January 2014 chat thread - Page 3
I really wish it was safe to keep DD in the sling while in the car. She'll be nice and snug and happy (and asleep!) in the sling while we're out, then I have to take her out to put her in the car seat which still usually results in a scream fest There's only been two times I've been able to put her in it without her screaming. But once she's in and calmed down she'll sleep in there for 2-3 hours. I swear we need to put her in there at night, not strapped in (she starts screaming when I put the straps on) since she won't sleep in her bassinet at all.
DP gave her a bottle for the first time today. She nursed and seemed finished but I was still really full (like spraying from one side!) so I pumped. Right after I was done pumping she wanted to nurse again but was getting really mad that I didn't have milk easily available so I had DP give her some of the milk I'd just pumped. She didn't take it at first, he had to squeeze the bottle nipple to drip some in her mouth for her to take it, but after that she had no problem with it. The look she had on her face the whole time though was hilarious. It was like she was surprised that daddy made food too. I don't want her to start taking a bottle on a regular basis but now I won't be worried about leaving her with DP when I take older DD to dance or swim lessons. Or maybe let him do the first night time feeding once in a while since he usually stays up til 1 or 2 am anyway. More sleep would be great!
It's my 5 year old DD's and my birthday today. Dh and I went out to dinner with the baby last night and they sat us in the middle of the room next to screaming toddlers. After five min of debating I asked for a new table but the only one was still by the screaming toddlers but at least was next to a wall. I just wanted a peaceful dinner out. Oh well. And for my birthday all I want is a clean house. Probably not going to happen. Lol.
DS gets screaming mad if I try to give him a pacifier, or put any sort of fake nipple in his mouth...that kid has no suck reflex at all, I swear. I have never seen anything like it. It doesn't really matter, but I had hoped that he would take the occasional bottle. Oh well!
My neighbor although sweet is kinda stressing me out. She keeps giving us things since baby came. $100 gift card, four packs of diapers, some baby clothes, toys for toddler, fruits and veggies,.and more. Ugh, nice of her but we can manage. Don't know why she's doing so much..
My dh was cranky today. He just can't understand why the babies
Cry so much. His solution to a hysterical cry, just put them in their crib, they will get over it. Um no, they get more frantic and out of control. He does not deal well with noise. I just wanted some help holding and loving on the babies and he just wanted to roll over and read. ugh!
my dh is WAY more nurturing and helpful this time around, Lilac - I really think men just don't know what they are doing, and get frustrated by how helpless they are in the face of needy, noisy infants. Super maddening that they tend to think in cry it out terms, but mine did at first, encouraged by "advice" from both our dads (blah! they have no idea, its not like they did it with their kids in the 70's.). For whatever reason that seems to be male intuition (let'em tough it out! HA). I don't know how many times I had to say look, even experts say don't do it this early…babies keep you awake, we will be massively under slept for a long time, period. Sorry, dads!
Went to have baby pictures taken. It was nice and sunny, but the roads out where the photographer lives were snow drifted. It was near white out conditions from the blowing snow. Babies did pretty good but we definitely didn't get as many pictures of all 4 of us as I had hoped since I kept having to breast feed one baby or the other to calm them down. My husband says it will be a cold day in hell before he goes back. He finds picture taking "invasive". SMH. I will go back without him earlier in the day some day soon since the photographer had other shots she wanted to get and is giving us baby pictures as a gift.
Our medical bills are trickling in. Up to $8200 out of pocket so far. Sigh. My midwives exceeded the "allowable rate" which we were not expecting so half of their fee wasn't even applied to the deductible.
Taryn, yikes! That sucks about your mw fee!!!
I am planning on starting mom and baby zumba this week. I'm very excited, I need to get out of the house and start exercising. Also, baby seems to be screaming less, so hopefully he is settling down. The last two days I've needed to take advil for a wicked headache...not sure if its from him crying so much or what, but not fun!
Both kids are sleeping. Alone! Trying to catch up with the chat...
Kali - hope the pain is completely over soon.
Lilac - getting used to the noise takes some time. And there are times I can't ever imagine getting used to. Like 2 days go DS screaming bloody murder for almost 3 hours straight. No kidding. Nothing helped, not even breastfeeding. Then today, DS fussing and crying because I put him down (I really want to pee all by myself thank you very much), at the same time DD wants to tell me (no, shout out) a story while pressing the button on some obnoxious noise-making toy car. And we forgot some children's music on in the background. My head was throbbing from all the noise and I ended up snapping at everyone.
Lida, mom and baby zumba sounds very interesting! Wonder if they have that here... I know it's too early but I've been a bit upset about the 20 lbs extra I'm carrying now. I've decided 3 days ago to do something about it so after reading "Sweet Poison" last week, I'm not eating any sugar (actually fructose is more accurate) for the next couple of months. I've been eating way too much müsli/cake/dried fruit. I'm also practicing some mild portion control but nothing major because I don't want to affect the milk supply. Mostly aiming to eat until I'm no longer hungry. Vain as it maybe, I really hope this helps me drop a few.