I totally understand the changes and of course the come with behaviors, but I feel it's getting excessive as it seems that any moment not spend one on one engaged in a fun activity ends up in a outburst. My DH and I are just at he end of our rope and just don't know what to do. I can be very understanding and patience, but enough is enough, I'm tip toeing trough my day, being creative, always trying to be one step ahead to avoid a meld down. I'm just plain exhausted!
It will start with getting dressed in the morning, he now has clothing issues and yes I tried to be understanding and bought him clothing that he likes the feel off, try making it fun by having races or pretending to do a clothing change magic tricks, helping him, but in the end it still takes at least 20min and then I still have to get his baby ready. Any meal is very messy and usually ends with him running away from the table waiting to be chased which I never do and him the wiping his dirty hands and mouth on my couch instead of the washcloth waiting for I'm in the kitchen. Getting dressed in snowsuit for the school bus or in the weekend outside play ( in hope to burn of some engery) takes at least 20 min with no matter how many times I tell him if he tells me with calm word if he needs help with tugging in pants or anything I will always help in, but no it end with him in tears, yelling and just loosing it of course by now I start loosing it too! And so the day goes on, he will knock over his baby, yell at her, just without any reason throwing toys, yelling, shooting me ( this is new since school, I think he still doesn't know the word gun) stomping on the stairs, slamming doors ( we live in an attached house so I feel super embarrassed to our neighbors. I do make lots of time for him to be one on one, doing things he chooses to do, try and evolve him into my jobs, but I just can't do it 24/7 as I have another little one that needs my attention.
In the last little why is anxiety also sky rocketed, being afraid of loud noises, darkness, that there is a supply teacher, etc.
I feel like I do the best I can always havin had predictable routines, try to have plenty of active and down activities, but I just feel lost right now. I used to cherish my smart creative, sensitive boy, now I need to look really hard to see some of those great qualities.
Sorry I turned out such a long note, I just don't know where else to tell my story.