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post #41 of 50
Feeling a little unnerved. Can't tell if my symptoms are lessening or I'm just so used to everything it's become my new normal.

How is everyone else doing?
post #42 of 50
I'm doing okay, except for feeling like crap most of the time now!

Johanna I think it's quite normal for symptoms to fluctuate. I periodically have days when I'm not as yucky feeling. Now at 8.2 weeks I feel pretty bad more consistently. Nausea almost all the time whereas before it would come and go.
post #43 of 50
Sorry you're feeling crappy but glad everything is right on course.

I felt better after sorting my anxiousness to some friends. One mentioned with her (7) pregnancies she often would have symptoms wax and wane. She suggested it could be just my body getting used to the hormone shift and just wait.. because I'd get more hormones soon enough and would likely feel blissfully awful soon enough.

Funny the things that make you feel better. wink1.gif

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Of course I jinxed myself. redface.gif

My husband said he'd go to the store for me. Craving bacon and asparagus again. He is used to the non-pregnant me who can say "I need to eat" then wait 3-4 hours. Well, I waited too long and ended up heaving a couple times in the bathroom. I didn't actually throw up.. I'm not much of a barfer. But this is a pretty big thing for me. So, yeah. I kept thinking "if I barf my vitamins should I take more?" The things that cross your mind.

Sometimes we get what we wish for, yes?
Edited by Johanna - 1/6/14 at 2:40pm
post #44 of 50
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Well ladies, started bleeding yesterday.  It was just when I wiped but nothing on my liner so I thought, just maybe...  Well this morning, was heavier and it was dripping (sorry if TMI) so it's not looking good.  I actually feel different, as if I'm not pregnant.  Really sad and frustrated.  I just don't know if I want to try again right away.  Two losses in a row has really taken its toll on me.  I think I have to take a break and focus on getting myself where I want to be physically and mentally and then maybe try again over the summer?  Ugh...what a way to bring in the new year!

On another note, I am praying that 2014 is filled with healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies smile.gif

I'm so sorry mama.

I wish my body would decide what it's going to do either way. Still spotting, sometimes a lot and cramping. A 6w1d u/s looked good with flutter but things just continue to get worse, better, even worse, better, worse. I don't feel like I can really be part of things here because it doesn't seem good but never actually goes either way.
post #45 of 50
I'm very sorry, ladies :/

Willsmomm. I hope you get some resolution. Have you tried crampbark? If it's more of an angry uterus than something amiss with the sprout perhaps it could help. <3
post #46 of 50
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Well ladies, started bleeding yesterday.  It was just when I wiped but nothing on my liner so I thought, just maybe...  Well this morning, was heavier and it was dripping (sorry if TMI) so it's not looking good.  I actually feel different, as if I'm not pregnant.  Really sad and frustrated.  I just don't know if I want to try again right away.  Two losses in a row has really taken its toll on me.  I think I have to take a break and focus on getting myself where I want to be physically and mentally and then maybe try again over the summer?  Ugh...what a way to bring in the new year!

 

On another note, I am praying that 2014 is filled with healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies :)


Oh no, I'm SO sorry! :(  Praying for your healing and recovery. I know how tough it is - give yourself permission to grieve, and heal.

 

Just a thought - have you tried acupuncture and/or Chinese herbs? A good friend of mine is an acupuncturist, and she treats conditions according to the underlying emotional disruptions...many times, a deep-seated fear or trauma can be the root cause of infertility and MC problems. She was told herself by fertility doctors while TTC her first that there was NO chance she'd even ovulate...they told her the only way she could have a baby would be a surrogate or egg donor. (She was so upset, I'd have even considered donating an egg myself!)  But after 4 months of acupuncture and herbs, she got over the fear of not being able to conceive, and the trauma from the rape she survived as a teenager.  She conceived with no problem and now has 2 healthy boys.

 

Anyway not sure if something similar is the case with you, darling, but perhaps this type of treatment could help you too! I wish you health and happiness, and hope you feel ready to try again soon.

post #47 of 50
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Thank you so much! I actually reached out to my doula for my second birth for reading material and she actually mentioned acupuncture as well. I may look into it. As much as I want another child, I definitely have fears and doubts about my body's ability. This is part of the reason I want to take a break. Thanks for the suggestion!
post #48 of 50
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Thank you so much! I actually reached out to my doula for my second birth for reading material and she actually mentioned acupuncture as well. I may look into it. As much as I want another child, I definitely have fears and doubts about my body's ability. This is part of the reason I want to take a break. Thanks for the suggestion!


Sure!! :) I know first-hand how life-changing it can be...acupuncture can open you up and clear things out that you had no idea were lurking in there! Clearing fears, grief, anxiety, etc is a huge step toward getting you in the right frame of mind & body.  Definitely something to try while you are taking a break, it can only help in so many ways. :Hug 

 

PS - make sure you find a practitioner you are comfortable explaining all this to! (Preferably female, no offense to male practitioners, but they can never understand quite as empathetically.)  Most are really in tune, just ask some questions to see how tuned in they are to your concerns.

post #49 of 50
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Well ladies, started bleeding yesterday.  It was just when I wiped but nothing on my liner so I thought, just maybe...  Well this morning, was heavier and it was dripping (sorry if TMI) so it's not looking good.  I actually feel different, as if I'm not pregnant.  Really sad and frustrated.  I just don't know if I want to try again right away.  Two losses in a row has really taken its toll on me.  I think I have to take a break and focus on getting myself where I want to be physically and mentally and then maybe try again over the summer?  Ugh...what a way to bring in the new year!

On another note, I am praying that 2014 is filled with healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies smile.gif

 

 

I'm so sorry :Hug guilty.gif 

post #50 of 50
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Originally Posted by atmommy View Post

Thank you so much! I actually reached out to my doula for my second birth for reading material and she actually mentioned acupuncture as well. I may look into it. As much as I want another child, I definitely have fears and doubts about my body's ability. This is part of the reason I want to take a break. Thanks for the suggestion!

I'm so sorry for your loss. Reading and taking a break can both be great strategies for mourning your loss. It certainly helped me during my grief. Again, sending you love+light.


I just joined the group. I'm also experiencing pregnancy after loss (last August, 20 wks). I'm surprised to see there are so many of us. One one hand, I feel happy because I think I really need to know that I'm not alone, but on the other hand, I feel sad, because losing a baby is such a hard thing to "get over", to cope with (This was not well written, excuse me, I'm French-Canadian).

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