Hi all, so I have a "friendship with a couple I met in my antenatal class a few years agao. They are lovely people who are generous and I just don't like them! At first look we have similar values, but it turns out we couldn't be more different, because I have no ability to get people to respect my boundaries, they have no idea that I don't agree with them on everything. I actually think they are prob better people than me but I feel like they take liberties and are moochie. It winds me up, I like to have the opportunity to offer hospitality rather than be asked for it, their son is too rough to play with my kids and they turn up too often without notice, or call ahead and say that they are still coming even if I have people over as they don't mind. I would love to see them every couple of months (or even weeks) but they insist on weekly meetings. I have a newborn and can only see my closest friends once a month. I'm starting to have panic attacks when they call and I'm avoiding going out to places I know they might be.I made the mistake in confiding a few problems with them and they brought them up publicly in front of my family!
Anyway I don't want to see them any more but I don't know how to end this. They can't change who they are so I don't think feedback would help - and I'm sure a break isn't required, I just don't want to be a jerk as they are good people
I have been avoiding their calls/emails etc
Any tips? I'm at a stage where I just want to send an email saying I have personal issues at the moment and I can't spend any time with them but I hate to lie - I think it causes bad karma - help!!!