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Bed times

post #1 of 24
Thread Starter 
I'm curious what time other people's babies go to bed at night? I have Ava going to bed around 10pm these days and she'll stay asleep for around 11 hours (minus waking up to eat every 3-4 hours at this point) so we get up around 9. It seems most other people have way earlier bedtimes. Are bedtimes determined by your baby's natural inclinations or by your schedule? She used to be up until 1:30am earlier on, but that was probably all our fault for staying up late and sleeping in. Now that I've got her down to 10pm I'm not sure I want to move it any earlier. Right now both DH and I are home during the day. I'm not naturally an early riser and DH works late into the night on weekends as a bartender, so he needs to sleep in later. Since he'll be home with Ava when I go back to work, it might be good to keep her on this schedule so he can get some more sleep in the morning after I leave, and not have her wanting to be up for the day at 6am. But then again, once I go back to work I'll need to go to bed around 10pm too (I've been staying up until 12 or 1am after putting her down) so DH and I won't end up getting any time alone together when I no longer have the freedom to stay up another couple of hours.

What time does your baby go to bed, and what time do you get up in the morning? Have you "created" your baby's schedule, or did it just happen naturally?
post #2 of 24
We normally go to bed between 9-10, but I have to be up at 5 on work days, and 7 the rest of the time. My first kid stayed up real late and we slept in, but that was our schedule then. Whatever works for you is fine. There is no "right" schedule. Sometimes, John falls asleep at 7:30 and doesn't wake back up until midnight or so to eat. I never wake him up. I thinks it's all very individual.
post #3 of 24
Recently porter started getting super fussy at around 6-7pm so we tried just puttin him to bed and it works (most days). So he will generally go to bed sometime between 7 and 9pm and then sleep til 6 or 7 am. He usually gives me one 5 hour stretch in the middle of the night. Depending on what time he went down I will feed him at around 9:30-10pm when I go to bed because us moving around in the room is enough to rouse him. Then he sleeps til around 3am, then til 5 or so, then til wake up time at which point he is obviously 100% awake and will not stand for laying down anymore.

Now if I could just get the almost 4 year old to go to bed earlier then DH and I could actually have a bit of time together that isn't in bed.

With my first he would go down closer to 9-10pm and then DH and I would stay up later together but that was when I could nap during the day with the baby if i needed to and DH didn't have the crazy commute he has now.
post #4 of 24
I'm just starting to figure out her schedule... So far she is going to bed for the night around 11 or 12. She wakes to be fed every 3-4 hours. When she wakes around 5-6 am I bring her out of the bed, feed her, then get myself up. She usually falls back asleep and I can get my older two ready for school without worrying about her. She pretty much sleeps the whole time were dropping them off (though wakes occasionally while being strapped in the carseat) and then I can get home and take a nap before she finally wakes at around 9:30 am

So long story short she sleeps 11pmish-9:30amish

I'll probably try and adjust this once I go back to work but for now its working.
post #5 of 24
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Originally Posted by ciga View Post

Recently porter started getting super fussy at around 6-7pm so we tried just puttin him to bed and it works (most days). So he will generally go to bed sometime between 7 and 9pm and then sleep til 6 or 7 am. He usually gives me one 5 hour stretch in the middle of the night. Depending on what time he went down I will feed him at around 9:30-10pm when I go to bed because us moving around in the room is enough to rouse him. Then he sleeps til around 3am, then til 5 or so, then til wake up time at which point he is obviously 100% awake and will not stand for laying down anymore.
 

 this is my babys exact schedule too.

post #6 of 24

Yeah, Norah is pretty much a little night owl.  If I try and put her down before we're ready to go to bed, she always wakes up, and we're usually up until 12 at least.  It's the price I pay for having her sleep through the night, I think - she just can't go to sleep early.  If she does go down about 10, she always starts fussing around 12.  I need to try and adjust our schedules to get her to sleep earlier.  My MIL grumbled at me about it once when I mentioned that we went to bed when she does - she was like, "You can't go by HER schedule!"  I'm just not a scheduler at heart.  I feel like going with the flow with this kiddo has kept me sane and content, and it keeps her so much happier.  It's not like she's inconveniencing me or anything beyond, y'know, being a baby.  :P

post #7 of 24
That's crazy! I don't try to schedule John. Funny enough, he is pretty laid back and just goes with the flow. He will go to bed whenever I want most of the time, but sometimes he likes to go earlier.

On a sort of separate note, why do some people think it is ok to give their opinion? I always say something when that happens. Coworkers, family, friends, anyone really...I have said "this is MY baby, I am a good mother, and just because I do things differently than you think I should, does not give you the right to give your advice without me asking for it." It causes issues sometimes, but it is one of my biggest annoyances. I always hear unwanted comments about cosleeping, baby wearing (they say I'll spoil him...ugh), extended breastfeeding plans...just everything really! Anyway, soap box rant over!!!
post #8 of 24

Acelyn is 2months old and pretty much sleeps all night now. Her "night" starts around 9-11pm. She has started waking up around 6-8am for 30minutes - 2hours, then will sleep another 2-4hours. sadly I have only been getting in on those last few hours, going to bed at 4 or 6 am. I'm tired, just can't sleep. Never delt with this before. I'm a SAHM so I have a lot of freedom when it comes to time frames, but I'm not really liking this on my end. I'm glad my baby is getting her rest tho.

post #9 of 24
Yes AB I'm a total baby spoiler too... According to my husbands family it's my fault baby won't sleep in her co sleeper because we held her too much the first week of her life (she'll only sleep on me or my husband). We are going to be at their house for a week at Christmas. Hopefully I'll be able to stand up for myself like you do!
post #10 of 24
Last night was the first night we even tried putting Ivy to bed before we went to bed. She's 7 weeks old. We put her in her cradle at about 10 and we went to sleep at about 11:30. Then we slept for a bit before she woke up and I fed her and brought her into bed with us. It worked surprisingly well. I'll probably try again tonight. DH and I don't really do date nights, so I really like having time with him after the kids are in bed, but before we go to bed.

