I just lined up a birth photographer. Since this is my last birth, and birth is so special to me, I really want more photos to remember the experience by. She's technically not a birth photographer, but she's a good friend who takes awesome photos (candids especially), has had a home birth (so she gets it), and is doing it for free. The birth photographer I really wanted upped her rate to $600. Ouch!
But here's the kicker. My dh really liked my labor last time when it was just the two of us until my midwife arrived 5 minutes before my dd was born. Although I loved that birth, I want something different this time. Something more sisterly I think, and even though I'm a bit nervous right now about having a bunch of people there, I genuinely want a few special people present. I haven't invited a few of these people yet, and the people I have invited with the exception of the three midwives have been invited with a chicken-out clause.
The people on my list are:
friend who is a doula in training
friend to take photos
my mom (but she lives two hours away and can't drive at night)
another friend who expressed interest (she's still a maybe)
Is that too many people? My last labor was only 4 hours, so I don't imagine it'll be a long labor. I know each person at a birth is supposed to slow down labor by an hour, but that's really the only reason I'm hesitant. I figure if I'm having a hard time or feeling like I'm being watched, I can kick people out of the house. All of these people would understand that kind of thing. My dh was great last time, but for the most part he was filling the tub, keeping it warm, and doing that kind of thing. How much say does he really get when it comes to the people present. I fully understand this is a special event for him too, but I'm the one doing the real work!