Wahhh, this is such an unoriginal problem, I know. DD is 5, homeschooled, and we live with no TV (though she does get some very limited screen time, like old episodes of Mister Rogers at bedtime on my computer). She spends about 15-20 hours a week over at my in-laws' house, including a sleepover once a week, all of which time she loves.
MIL and I have talked about what I don't want DD to have/get/be exposed to, but the more I try to iterate my feelings, the more I feel like it seems like I want my daughter to be raised in a burlap sack in front of a stack of neutral-colored soy-based crayons and paper made from sustainable unicorn poop. No this, please no that, please not this.
I am aware that my daughter's good relationship with my MIL is probably more important than DD being sheltered from a lot of the things I don't like, but I want it both ways!
DD watches TV when she goes to MIL's house (usually PBS, nick jr, and the disney channel), sees commercials for stuff, wants the stuff.
They go shopping for new clothes that have slogans and designs that I feel unhappy about (pink "Cute Girl" or "Future Heartbreaker" kind of stuff).
MIL wanted to take DD to see Frozen but I said no to that and felt horrible about saying no.
Now is asking about abcmouse.com, which is a site that doesn't actually look that bad, but opens this whole thing of dd's internet use, when will she get to use the internet, for how long, supervision issues, on what device issues, etc. etc.
So. It now seems like I'm a complete luddite and overbearing. I recognize that none of the things MIL does with DD are all that bad, but I just get tired of feeling like I'm the one always saying no to stuff. DH is not so much help on all this. He tends to want to please his mom to keep her happy.
Your similar stories would be appreciated, and/or if you feel like giving me the high-class problems smackdown, I guess I can handle that.