I assume that there are people in my very main stream extended family that say I spoil my kids behind my back, but no one ever says anything to my face. In fact, I've always gotten a lot of comments about how well behaved my kids are and how well they sleep. I rarely put my babies down when they're very small infants. It makes them and me happier. Obviously, it's too soon to tell with Ivy, but my other kids are certainly not spoiled!
post #11 of 24

Lol, yeah, my MIL is an interesting bird.  Her other daughter in law who has her first three granddaughters does literally EVERYTHING opposite to MIL's opinions - she formula feeds, she won't babywear, she bottle props, she thinks cloth diapers are disgusting, etc etc.  Whereas I am pretty much just as crunchy as she is.  You'd think she'd love it - and she does to some degree - but it's like she just HAS to find something to pick at.  She can't help herself.  Hah!  She got all huffy when I was having latch problems with Norah and I refused to call her random La Leche buddy, opting to consult with my IBCLC certified lactation consultant midwife who RUNS the LL League chapter in my town!  It was so funny.  I think she just desperately wants me to seem out of control about something so she can offer her sage wisdom and advice.  

 

Ah, inlaw stories.  When you have a Jewish mother in law, you end up with a few.  :P

post #12 of 24
Katherine got herself into an evening routine randomly at around 7weeks. She likes to be asleep between 7-7:30pm sleeps til about 9:30pm likes a snuggle and a snack then usually asleep until 1-2am then we feed ever 2 hours after that.

My husbands aunt was at his birthday dinner last week, it was almost 8pm so I had Katherine in the carrier putting her to sleep, she knows it as her bed and once she was asleep I was back in the dining room laying the table when the aunt asked why I just didn't go "put her down" to which I replied she sleeps soundly in the carrier for hours, putting her down and she'd not sleep. Her response was "so how long do you have to keep that up for?" *giggles* my very smarmy response oh at least a year it's called dedication you see. Lol. My mil is super crunchy and nearly choked on her drink with laughter.
My own mother gosh she does not cope with my parenting at all - she's very mainstream and insanely narrow minded.
post #13 of 24
I'm the crunchiest momma in my family, and I consider myself "Too crunchy for the mainstream mommas, and not crunchy enough for the crunchy mommas!" Lol. I baby wear, cloth diaper, cosleep, EBF for as long as baby/toddler wants, make all our baby food, etc. But, I drive a suburban, like nice purses and shoes, and spend too much money! Lol. It's a weird place to be. Most of my family knows I am an asshole for lack of a better phrase and I'll do what I want, so they just go with it. Mainstream mommas think I'm weird, and crunchy mommas think I'm weird. Haha!
post #14 of 24
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Originally Posted by superbeans View Post

Yes AB I'm a total baby spoiler too... According to my husbands family it's my fault baby won't sleep in her co sleeper because we held her too much the first week of her life (she'll only sleep on me or my husband). We are going to be at their house for a week at Christmas. Hopefully I'll be able to stand up for myself like you do!

In the first week! Dang

Fortunately my family keeps most of their opinions to themselves though my mom has been tryin to convince me to quit cloth diapering but because she feels like its too much extra work for me. It probably helps that we live really far from everyone
post #15 of 24
Thread Starter 
I don't know many other mamas, though I'm in a group of first-time moms that I'm still getting to know... But I think I'm like you, abk. The girls in that group were wowed that I was originally planning a homebirth, and shocked that anyone could make it through labor without an epidural. But my sister is super crunchy, so nothing I might do would be too much for her. And my mom seemed surprised when I was considering NOT using cloth diapers. But I love makeup and clothes and purses too. It's kind of odd being in that no-man's-land between two types of people.
post #16 of 24
Abk and slammerkin, I'm the same way except I rarely meet people who are crunchier than I am IRL. It's when I started coming on the Mothering forums that I realised how un-crunchy I am compared to many people. I really do fall somewhere in between.
post #17 of 24
My area is so super crunchy that I was totally self conscious about planning a hospital birth. I felt like an oddball and it felt like folks were totally relieved when I had a surprise home birth.
post #18 of 24
Really??? I had to hide mine from people due to blatant judgement!
post #19 of 24
I get a lot of the "You're brave" (read: crazy) comments when people find out that I've had two homebirths which is funny since I plan homebirths because I'm far more afraid of birthing in the hospital.
post #20 of 24
I know! I live in an alternate reality. The homebirth midwives (who ended up attending porter's birth because we had hired one of them as a doula) have delivered the majority of the kids I've met since moving here.
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