how do you guys cope with non-understanding relatives? My mom and her husband (they are married for 15 years now) are here to visit, and this guy is just awful with the kids. He is in general a quite loud and sometimes frightening guy, without actually meaning to (he works at constructions and maybe that is the way of communicating there ?!)
He cannot spend two minutes with the kids without reprimanding them, like stop fidgeting, stop shouting, be quiet, stop using your fingers, do this and don't do that, and his whole attitude shouts out: These are awful kids.
He actually says things like: We had real candles on our tree and no one would touch them. Your kids are really undisciplined.
I really don't want to have this people around me anymore, I am tired of telling them that they are diagnosed with ADHD and sensory processing disorder, and that it's not helpful if they get to hear that they are not good enough all.the.time.
And if I say something he tells me: You don't have to tell me anything! - Sitting in my living room, eating our food and stuff.
How do you cope with such relatives? How do you protect your kids? Or do you think they don't need protection and I am overprotective and should let it go? (I am extra sensitive at the moment due to the pregnancy and the problems around it)
thank you all!