Vc, I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.
And the friend thing sounds like a bunch of stress you didn't need. Glad y'all made up.
I have to vent about my DP. He is a wonderful father and partner, but sometimes he can be so insensitive. I'm still a little irritated about something that happened yesterday, but it's not a big enough deal to rehash and argue with him about it, so maybe just writing it down will make me feel better.
Yesterday we went to a three year old's birthday party. This is the child of one of DP's best friends, and an occasional playmate of DS's. The parents are more DP's friends than mine, though we do get together as families now and then, but of course when the child has a party all of the present buying, RSVPing, and so on is up to me. I didn't even know DP was coming until last minute, because the party was about an hour from our house and DP was working that afternoon, so getting the boys ready was my job, too.
As soon as we arrived, DP started complaining that he was so tired because he'd worked late the night before, and he became obsessed with getting coffee. One of the dads at the party said there was a coffee shop not far from there (party was held at a kids' playhouse in a commercial area), and DP announced to me that he would be back in a few.
Right as he was leaving, all the kids were putting on jackets and line up to go to a tumble room in an adjacent location. Dude ditched me with a distracted toddler and a crying baby and a task to do. I then realized that the reason I couldn't get DS to come with me and follow the kids was that he'd pooped in his training pants, and I called DP to catch him before he'd gone far so he could come help me.
I should mention that the WHOLE time I'd been super nice and upbeat, and that I wasn't irritable or grouchy with DP on the phone, either. So the thing that bothered me was HOW RUDE he was about me asking him to abort his little coffee mission. He was snappy and mean about it and made a big point of showing me how much I'd put him out. And that right there just drives me crazy. Where does he get off feeling entitled to go off alone for purely selfish reasons anyway? If I got a chance to do that I'd be so grateful. He just takes it for granted and assumes that I've got everything kid-related under control. Because I do- but it isn't easy and I'd like some damn gratitude and not to be growled at when I ask for help.
There. That helped. I feel better. Thanks for listening.