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post #81 of 495
I am going to test 1/5, it will be 23DPO...AF hasn't shown in almost 3 months, been having some different feelings/symptoms last few weeks, but have been nervous about testing after being disappointed last few times. Not sure if I'll see a BFP or AF, but I need to know.
post #82 of 495
Tested last night with a digital and bfn. Don't really see any reason to test again.
post #83 of 495

I guess it's time I started following along!  First month TTC #3.  Had EWCM today so we DTD (my MIL is staying with us for the holidays and took the kids out to lunch, so we were actually able to have a few minutes to ourselves!)  I'm not really charting this time, just watching for fertile signs.  Both of my other children were conceived quickly, hoping this will be the same!  Kudos to DH anyway, who spent the night battling a tummy bug and who has probably just given it to me....

post #84 of 495
So I've been dealing with my older sister. Yesterday while DH was around, she was sympathetic. Today we went to NYC.. She told me she was grabbing little sis but she didn't since she doesn't consider her family. So I'm with her and her fiancé in the big city.. Immediately she told me to stop TTC because she's not going to emotionally support this roller coaster. I'm already done with today. I'm trying to keep a smile on my face because I love NYC but she is killing it for me.

I had the EWCM again and the bleeding is officially on hold it appears. Which means I can safely see the obgyn and find out if my body did it's job. I don't get why I'm showing signs if ovulating. I'm confused. greensad.gif
post #85 of 495
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Tested last night with a digital and bfn. Don't really see any reason to test again.
Sorry! Have you thought about talking to your dr? Maybe the pill had you regular all those years and there is more going on than meets the eye....
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I guess it's time I started following along!  First month TTC #3.  Had EWCM today so we DTD (my MIL is staying with us for the holidays and took the kids out to lunch, so we were actually able to have a few minutes to ourselves!)  I'm not really charting this time, just watching for fertile signs.  Both of my other children were conceived quickly, hoping this will be the same!  Kudos to DH anyway, who spent the night battling a tummy bug and who has probably just given it to me....
welcome! Yes, kudos to your DH!

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So I've been dealing with my older sister. Yesterday while DH was around, she was sympathetic. Today we went to NYC.. She told me she was grabbing little sis but she didn't since she doesn't consider her family. So I'm with her and her fiancé in the big city.. Immediately she told me to stop TTC because she's not going to emotionally support this roller coaster. I'm already done with today(
OMG....I'd totally kick her ass and remind her no one asked for her opinion! Sorry for saying this, but what a bitch. I'd throat punch her at the least.

AFM: CD15 here and guess who didn't have sex yesterday? Yes, that's right. Me. My DH (and today that stands for damn husband) fell asleep. I swear sometimes it feels like he is sabotaging this whole thing. I'm so pissed at him I could kick his face in. So you'd think today he would mention the fact that he bailed on me. But no, he acts like everything is normal. I'm so livid I can't see straight. If he would have at least mentioned it and promised to make it up to me today I'd feel better, but apparently washing his car is more important. Ughhh!
post #86 of 495
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AFM: CD15 here and guess who didn't have sex yesterday? Yes, that's right. Me. My DH (and today that stands for damn husband) fell asleep. I swear sometimes it feels like he is sabotaging this whole thing. I'm so pissed at him I could kick his face in. So you'd think today he would mention the fact that he bailed on me. But no, he acts like everything is normal. I'm so livid I can't see straight. If he would have at least mentioned it and promised to make it up to me today I'd feel better, but apparently washing his car is more important. Ughhh!

OH NO!  Men are such goobers sometimes.  All I can think of is that old saying "hell hath no fury..." 

My DH is one of those - the "I'm not gonna mention it" guys.  He'll know he's on my list but usually when that happens he starts cleaning... a lot.  Figures that should at least buy him some credits!

post #87 of 495
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OH NO!  Men are such goobers sometimes.  All I can think of is that old saying "hell hath no fury..." 
My DH is one of those - the "I'm not gonna mention it" guys.  He'll know he's on my list but usually when that happens he starts cleaning... a lot.  Figures that should at least buy him some credits!
Hahaha!! First thing this am he was doing dishes and laundry before I was even out of bed. To make things worse I'm having the most abundant beautiful EWCM ever right now and we're not speaking. Oh well. We DTD at 1am Fri morning, so there is a case to say that was day 14. And technically that wasn't even 48 hours ago. And my OPK was + today and I THINK (for me) it's usually too late once I get my +OPK. So here's hoping for the best. I'm determined to be mad at him for a month, but I know we'll make up tomorrow wink1.gif

