I didn't read all replies... But I did want to say that it really shouldn't be your husbands choice in my opinion.
Science, even has proven that women carry the experience of giving birth with them consciously or subconsciously for their entire lives and it will effect them positively or negatively their entire lives whether they want to believe it or deny it,
Is he going to deal with the post pardum depression if you go thru another hospital birth?
Is he going to live with those traumatic experiences from your previous births forever?
Would he gain a spiritual, accomplished, empowering gift of power from birthing naturally in his home?
Birth has nothing to do with men, yeah it's his kid but sorry, it's not his experience. That only belongs to women and men know this! Once I realized this, I knew nothing my hubby said could change my mind. its normal for him to be nervous but that's his problem to deal with. You have your own problems you're working thru.
I know I sound harsh but it's reality. If he wanted complete say in how, where, and when his child should be born he would of paid a surrogate to overlook. Always be compassionate and patient and help your husband understand the best you can.
Interview midwives together, watch BOBB, read Inu May books. Read testimonials or stories about mothers giving birth on The Farm in tenn together. Expose him and desensitize him to the way our culture views birth. Good luck !
Edit: Maria, you sounded like me... But the insurance... But the money... Trying to be open minded... Not REALLY what I want but.... Considering a doula.... Etc etc. why do we women have to do things we a REALLY don't want to do? Go with your heart. You will be happy you did. Everything will be ok if you put forth the education and time. You already made your mind up now follow thru with it. You can do it. There's a lot of stories about VBAC home births. You're not alone. I believe in you, I'll be praying for you. When you Trust in god (if you're into that) the worrying ends. You already tried the hospital route and you said it was prison... That is a strong word.
Edited by MommaKuhel - 2/11/14 at 1:36am