PP made a lot of valid points smile.gif There was a thread in the debate forum recently titled "why are we so worried about vax or not" (or something really similar) there was a lot of interesting statistics in the op. Might be worth checking that out.
I don't do FB. but it sounds like fear monger propaganda type stuff to me. If the what ifs really start getting to you, why not arm yourself with knowledge, what are the VPDS that you are most worried about? Study symptoms and treatments, so you are familiar with what to look out for and how to best care for your DC
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Originally Posted by bwylde View Post
 

 


Now, lately I notice a lot of people posting anti-vax stuff on facebook and horror stories of people not vaccinated, people who hate their parents for not getting them vaccinated, ect...  You know the stuff that is out there.

 

 

Thanks!!

 

I think people who live in developed countries and hate their parents over not vaccinating are out to lunch.  Truly.  It is almost always a decision the parents thinks is in the best interest of the child…what more can we ask?  It is also a decision that is quite reversible if you disagree with your parents.  

 

When people hate their parents over such things, I often think there are other issues at play. 

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I think people who live in developed countries and hate their parents over not vaccinating are out to lunch.  Truly.  It is almost always a decision the parents thinks is in the best interest of the child…what more can we ask?  It is also a decision that is quite reversible if you disagree with your parents.  

 

When people hate their parents over such things, I often think there are other issues at play. 

lol, you are so right!

 

Thanks for input. I just sometimes start to freak about things because I love my kids and don't want to do them wrong.  It's easy to second guess yourself when you don' t have a support system.  Then I remembered the good people of MDC :)

 

I always thought they could vaccinate later if they felt the need. I personally had an adverse reaction to a tetanus shot and wouldn't want them to go through that for something that they are so low at risk for. 

post #6 of 9

We stopped vaxxing DD at 5mos because of reactions and I've never looked back and thought "oh now, I need to catch up with rest of the vaxxing world" - and most certainly not for any proclaimed herd immunity.  Nope.  I'm in it for the health of my family, and if others benefit from us being healthy, so be it, but I won't vax for anyone else.  occasionally MIL will still ask what we are planning to do (with DD hopefully starting pre-school in a year) and DH isn't well read on the subject so he too has begun to ask how the exemptions will work.  It's certainly easier as they get older and suddenly people seem to *care less* about doctors visits and vaccine status.  If my kiddo wants to vax herself as an adult, by all means she's free to do so (although I might feel bummed!) but not til she's of age to make those decisions.  Til then, I get to do all the reading and sorting and thinking for her...she can just be a kid.

post #7 of 9

I'm very private about our vaxing status. I have the exemption on file with the school and few people IRL know about it. Most of my friends and family just assume we vax, because that's "the norm" and they don't question it and they don't question us.

 

You know you can "hide" posts on facebook that you don't want to see. Since you're dealing with some mental health stuff, I'd suggest you go that route rather than debating online and posting anti-vax links in response. Just  delete those messages without responding.

post #8 of 9

There can be a "what if" in just about every decision. What are you more comfortable with--vaccinating or not vaccinating? It sounds like not vaccinating, so just ignore the fear-mongers. They're not going away, so just find a way to ignore them. I disagree that looking things up will make you freak out. Learning more about the vaccines and the diseases, from sources such as the CDC's Pink Book, made me much more comfortable with my decision to not vaccinate. Also knowing the best way to deal with an illness if it occurred, such as vitamin A supplementation for measles, and sodium ascorbate for pertussis, made me more comfortable.

 

Nobody in real life knows we don't vaccinate, other than the doctor and the person at the school whom we gave the exemptions to. So it's not something I have to think about or discuss regularly if I don't want to.

post #9 of 9

@bwylde just want to let you know as the adult child of a non-vaxxing parent, I don't hate my mom. I understand where she was coming from when she made her decision. She was also of the mind that once her children reached the age of 18, we were free to make our own choices about our bodies (including vaccines, circumcision, piercings, tattoos), and she would respect those choices. I have made very different choices than my mom, but we still have a loving and open relationship.

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