MEN!!! Why must they make us so batty!!! Most days I love him dearly, but sometimes I want to kill him!!!
post #88 of 495
Ok I say this with all seriousness and not for anyone to take offense..... Please don't be mad. Does anyone have spur of the moment sex lol! I know TTC is stressful, emotional and a whole lot of other stuff, but I can't help but wonder if our husbands feel like we only want to have sex with them for baby making. Maybe they feel neglected at times.
post #89 of 495
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Ok I say this with all seriousness and not for anyone to take offense..... Please don't be mad. Does anyone have spur of the moment sex lol! I know TTC is stressful, emotional and a whole lot of other stuff, but I can't help but wonder if our husbands feel like we only want to have sex with them for baby making. Maybe they feel neglected at times.
Lol. Barely anymore greensad.gif we do still have sex for fun. But what I'm finding is that I become more resentful with my uncooperative husband, I "withhold" simply bc I'm mad at him! Horrible I know. For instance, we were supposed to DTD yesterday - if that was the only day we DTD all month - that was to be the day. And he knew that. But flaked on me. Now I'm so mad I've literally thought to myself today "well, if he thinks he's getting laid anytime soon he's just gonna have to wait til CD14 next month". Real mature I know. But also I think "there are plenty of times I give it up when I don't feel up to it just to appease him, so why can't he do the same while we're TTC?" It's turning into a vicious cycle! I've even been so mad I wanted to tell him "forget it! If we're not trying, then there's no need for sex. Ever." Unrealistic I know. I'm probably the wrong person to ask right now since I'm fuming mad at him right now. But we did have super hot fun sex on NYE fully knowing I wasn't in my fertile window. So it does happen. But def not as often as before we started to TTC. Before we Were TTC, we DTD at least once a week, now it's more like 2 times outside fertile window and the rest is reserved for fertile window. That's just us tho. And we are Mr and Mrs Oldballs over here pushing 40. I'm sure if we were younger we'd be more active. I'm so jealous of all the youngsters on here saying "oh, we DTD multiple times a day a few times a week"! Lol!
post #90 of 495
Well thx for your honesty lol I do see how it can become a virtuous cycle. DH and I have been together 8 years, 3 pregnancies and I'm still bf a 14 month old so my libido isn't what it used to be! I do find though that the weeks we DTD more often and have fun our relationship seems better!
post #91 of 495
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Well thx for your honesty lol I do see how it can become a virtuous cycle. DH and I have been together 8 years, 3 pregnancies and I'm still bf a 14 month old so my libido isn't what it used to be! I do find though that the weeks we DTD more often and have fun our relationship seems better!
Definitely! Intimacy fosters closeness. His take on it is "if this is going to tear us apart then we should stop trying." Which I agree with, BUT....if we're gonna try, then he needs to get on board and DTD during my fertile window even if he doesn't feel like it. I certainly don't FEEL like it all week, but tough sh*t!! We are not spring chickens and have no time to be wasting! So I just feel like we should give it our all. But I feel like he's half assing it with the attitude of "if it happens, it happens." But my response to that is "well, it ain't gonna happen if we aren't DTD during my fertile window." Duh! He has said before that he feels like a piece of meat. I have a hard time feeling sorry for any man with that attitude though when, more often than not, men have had a long history of viewing women that way. I almost feel like it's their payback! They want to have sex all the time and women typically don't have as much of a sex drive. But when a woman is TTC, she's ready all the time an all of a sudden it's the man saying "not tonight dear, I have a headache." But again, I'm so angry right now that I'm probably running my mouth entirely too much!!
post #92 of 495

Shoot, Rosie, I'm sorry.  I really really think you have an excellent shot with the coverage you got.  (I don't know if you would be able to get in the place to do this, but if you can squeeze a BD in tonight that might be worth it in case....I say this because of the EWCM... what do you think??)

 

AFM: CD 16, 4 days post the darkest OPK but no temp rise.  I have continued to take OPKs every day but they aren't getting darker, so I don't think I'm going to end up with a late O.  I will test next week just in case (I got those HPTs innacircle was talking about, but I don't want to waste too many of them on this cycle knowing it's likely impossible.)  I love temping and charting... it makes it much easier for me since I can brace myself for the likelihood that this month is out.  

 

We took the puppy for her first training class.  Boy, I am feeling much better about it all now!!  I am much encouraged that we can nip these aggressive behaviors in the bud.   

post #93 of 495
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I guess it's time I started following along!  .

welcome, magrat!!

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Originally Posted by badwolf092087 View Post

So I've been dealing with my older sister. Yesterday while DH was around, she was sympathetic. Today we went to NYC.. She told me she was grabbing little sis but she didn't since she doesn't consider her family. So I'm with her and her fiancé in the big city.. Immediately she told me to stop TTC because she's not going to emotionally support this roller coaster. I'm already done with today. I'm trying to keep a smile on my face because I love NYC but she is killing it for me.

