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post #1 of 37
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With two months +/- to go, how are you feeling?  What are you doing to get ready?  Is your DH, or other children getting excited?

 

I'll be 31 weeks tomorrow and I feel fine.  I walked yesterday and had incredible pelvic pressure and discomfort.  I hope that means she is head down (I'll find out next week).  My biggest complaint is lack of sleep.  My right hand goes numb all the live long night and it drives me crazy and is so uncomfortable!  I haven't slept well the entire pregnancy and it makes me crabby.

 

After Christmas I started washing things.  I have to do one load at a time because I had a lot of friends, and friends of friends give me clothes (such a blessing), but they use very strong scented detergent.  So I hang the clothes outside after a wash to air out and then wash them again.  It slows me down but works!  I am actually a little overwhelmed by how many clothes I have for her (after being worried the whole pregnancy that I don't have enough)!  I'm going to be giving some stuff away because I just don't have room (she's cramming into our room/my closet/my dresser).  Next week I hope to pick up some gear from another friend.  I'm also going to start stocking/clearing out the freezer next week.  I anticipate that will be slow going...

 

My DH is not really excited.  He isn't really into "babies" but the boys are super excited.  I think they will be disappointed when they figure out how dull babies can be in the beginning.  Eat, sleep, poop, lather, rinse, repeat.

post #2 of 37
I am 30 weeks and feeling done with the pregnancy and sorta freaked out that she could be here so soon. Lol I just prepped diapers last weekend and my blessings/shower will be this weekend so ill soon know what all i still need to get.

I know I'm gonna need to get post partumnpads, breastpads, and i need a few more covers
post #3 of 37

Basically 3 months left here, 28 weeks yesterday.  Not ready to have baby come yet, probably because I have heard too much about premies lately, I am glad to have this one stay put until the end.  I haven't really done any prepping yet, probably won't until a few weeks to go, we have a small house and don't want to have things out before I have to.  I do hope to in the next month get some new diapers ordered. Seems like the time is creeping along, yet flying by at the same time.  Just hitting third trimester is making real though :) 

 

Boys are really excited here too, they love knowing the weekly how big the baby is posts. 

post #4 of 37

I thought I was doing well on my prep until I laid in bed this morning and realized I am due in 2.5 months! How did that happen?? 

 

I am starting to get a lot of clothes from friends which makes me feel better as just a couple weeks ago I had absolutely nothing. But I haven't even started sorting and washing (my friends all use a lot of smelly detergent as well). I don't have a baby shower until the 25th so I was going to wait for that to start sorting through what I actually need.   

 

I have zero cloth diapering supplies, I am hoping to get some off my registry...hoping. I have everything I want saved online, so worst case I can order things if I am in a hurry. We did get a new washer in preparation, so at least that is off our list.   

 

I was slowly making some meals for the freezer and canning, but I have been so tired lately I have been dipping into my stash....oops! SO I need to get back on storing away meals and NOT eating them. I feed raw to my pets and did put away 3 weeks of pre measured meals for them already.

 

How did the last 6.5 months go by so fast? During the summer it seemed so far away! 

post #5 of 37

I'm also freaking out about how quickly my due date us approaching. I'm technically 'due' February 28th, but all along I've been saying March. Still, I have never had a truly late baby, so I expect her on time. Yikes!

 

I have everything for diapering except some pins and I need to cut and serge the cloth wipes (I already have the fabric). 

 

I still need:

 

a carseat. 

nursing bras. two.

to make or find or buy some mats/ blankets to span the area of the sidecarred crib and the bed so there isn't a crack. 

some items for the birth kit. tinctures, string for the cord. not much. 

to make a baptismal gown for her. Wanna get this done before she's born so I don't have to do it in her first month. 

 

So... we're pretty set! Time is going by so quickly... 

post #6 of 37

I am needing to get a couple of nursing bras too, anyone have recommendations?  Been a long time for me :)

post #7 of 37

I haven't really done anything. I should get on that! We have pretty much everything. Need some diaper inserts and a carseat. It seems so soon and yet not. It's weird.

post #8 of 37

I'm buying Bravados, but I always do. They work well for me. I have a small ribcage, but large breasts. Their + and ++ system works well for me finding a good fit. 

post #9 of 37
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I always used bravados too.  I just started wearing "real" bras 2 years ago, now I go back.  I'm not really sure about sizing this time.  I know I bought one right after DS2 was born and it was way too big for much more than the first week.  I might just tough it out with sports bras and sleep bras until my engorgement settles down this time.  My BC sells them, if I have time I think I'll try some on for fit next appt.

post #10 of 37
Omg I have 3 pairs of booties that I got for Christmas from my surrogate son. And some diapers left over from like 11 years ago when my son potty trained... But I'm ok with that. I'm waiting for spring consignment sales and I told my friends I didn't want any baby hand me downs until February. Too superstitious!
I'm finally really getting excited about the baby. Really smitten :-) But I still need to deal with getting my mom her life back after this extended illness and hospitalization. Hopefully, once she's really back to normal, then I can start dragging her out with me to shop.
I have one last late Christmas gift to finish crocheting and then I can start baby stuff!
I'm feeling better than I thought I would. I get so tired by the end of my 12 hour shifts but that's all. Can't bend. That's the worst thing, and oddest, too. I remember being much more flexible with the boys, carried them way low. Not this girl, she's almost in my ribs already & I'm long waisted! My only complaint really is Heartburn! And I've been Coughing for over two weeks! But it's getting better. I got a snoogle pillow for Christmas and I adore it. Didn't think it would be worth the money, but it totally was! I'm still enjoying sleep.
Right now I'm just praying I can avoid the painful carpal tunnel syndrome I had last time! I remember clearly it started in January and my due date last time was just a week earlier...
Glad to read everyone's updates!
post #11 of 37

@gizzyntaz, hey, were you over at genderdreaming too? I saw your user name on my post and just was wondering!

