I have an older brother and we grew up in a really good happy family. We really didn't have any big problems and we have wonderful parents. 8 years ago or so my brother met a girl online on the other side of the country and decided she was the one for him. He moved there and got married and basically his relationship with me and my parents deteriorated to the point that he stopped talking to us several years ago and refused to respond to emails, or phone calls. Nothing really happened to cause this. His wife was always a little weird, and we couldn't quite figure out what it was about her. She would very easily get offended by little things my mom said to her. They have 2 kids and my mom is a wonderful grandmother. She buys them gifts all the time and even still mails them gifts at each birthday and holiday, even though they refuse to speak to us... for absolutely no reason. Everything she did offended his wife. His wife would imagine these things that my mom said or did that just absolutely did not happen. It got to the point where we thought this women he married was insane or a psychopath.
My parents have tried to communicate with them for years and have never gotten a reply so they decided to take a cross country trip to see them and try to reconcile. They knocked on their door and my brother refused to open the door and instead called the police. The policeman was reasonable enough to actually try to ask my brother to just come out and talk to them, that's all they wanted. They just wanted to see their son and tell him they love him and miss him. But, he refused and told them to leave and that he would never talk to them.
Why does this happen? Has my brother been brainwashed by this women? He was always an intelligent, nice person, wonderful son and brother, but he has turned into an asshole. Who treats their parents like this? For absolutely no reason? There is no explanation that he has ever given of why he has become this person. We only see that his wife has been sorta delusional and perhaps created this image of us that isn't true and he believes it. How can someone be so feeble minded? Has anyone had this happen in their family and is there any hope of a change or should we just forget about him and pretend he is dead, since he basically is dead to us?