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How are things with your care provider?

post #1 of 30
Thread Starter 
How often do you see a care provider? Do you like her (or him)? What are your appointments like? Any issues you see popping up?
post #2 of 30
I strongly dislike my care provider but don't really have any better options. He never looks at me and clearly considers me the enemy because i've had home births in the past. I see him once a month still.

Yeah he's trying to fear monger me into a c section because I have long late labors. Grrrrrr
post #3 of 30

Not as great as last time.  They seem to be really busy at the birth center and have dropped the ball a couple of times and still have me on every 4-5 weeks appts (I'm over 30 weeks now).  My DH noted that I have had more ultrasounds than midwife appts.  Regardless, I like the midwives and I loved my birth center birth and I can't complain about not having to drive 45 min each way to appts and blowing a whole morning of homeschool.  That is coming soon enough…  They always spend as much time with me as I need, and answer any questions I have (not many).  

 

I was in a car accident on the 23rd, and they had me go over to the hospital to be monitored for a "couple" (=5) hours to make sure everything was okay.  It was a midwife I have known for 7 years, and she was really nice about everything.

 

My only concern is with how busy they are, I am afraid the BC might be full when I go into labor! :)  At my last appt. the mw told me that they have started turning people away to limit their numbers because they realized they had gotten too busy and care was suffering…  

 

I have my DH and a doula so I'm not too worried about the actual birth… (perhaps I should be?)

post #4 of 30

I like mine. It's very low key. She comes to my house, is generally late and stays kind of forever. We've been friends for years, so that's expected.
I like her because she doesn't sweat the small stuff but is very evidenced based so I absolutely trust when she tells me I really out to do something.

She's also starting to try group appointments (it's helpful as she's gone on her second trip this winter - the first to a wilderness survival class which she adored, and then she left today for Honduras). I really like them as I meat other people with similar ideas as me going through the same things as me. The first was was a bit last minute so the only people that came were the four of us due in March. Very cool to me!

The problems might come with lateness, I guess. Or if there's bad weather when the baby wants out because she lives a bit far away and we don't deal well with snow here.


Gizzyntaz -  Do they do prenatals in the same building as the births? I do know that some midwives will do paperwork and some other-people care during someone's labor if they're not needed in the room at the time and especially if you have a partner and a doula. But I totally wouldn't worry that they'll be there when you need it.

post #5 of 30


Gizzyntaz -  Do they do prenatals in the same building as the births? I do know that some midwives will do paperwork and some other-people care during someone's labor if they're not needed in the room at the time and especially if you have a partner and a doula. But I totally wouldn't worry that they'll be there when you need it.

Oh yes!  When I had DS2, they only came in sporadically to check me and baby, because they were downstairs handling their appts.  That didn't bother me at all.  Because I was laboring through a weekday, all of the midwives visited me that day to say "hi" and offer support.  I didn't really need the midwives until the end.  This time there are a lot more midwives on staff, but I would expect things to be the same if I labor during a weekday again.

post #6 of 30
I am actually changing from the huge practice I delivered my last three with, they have at least 10 OBs to a one man show! I've been feeling uneasy like I'm being disregarded and predetermined for a csection because of my weight. ( though I've been plus sized since I gained 70 lbs with my first). The practice I'm switching to comes with recs from a trusted local crunchy doula/herbalist and a few other crunchy mamas
post #7 of 30
Thread Starter 
Wow, such a great atmosphere here. I'm glad I found this board!

So I have a midwife who runs out of a clinic of five midwives. I love my primary. My secondary I've met once and I'm concerned because she has a very strong accent. It's not an issue except I am worried about a language barrier. I just am worried that I will be in labor, she will say something, and I'll have t keep asking her to repeat herself. I know it's a fairly small concern so hopefully after a couple actual appointments with her, we will both Understand each other well enough that this is not an issue.

On the seventh I have my last four week appointment and move on to bi weekly appointments! I usually have a full hour and get to,ask any and all questions. I feel comfy at the clinic and I like the environment.

I will be delivering at the hospital but labouring at home. I have so much anxiety about actually going into the hospital... But I live in a really remote area. If I had a home birth and needed to transfer, it wouldn't be easy to arrange and even my midwife said she is not comfortable with that. I'm sure even the words "lets go to the hospital now" will send me into panic attacks. Sigh.

