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Pregnant after a loss

post #1 of 50
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Hi everyone,

 

I am pregnant with baby #3 after my second miscarriage in August.  I am almost 5 weeks and I took the test on Sunday.  With every other miscarriage, It happened within 3-5 days of taking the test.  I am trying not to be too neurotic and paranoid with this one!  I am praying that this is meant to be and sending myself positive, protective vibes!  Congrats to all the other mamas to be.  My EDD is August 30.  How about everyone else?

 

Maiesha

post #2 of 50

Hi Maiesha! My EDD is about Aug 20, and my actual birthday is Aug 30! :) 

 

Sending good vibes your way for a healthy, easy pregnancy and birth!  dust.gif

 

Look forward to talking more with you!

 

Adrianne

post #3 of 50
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My birthday is August 16!
post #4 of 50
Aloha! I have one toddler and in trying to have a second baby had 2 losses this year, one at 6 weeks and one at 8 weeks but not discovered until 10 weeks. This is my 3rd pregnancy for 2013 and I am praying all is well! Being pregnant after losses is a very unnerving experience and I feel for you! Here's hoping we'll both get our rainbow babies. Fingers crossed. smile.gif and CONGRATULATIONS! !

My due date is Aug 16th and I am 6.5 weeks along, a nervous wreck most days to be honest! But trying to just surrender into the mystery and wisdom of my body.
post #5 of 50

6th time's the charm?  I'm currently pregnant for the 6th time with my husband and it will be our first child together.  I do have a 13 yo from a previous relationship.  I keep hoping and praying and pleading and so on and so forth that this is it.  I don't know if I have it in my to try again if this doesn't work out.  It's been 3 years since our last pregnancy.  Due date is one day different from that time.  This time I'm working with an OB/GYN, taking progesterone, getting blood draws and to get pregnant this time I took Clomid.  

 

I'm sorry any of us have the need for a "pregnancy after a loss" thread but I'm so glad I have others who get it.  Know you all have my thoughts and prayers that this is your "it" also. <3

post #6 of 50
Thread Starter 
Ladies, it is so comforting to share these fears, struggles, etc. with others who understand. Othersoul, it is so unnerving to deal with pregnancy after loss. I have experienced this between each of my children. Praying that we all get our rainbow babies. Love to all of you mamas out there that this August will be filled with beautiful babes!
post #7 of 50
Hi All- I had a m/c in August and now am 7 weeks- this is my 6th pregnancy, but I only have 2 kids. I am hopeful because I feel sicker than I ever had before but I kinda expect to see blood every time I go to the bathroom.

Actually I'm due the day before my mc started.

Just want to fast forward to Feb, when hopefully all my first trimester screening comes out okay and I no longer feel nauseated.

For now, I'm telling no one except DH- I don't really feel their knowing would help if things do go wrong, and once people know all their asking about the pg is just annoying.
post #8 of 50
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Originally Posted by taichimom View Post

Hi All- I had a m/c in August and now am 7 weeks- this is my 6th pregnancy, but I only have 2 kids. I am hopeful because I feel sicker than I ever had before but I kinda expect to see blood every time I go to the bathroom.

Actually I'm due the day before my mc started.

Just want to fast forward to Feb, when hopefully all my first trimester screening comes out okay and I no longer feel nauseated.

For now, I'm telling no one except DH- I don't really feel their knowing would help if things do go wrong, and once people know all their asking about the pg is just annoying.

 

Yes, I also expect to see blood, I neurotically check the toilet paper every time!  

 

I also find it impossible to be excited about the pregnancy just yet.  I am sure I have PTSD from my first MC in February that was actually a missed miscarriage.   So I spend a lot of time worrying and knowing that I shouldn't worry.  I'm doing a lot of inner work and therapy to release my fear of being pregnant again but it's not easy, that's for sure!  I should start doing some yoga too.  

 

I just can't wait until I can actually feel excited about having a baby.  That's what I hate most about having losses, it just robs you of any immediate excitement in subsequent pregnancies.  You basically just feel like you have to go, "well, I'll wait and see what happens..."  

 

Don't get me wrong, I am OVERJOYED to be pregnant again, to have another shot at this.  I just also feel very cautious and disconnected from it at the same time.  

 

Right now I am in a positive state of mind so I FEEL like all systems are go and that I'm gonna have a baby in August!  But I spent the past two days in a rut of being convinced I'd already lost the pregnancy, even though I have no logical reason for thinking that.  I think it was just my anxiety getting the best of me though.  I am really striving to stay focused on the positive and have trust in my body and in nature!!  I want to believe "It's happening" and most of the time, I do.  

post #9 of 50
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I am with you both. I am extremely nervous when I go the bathroom and I have to check the paper. If I feel a twinge of anything I have to run to the bathroom and check. It's so annoying but it is definitely the after effects of experiencing losses. My husband's cousin is due with their third in August too and they have already told everyone. My first thought was "They've obviously never had a loss" lol. Grrr...so frustrating but I am trying to stay positive and sending good pregnancy vibes to all of us!
post #10 of 50
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Well, I jumped in with both feet and started prenatal exercises today.  I did some YouTube yoga/fitness videos.  I have about 5 prenatal exercise videos, two of which are still in plastic because I ordered them in August just before my miscarriage.  I can't bring myself to open them just yet and don't even get me started on maternity wear! But, this is a positive step towards positivity for me!

post #11 of 50
I'm right there with you. His time last year I lost my my 5th pregnancy at 15 weeks. The baby had stopped growing about a week and a half earlir. I will be eagerly anticipating my 16 week checkup. I also check the tp every time which is silly because I've had spotting with every pregnancy.
post #12 of 50

