My dh often complains that we do too much for our children. I was wondering how others balance kid wants/needs versus adult wants/needs?
On the one hand, I don't think we do too much with/for our children. We homeschool, which is a financial sacrifice I suppose. And I try to let them participate in activities. So, for example, we made gingerbread houses at the local library, attended a homeschool co-op christmas party, visited santa at the local toy store, etc... But I enjoy doing those types of things with the children.
On the other hand, I rarely get time to myself except when I go to work. (My dh is the one who homeschool teaches, I work full time). We don't have family nearby and we can't afford sitters except on rare occasions. So we don't get a break from them very often. I do, though, often send my husband out for the evening so that he gets a break from them (or I take them out so he has a quiet house for awhile).
How much is too much kid focus? I waited a long time to have children (we were married for 15+ years before my ds came along). So maybe I am just okay with having the house be kid focused. We are raising children after all and I know they will grow up really fast. But my dh complains about it frequently. (It was his idea to homeschool by the way.)
I do have friends who meet up and go to yoga together and things like that, which I rarely do. Mostly b/c my dh has had the kids all day by the time I get home and it doesn't feel fair to not give him a break.
How do you find balance in your family?