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Is it wrong to get a tattoo while on welfare?

post #1 of 49
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I NEVER spend money on myself. Ever. I have wanted this tattoo for a long time. My family is on food stamps. Is it justifiable to spend money on a tattoo that is important to me while on welfare? We scrimp our asses off and have built up a savings. We don't have any debt. When we get our tax return, we will put most of it in savings. I would like to take some out and treat myself. Honest opinions of all kinds are welcome.

post #2 of 49

It is not justified. You are on welfare. A tattoo is not a necessity.  You should put that money toward something that will help you get off welfare. That's what all your "extra" money should be focused on. 

post #3 of 49

I think it depends.  If you just want it because it's pretty, then it should wait, but if getting this tattoo is part of your metal health self-care in some way, then I say you should get it.

post #4 of 49
Yes! It's not okay to spend money on yourself this way when you could use that money to benefit the entire family.
post #5 of 49

I don't think there is anything wrong with treating yourself to something you really want just because you are accepting food stamps right now. Especially given that you say you don't treat yourself and have been working really hard to save. As long as you're not talking about an unreasonable amount of money.

Sometimes our spirits need these things.

How does your family feel about it? If your partner doesn't want you to pull the money from savings, then that is different.

post #6 of 49

IMO, I agree with the previous poster that said it is not a necessity.  All additional funds that you have should be focused on getting yourself ahead of the game and eventually off of any type of assistance.  By all means, once you are off assistance and still would like the tattoo and all of your other obligations are met - go for it!

post #7 of 49

I don't think being on assistance means you have to go without anything and everything nice in the world. Now, if you are talking about  deciding to get a tattoo, then asking for assistance paying your rent because the rent money went to ink, yes, there is a problem.  If you are getting a tax return, putting a majority aside to meet your needs/pay bills/ and allowing yourself a small treat that is truly meaningful to you- I think that is absolutely appropriate. 

This is the same argument as people complaining because someone on SNAP buys some steaks and  cookies. Is it something to be done on a daily basis- no, it isn't a responsible use of the resource, but  on occasion it is absolutely reasonable. 

Please do not let anyone make you feel like because you accept assistance, because you are entitled to that assistance, you are not ever entitled to anything you want, and must only live meeting your basic needs.  

post #8 of 49
Go for it. Get one for me too. Needles scare me ;-).
post #9 of 49
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Originally Posted by AllyFolsom View Post
 

I NEVER spend money on myself. Ever. I have wanted this tattoo for a long time. My family is on food stamps. Is it justifiable to spend money on a tattoo that is important to me while on welfare? We scrimp our asses off and have built up a savings. We don't have any debt. When we get our tax return, we will put most of it in savings. I would like to take some out and treat myself. Honest opinions of all kinds are welcome.

I think it would make more sense to wait until you are off food stamps.  Maybe as a celebration once you are back on your feet.  Would you be able to afford it if you weren't getting food stamps?  If the answer is no, then I would pass.  Buying steaks on food stamps is still food - not a good comparison, IMO.  A tattoo is a luxury. 

post #10 of 49

I have no opinion on this; however, given that you asked it seems like you do.

 

So, honestly...I would wait until you feel like you can enjoy it without asking for permission.

post #11 of 49
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Originally Posted by FarmerMomma View Post

Go for it. Get one for me too. Needles scare me ;-).

I love FarmerMomma.

It ain't nobody's business what you do. As long as YOU feel like it's okay and you're being responsible. Being on assistance doesn't mean you can't have anything other than bare essentials ever. You don't have an "A" on your chest!
post #12 of 49

I don't think it is anyone's business because her family is receiving assistance - it is our business because she asked on the Internet.

 

I stand by that if you are uncomfortable enough to ask for permission - you aren't comfortable. That is my honest opinion.

post #13 of 49
You're poor but still humsn. As long as its not taking food out of your family's mouth and you can make your obligations I say go for it.
post #14 of 49
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Originally Posted by Viola P View Post

You're poor but still humsn. As long as its not taking food out of your family's mouth and you can make your obligations I say go for it.


technically, she can't meet her obligations or feed her family - that's why she is receiving assistance.  A tattoo is not a human right. 

post #15 of 49

Go for it.  You don't need to ask for strangers' permission for such private matters, do you?  Not everyone can be perfect or be rational all the time.  Although I agree that since you asked, you're probably not too sure about it.  Maybe wait a bit until you're very sure, so you won't regret later.

post #16 of 49
Yes, its fine to treat yourself with a gift. Enjoy your tattoo smile.gif
post #17 of 49
Anyone who pays their sitter min wage, or works in management in a company where min wage is given to any segment of workers should have NO RIGHT to get tattoos either. Or dolls for their kiddies. Or
post #18 of 49
Kidding. But we are all partof the same puzzle. Strange to me that some folks don't see that.
post #19 of 49
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Originally Posted by junipermoon View Post

Anyone who pays their sitter min wage, or works in management in a company where min wage is given to any segment of workers should have NO RIGHT to get tattoos either. Or dolls for their kiddies. Or


Only on MDC.  A tattoo is a luxury.  No debate about that.  When you have trouble making ends meet - you don't get luxuries.  If someone was living hand - t- mouth withOUT government assistance, would anyone encourage her to get a tattoo?  I doubt it.  That would be seen as irresponsible.  But when you are receiving aid, don't let anyone hold you back!

post #20 of 49
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Originally Posted by swede View Post


Only on MDC.  A tattoo is a luxury.  No debate about that.  When you have trouble making ends meet - you don't get luxuries.  If someone was living hand - t- mouth withOUT government assistance, would anyone encourage her to get a tattoo?  I doubt it.  That would be seen as irresponsible.  But when you are receiving aid, don't let anyone hold you back!

Thing is, this is complicated. There are so many types of "welfare." Corporate included. Who are we to say because you qualify for benefits there is a moral imperative to go without treats? How unfairly stigmatizing. Seems holier than thou.
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