We are having a continued issue with my 2yo and our dog. She is very patient with him and we are glad about that but things are simply not fair to her. Right now they spend 98% of the time separated. It really isn't fair to the dog because that means she spends all of her time alone because obviously a 2yo needs to be supervised.
This has been going on for a while. As a baby we taught him to pet her gently etc and everything was great until he became a wild toddler. He jumps on her and tries to ride her, he pulls her tail, he hits her, he chases her down, he throws things at her, he bites her. You name it, he would do it to her. We try to give them a little time together when he is calm and he will pet her nice once and then immediately gets ramped up and tries to hit her. I explain to him that she doesn't like that and it hurts her and show him how she likes to be touched but it does no good. I tell him that if he can't be gentle with her she needs to go upstairs and he can't play with her anymore. So that is pretty much where she stays. Even when I need to bring him upstairs for bed etc as he passes her, he will hit her so I need to hold him back while she just passes by.
I want them to be able to be in the same room together, at least for part of the day. It is really upsetting for me because #1 I am a dog lover and she was my first baby. She is a very attached anxious dog and would spend her whole day curled up next to me if she could. #2 I am constantly yelling at HER to go upstairs so that he won't harass her. She can open every door in the house and can jump every gate and will do so over and over because understandably she wants to be in the same room as the family. And more importantly #3 I am really worried about my son's behavior and that he really seems to not be able to be in any control of his actions when she is around. HE sees her as his toy, a punching bag and I have no idea how that started and what makes that seem like it would be ok.
Any advice is welcomed. I feel like I have tried it all and must be missing something.