Hi Ladies! I decided to check out the website after a few months of not being on here. I had a miscarriage in August too (@ Taichimom Congratulations! Good to see you on here) at 12 weeks and just got a positive pregnancy test a week ago. So I am in the same boat as all of you, excited, but trying not to be too excited. I am trying not to get attached yet. Also I don't really feel pregnant, so I think that is helping with my disconnect. I think I will be due around August 31st? I am planning on getting an early ultrasound this time around. I do feel I am in a better state of mind - less stress and lots of yoga, so hopefully my body will go with the pregnant flow! Good luck and positive vibes to everyone! 

post #13 of 50
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I am with you both. I am extremely nervous when I go the bathroom and I have to check the paper. If I feel a twinge of anything I have to run to the bathroom and check. It's so annoying but it is definitely the after effects of experiencing losses. My husband's cousin is due with their third in August too and they have already told everyone. My first thought was "They've obviously never had a loss" lol. Grrr...so frustrating but I am trying to stay positive and sending good pregnancy vibes to all of us!

 

I've had a similar thought when I hear of people telling really early.  I told with my son (my first pregnancy) when I was 5 weeks along!!  I was so naive then though (hadn't had any losses yet).

post #14 of 50

This is baby #8 (7w+3d due Aug. 12) and I have three daughters here on Earth. I often think the same thing when I hear birth announcements that immediately follow a positive pregnancy test, and then they post a 5wk ultrasound pic..... they don't know, and I pray they stay naive. I don't want them to fear, but at the same time I worry about how hard the fall might be if the unexpected happens so I want to warn them. But I don't. Cause why should they not enjoy this innocence as I once did <3 ? 

 

Also when mommas say, "Baby knows when to be born! The womb is the safest place!" and all that. :duck I know, prolly a controversial thing to say. But my nephew died inutero from cord entanglement, a friend of mine lost her daughter to placental failure, and a Sister lost her daughter during birth. All these losses after 38wks. So for me the whole pregnancy is fraught with danger! Baby is safest in my arms now, when before I'd have been first to argue the absolute safety and security of the womb :( Loss changes things. I'll be praying hard every step of the way for this little one. I haven't been to the OB yet, so I haven't seen him/her, so things are still unreal right now. I also check the TP every time!

 

I just trust the Lord that He has a plan for every one of us, even if that plan is only 7wks long. He gives, and He takes away, blessed be the name of the Lord. That's all I can do. Praying for healthy blessings for all of us :) :1praying :grouphug

post #15 of 50
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Originally Posted by atmommy View Post
 

Well, I jumped in with both feet and started prenatal exercises today.  I did some YouTube yoga/fitness videos.  I have about 5 prenatal exercise videos, two of which are still in plastic because I ordered them in August just before my miscarriage.  I can't bring myself to open them just yet and don't even get me started on maternity wear! But, this is a positive step towards positivity for me

That sounds great.  I got a pregnant bellydancing CD (apparently bellydancing is good for labor) and I can't wait to try it out.  

 

I gave all my maternity clothes to another mama at some point...

post #16 of 50

This is m 5th pregnancy and will be 2nd child. I had 2 losses before my daughter and one before this pregnancy. I am 7 week tomorrow, most of my losses were pretty early, so my fingers are crossed. I have never gotten to experience pregnancy without fear and being nervous of loss, so I don't know that naivete that others had. I am trying so hard to just be here in the present and celebrate the life that was created even if it doesn't stick or last as long as I'd hope. I think that telling the people that are closest to me and others who have had a loss is comforting to me and that I can also share with them all if I have a miscarriage, it helps me get through. :) Just try to stay positive and not stress out, that's the best!

Fingers crossed for all of you! Also, my birthday is August 30th as well!!!It's a good day!

post #17 of 50
Have any of you mamas read the book, Spirit Babies? It's amazing and I truly believe that this pregnancy is because of the communication I was able to have with my spirit baby before conception. I highly, highly recommend it! It brings such a sense of peace to a loss but proactive-ness to becoming pregnant and sustaining a pregnancy.
post #18 of 50
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Have any of you mamas read the book, Spirit Babies? It's amazing and I truly believe that this pregnancy is because of the communication I was able to have with my spirit baby before conception. I highly, highly recommend it! It brings such a sense of peace to a loss but proactive-ness to becoming pregnant and sustaining a pregnancy.


Haven't read the book, but it sounds great! Just thought I'd share this story, at the risk of sounding like a nut-job - LOL  I had a very strange but beautiful moment about a year ago, when DD was not quite 2...I suddenly realized I had dreamed of her face, her curly blonde hair, while pregnant with my first loss. Huge waves of grief, then relief washed over me as I realized she had come back to me at long last. My second lost pregnancy felt just like my DS1...even down to the name I had in mind.  So I think it's entirely possible that our babies' spirits just decide to come back at a better time, which gives me great hope and solace. :)

post #19 of 50
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I'm loving all of the wonderful posts in this thread.  

 

Unfortunately, my body failed the TP test today :(.  It is not a heavy flow or anything like that.  But naturally, I fear the worst.  It is so hard when you've gone through this times before to think "oh maybe it's just normal spotting".  I'm trying really hard to stay positive and think maybe a certain exercise I did caused some spotting, etc.  I guess at this point it is just wait and see and pray for the best.  Like many of you, I am trying not to get too connected just in case.  However, it doesn't make it any easier (at least not in my opinion).  I even remember making a similar post before the last miscarriage.  Ugh...

post #20 of 50
Aw Atmommy! I'm sorry you have this additional worry now. Praying for you! Spotting can be normal and DOES NOT mean miscarriage in and of Ittself. It very well could have been the exercise. Also could be implantation blood.
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