I had the EWCM again and the bleeding is officially on hold it appears. Which means I can safely see the obgyn and find out if my body did it's job. I don't get why I'm showing signs if ovulating. I'm confused. greensad.gif

badwolf, please please do not listen to her.  I wish she wasn't doing this.  As for the EWCM, I don't know but it could be hormones trying to get sorted out, not necessarily signs of ovulation. 

post #94 of 495
@rosie2727 if I could kill her, I would. She's insensitive. She ordered me a tequila sunrise and said to live it up. I ignored it. A few min later she grabs it and says 'oh crap I think that you still might have another one in there.' I resisted the urge to break her jaw at the restaurant. Ugh. As for your DH, sounds exactly like mine. Oh we were suppose to bd, oops. I'm going to casually act like I have no clue why my wife is upset and start cleaning and hope this helps. Can't live without them though!
post #95 of 495
Over here cycle day 62 going crazy just a little bit lol.. Waiting for tomorrow so I can make doctors apt with an obgyn cuz their office was closed for the holidays til to tomorrow. Hubby Thot it would be good to go ahead til his mom I was preg she was excited I got so mad I had to tell her I wasn't that I was just late and we haven't got an answer yet so it crushed
Her a little I was very upset with him about that lol... But I have been having some vivid dreams last few days. Last night had one I miscarried and scan was showing I was only 5 weeks. Which made me very sad... My boobs are very tender and sore. I have alot ewcm I have had for last cpl weeks that comes and goes... I'm still peeling alot. I just can't to get some answers of something....
post #96 of 495
I just wanted to pop in and say hi. I haven't been on this board for several months, after many months of participation. I have been trying for 2 years with little breaks and one early loss late in 2012...

I got a BFP on January 1st! I hasn't thought I had much of a chance because we only managed to BD on Cd 9 and 13.

Just wanted to share that even when it seems not to be working, it can happen without interventions. I did see a naturopath to get balanced, stopped eating gluten to which I discovered an allergy, and started treating my thyroid with a standard process supplement.

I am just having my first real symptoms and am cautiously delighted!

Hang in there, Mamas!
post #97 of 495
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Originally Posted by apeydef View Post

Ok I say this with all seriousness and not for anyone to take offense..... Please don't be mad. Does anyone have spur of the moment sex lol! I know TTC is stressful, emotional and a whole lot of other stuff, but I can't help but wonder if our husbands feel like we only want to have sex with them for baby making. Maybe they feel neglected at times.

Absolutely.  But we are 23 and newlyweds. Honestly, we don't ever try for certain days. We aim for an every other day kind of with TTC in the back of our minds but we don't really have to push for it. We've been in the process of moving so it's been more like every couple days but I don't think i could only wait until my fertile window especially since I have no idea when my fertile window is. 

post #98 of 495
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Originally Posted by apeydef View Post

Ok I say this with all seriousness and not for anyone to take offense..... Please don't be mad. Does anyone have spur of the moment sex lol! I know TTC is stressful, emotional and a whole lot of other stuff, but I can't help but wonder if our husbands feel like we only want to have sex with them for baby making. Maybe they feel neglected at times.

I've been lurking on this board for a bit and have been meaning to introduce myself. It's funny that you asked this- last night I put on some lingerie for DH and he was just CONVINCED I was ovulating. I am only at CD5!  Oh goodness. I told him that I desire to be with him because I love him and desire him, not just because I want to make a baby, but of course we both agree that a baby would be an awesome side benefit. ;)

 

So Hello, Ladies! Happy Sunday! Nice to meet you!

We are on Cycle 2. We have been told by a reproductive endocrinologist that we may have trouble conceiving, but this month I feel a lot more optimistic. I think that we fall in the "not really trying, definitely not preventing" category. We were going to give it a couple seasons before we started charting, temping, or testing. We'll see what comes of it. It appeals to my :treehuggernature. 

 

I follow Weston Price Foundation principles, seem to get crunchier by the day, and plan to have a future homebirth. I am currently seed cycling and using lunaconception for this cycle. AF will hopefully not be arriving on January 29th. 

 

Are you trying anything different for this cycle? 

post #99 of 495
Thread Starter 

This is the first cycle I've ovulated on (5 DPO!) but I think it was either the herbs (vitex and red clover blossom both 3x a day, maca 2x a day) or the fact that I just went crazy and started eating eggs and/or bacon for every other meal.

 

DH and I aren't really timing things though. Lately we only DTD when DS is out of town. Its like every day for a while and then nothing for 2 weeks. I've also been sick a lot here lately, I started marking it in my chart 10 days ago but I've probably been sick the last month more than not.

post #100 of 495

About the sex question...we dtd at other times in the month, but I have ZERO libido unless I am ovulating (just had first ppaf, nursing 13 month old, cycles are wtf right now...I am cd 43 at the mo).  I do end up enjoying the experience, but there is a very obvious difference between ovulation sex and all the other times.  I do try and connect with DH that way, because that is a big part of how he connects with me.  I do wish my hormones were a bit more balanced though.  It would be a lot of fun to WANT and desire sex more than just around ovulation.

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