I am going to be hiring a doula, so hopefully between the midwife, the doula, my support person and my DH, I'll be able to beat my anxiety and have a successful birth. I just hope the anxiety doesn't interfere with the birth process!
post #8 of 30
I'm seeing an OB practice just for free (covered by insurance) care. Is really awful. At best, entertaining. I am getting to the point where I have refused enough "routine" tests that they treat me as sort of oppositional. I may have to end our relationship soon.

This birth is a planned UC, so I don't need them.
post #9 of 30
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Originally Posted by abiyhayil View Post

I am actually changing from the huge practice I delivered my last three with, they have at least 10 OBs to a one man show! I've been feeling uneasy like I'm being disregarded and predetermined for a csection because of my weight. ( though I've been plus sized since I gained 70 lbs with my first). The practice I'm switching to comes with recs from a trusted local crunchy doula/herbalist and a few other crunchy mamas

 

http://wellroundedmama.blogspot.com/2010/12/fat-vagina-theory-soft-tissue-dystocia.html?m=1

 

Something I've just learned about! People are so weird. I'm glad you're switching.

post #10 of 30

I'm personally kind of surprised my OB practice hasn't said or done much about my BMI. I don't put any stock in BMI, but I know 'they' do, and I know mine puts me in the overweight category. But hey, I'm a tall, strong, broad shouldered and well-endowed woman, and I'm never going to fit in that 128-162 lb range they think is ideal. Back when I did, I was unhealthfully thin and lived on cigarettes, red wine, and pastries. 

 

I was bracing for some issues about this but other than one comment early on about how fast I was gaining in the pregnancy, they have said nothing about it. Of course, there is still time. 

 

My OB practice starts wanting to do internal exams at each visit beginning at 32 weeks-my next appointment. That will not be happening. No, not ever. 

post #11 of 30

I'm seeing two care providers and am starting to regret it :(  I see a private midwife who will deliver the baby at home as long as all is well.  But I also see a "regular" gynecologist who does all my lab work, ultrasounds, etc. I decided to see both because I thought is was more responsible, and I wanted to make sure I was being as safe as possible.  But, I'm started to regret it. My gynecologist wants me to do more ultrasounds than I want, but I feel guilty/irresponsible not following her recommendations.  At the same time my midwife has many preventative measures that the doctor feels are unnecessary.  I'm already 30 weeks along, so I feel like finding a different care provider is sort of pointless.  Is anyone else in the same boat?  How do you deal with all the conflicting opinions?

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post #13 of 30
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Originally Posted by FarmWife84
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I will be delivering at the hospital but labouring at home. I have so much anxiety about actually going into the hospital... But I live in a really remote area. If I had a home birth and needed to transfer, it wouldn't be easy to arrange and even my midwife said she is not comfortable with that. I'm sure even the words "lets go to the hospital now" will send me into panic attacks. Sigh.

I am going to be hiring a doula, so hopefully between the midwife, the doula, my support person and my DH, I'll be able to beat my anxiety and have a successful birth. I just hope the anxiety doesn't interfere with the birth process!"

will the midwife be helping you deliver in the hospital?


Edited by GBass - 12/30/13 at 11:40am
post #14 of 30
We're planning a UC, and won't be at the hospital unless we need medical care.

Edited to add- Oh I get it now, you didn't mean to quote me. I was confused for a bit!
Edited by tabitha - 12/30/13 at 2:13pm
post #15 of 30
Tabitha is this your first UC?
GBass, it must be hard having two different providers, are you being treated as high risk?
Beckily, thanks for the link! It was informative and then I couldnt stop scrolling through the My OB Said What?! Comments orngtongue.gif
post #16 of 30
  • abiyhayil- No, it will be our third. I have the OB practice for prenatal care just to make sure everything is good for a homebirth. 
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​GBass- I don't have two providers but I know it is hard to have a provider that treats you that way. Even though this is my fifth baby and I feel confident about UC, the way the OB practice treats me can feel kind of contagious sometimes. LIke, they get me thinking about risks and what could happen and I wonder if I am making the right choices. For this reason, I may discontinue care in the last weeks. I tend to feel very vulnerable at the end and try to seclude myself from negative input. 

