So DD is in an all girls school, she has a group of friends that she usually hangs out with and I'm ok with most of them but one, and actually the other girls dont like her but DD has convinced them that she is "cool" besides all of those comments she makes DD will just say:
"They never told her is not allright to say that"
"She was having a bad day"
etc, etc, etc making excuses for this kid's behaviour, which is typical of DD she thinks that everyone in this world is nice she is just very trusting and has a lot of love for everyone but as much as I love that about her I absolutely hate it because she can be a little naive sometimes, but its just her she sees the good in everyone it doesnt matter how small that "good" might be.
Back on topic, this kid has made homophobic, racist, she makes fun of other kids because of the way they look, and she also brags like crazy ontop of that, she is not a good kid and I've talked to the mother and she even encourages the behaviour, the apple doesnt fall far from the tree I guess. I also noticed that the complaints about her have increased ever since the beginning of the school year. She is 14 years old she is not a baby anymore and she should know what things are right and what things are not ok to say it doesnt matter how sheltered you where your whole childhood it doesnt give you a reason to be a little jerk. And I'm sorry that I'm putting this harshly but I cant stand this kid anymore. The last straw was yesterday, the girls were working on a school project in our house and this kid proceeds to talk about South African and how the white that lived there where low class citizens, the apartheid and how she agreed with it and other unecesary racist remarks. She knows, and all of my daughter friends know that I'm South African and even if she didn't know that is not something you say if you think that way keep it to yourself. I was not happy and also I was very offended that my country and my culture was being trash talked by this little jerk in my own house. I dont think I overreacted when I told her to leave immediately and that I didnt wanted to see her around here or my daughter anymore. Dd agrees that her "friends" behaviour was not acceptable but she thinks that ignoring her is a mean thing to do. I'm also talking to the mother tomorrow because she was not happy that I made her kid go home by herself ( our house is around 2 blocks away from hers) I seriously don't know what this woman wants to talk about with me but its surely to excuse her daughter's comment. Im also planning on notifying the school which has a zero tolerance policy to racism.
I personally dont think I overreacted. I just need your opinion mamas, and also I want DD to see how she should not hang out with this kid anymore and that she shouldn't feel guilty that she will have no friends at school because nobody likes her due to her attitude I dont even know what to tell my DD anymore, she is just too naive.