 

post #17 of 30
I am 29 weeks. I have my last every two weeks appt tomorrow. Switching to once a week appointments makes me feel like I need to get stuff together. Have not done much at this point. I like my ob. I spent a lot of time letting go of the home birth I wanted and switching my mindset towards a csection. No there yet, but my doc is increasingly supportive of the possibility of a vaginal delivery. She told me last time that I can do an undosed epidural....which makes me happy bc it keeps me in the arena for the kind of birth I want, but eliminates the possibility of being put completely under for a csection. I have never had one of my babies put in my arms at birth. She told me last time that she would make sure that did not happen again. Overall, she is really listening to me.
post #18 of 30
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Originally Posted by GBass View Post

will the midwife be helping you deliver in the hospital?

Yes, she will travel with us to to the hospital and she has privileges there. Once we get to the hospital, the secondary midwife meets us there. However, if the secondary midwife can't be there, I will have an L&D nurse with me and if that happens, I will not be allowed to water birth. I guess this is the scenario that drives my anxiety up the most. I've seen the L&D nurses in action and they are terrifying-- bedside manner like drill sargeants! The ones I've seen arent exactly into the process of giving birth.

Maybe only the kind, concerned ones will be present when I go in! I can't get wrapped up in my fears.
post #19 of 30
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Originally Posted by FarmWife84 View Post


Yes, she will travel with us to to the hospital and she has privileges there. Once we get to the hospital, the secondary midwife meets us there. However, if the secondary midwife can't be there, I will have an L&D nurse with me and if that happens, I will not be allowed to water birth. I guess this is the scenario that drives my anxiety up the most. I've seen the L&D nurses in action and they are terrifying-- bedside manner like drill sargeants! The ones I've seen arent exactly into the process of giving birth.

Maybe only the kind, concerned ones will be present when I go in! I can't get wrapped up in my fears.


I understand your anxiety about "worst case scenario", I'm sending positive thoughts your way that all will work our for the best. In my previous births my worst fear was that I'd wind up in the hospital (i was planning home births) and you never know who's going to be on call there and deliver you, so it's such a gamble.  I birthed my first at home, but my second birth did end up in the hospital.  In the end, I had the best of luck!  I had a wonderful midwife who was very hands off.  She only had me on the monitor briefly in the beginning, let me have a very active birth and in the end actually let me catch the baby!  That had been my "plan" for the home birth and she totally went along with it.  So, just hope for the best, it really can happen!

post #20 of 30
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Originally Posted by abiyhayil View Post

GBass, it must be hard having two different providers, are you being treated as high risk?
 

abiyhayil,so most of my confusion lies in that my private midwife (who will deliver me at home if all is well) is treating me as high risk while my obgyn is not.  I delivered my last baby early at 35 wks and i had bleeding and cramping twice during my first trimester of this current pregnancy.  Thankfully all is good now and everything is normal :) however, my midwife believes prevention is the best medicine (which I usually also agree with) and so she is giving me precautions to prevent another preterm labor.  On the other hand, my obgyn has not classified my pregnancy as high risk and is not so cautious and doesn't see the need in taking any preventative measures.  I think it lies in that in the medical world they feel they have the solution to fix the problem if anything goes wrong.  Basically she said just to be aware of contractions and if I start regular early contractions just to go get hooked up to a monitor. (which i believe would ultimately lead to either being on hospital bedrest for the duration of the pregnancy or another early labor and experience in the NICU, which i'd obviously like to avoid).

 

So, I generally agree more with my midwife's perspective and model of care, but her precautions for preventing an early labor do have drawbacks.  She wants to put me on a month of bedrest starting on the 34th week.  That won't be easy and I'm afraid it will have a negative impact on me physically and emotionally.  I know i will just get weaker, stiff, and sore and possibly depressed being stuck on bedrest for that long.  It's not easy on my family either, I have two kids and a house to take care of and my husband works for himself so no one can give him any sort of paid time off.  And the whole time I'll be thinking "is this really necessary" because of the relaxed attitude of my obgyn.

 

so, those are my frustrations!  I guess I've really needed to share all that, sorry for hijacking this thread ladies! I'd be happy to get any feedback from any of you on here. 

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