 

Oh my goodness, I can't believe we are getting so close! I am 29 weeks on Monday, but look about 33 weeks at least! It is scary how big belly is this time around. I have just started going through clothes, but have a lot more to do. We have not set up anything yet, and I guess we'll hold off on the crib anyway, since we have to have space for my mom and stepmom in the beginning (future baby's room) and the baby will be with me. I am still a bit in denial that this is really happening. It seems like I just have two boys, and the baby moving in my baby is not going to come out. :)

 

I'll have to give bravados a try. I have always bought motherhood maternity bras because they are cheap when on sale, and I hate them all. tabitha, what is the +, ++ system?

 

Selissa, I also feel kindof done, because I feel so big!! But, I do have a friend who recently gave birth at 29 weeks and I definitely don't want that preemie future! So I guess it will be an uncomfortable next couple of months!

 

By the way, we have a drop front crib, and fully plan on using it again. What is the recall issue, anyway? I can't imagine not having one -- it would totally kill to put a sleeping baby in there without it down!

post #12 of 37

porcelina- they have more variation in cup depth and size, in combination with band size. So with their original design, you start by choosing a size range (regular, plus, double plus)- I'll probably buy a M+. This will cover me as my band size changes postpartum (I'm a 40 right now, but won't be for long after the birth. I'm normally a 34 and when baby comes out, your ribcage starts to go back to normal.)  M+ is cup size C-E, so it will also cover me as my cup size gets smaller, as it does when I am about 6 months postpartum and the oversupply dies down. 

 

When you pick a size before birth it's important to consider that your band size will go down, not up. So buy one which is snug band-wise. Your cup size will go up dramatically, then down. I have never been as small again as I was prekids (32D) but I get close. In the first 12 months postpartum I tend to be everything from a 40E down to a 34D. I like Bravado bras because they fit, comfortably and with good support, longer. 

 

They are more expensive but they make all the difference. 

post #13 of 37
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Originally Posted by tabitha View Post
 

porcelina- they have more variation in cup depth and size, in combination with band size. So with their original design, you start by choosing a size range (regular, plus, double plus)- I'll probably buy a M+. This will cover me as my band size changes postpartum (I'm a 40 right now, but won't be for long after the birth. I'm normally a 34 and when baby comes out, your ribcage starts to go back to normal.)  M+ is cup size C-E, so it will also cover me as my cup size gets smaller, as it does when I am about 6 months postpartum and the oversupply dies down. 

 

When you pick a size before birth it's important to consider that your band size will go down, not up. So buy one which is snug band-wise. Your cup size will go up dramatically, then down. I have never been as small again as I was prekids (32D) but I get close. In the first 12 months postpartum I tend to be everything from a 40E down to a 34D. I like Bravado bras because they fit, comfortably and with good support, longer. 

 

They are more expensive but they make all the difference. 

Very interesting -- I feel like my ribcage never went back to my pre-kids size -- there were some shirts that I was never able to use again because they were too tight around the ribcage. So do you have to get fitted in person (it sounds like it!)? I'll have to check my band size! I will maybe check out their website. Sounds good and I know a lot of people like them.

post #14 of 37
I second the Bravado bra sizing....perfect for big milkies but smaller rib cage, and it's stretchy so it accommodated my larger pp rib age while also working well for when things went back to 'normal.' I will say that I tried saving $ and buying a Bravado on eBay for a few $cheaper than if I were to buy from Nickis Diapers and the second bra fell apart a lot earlier than my first, the one bought at the store did. The eBay one was made in Europe and had a funny smell and the back seam just split. An easy fix, but annoying. Ill buy a new one from the store. 29 weeks, feeling hippo-ish and frankly over being an emotional hot mess:0. I really wish I could've sat and daydreamed w this pg, but between my raging hormones and spirited 2.5 yo and 26 wk old puppy, I seem to have been in autopilot. My toddler is ultra clingy right now, which I'm sure is normal but wow. I just don't feel like I have anything more to give. Feeling for my hubby bc he's getting the brunt of this. I'm relieved he's on his off season for a couple mos (he's an arborist). Sorry for the long post;)
post #15 of 37

Thanks ladies for the info on nursing bras.  I didn't really have a clue where to start...sounds like I should start with Bravado!  @tabitha can you explain the sizing for Bravado that you referenced or point me to a link that does?

 

@anachka I have also been feeling really emotional and fatty lately, which is frustrating to say the least.  Feeling a bit more stable today luckily. :)

 

I've really been struggling with the body changes and how they are limiting my ability to exercise the way I want to.  Having to adjust and really scale back my workouts a LOT, which is hard on my ego.  It's also making me scared about getting back in shape postpartum while being a new mom and trying to figure that whole thing out...kind of scary and overwhelming.  That plus the emotions are a bad combo.  Luckily my hubby's been very supportive, cooking me food he knows I'll eat, checking in on my emotional state more often and doing all he can to help, including a great massage last night, even though it was super hard for him being that I can't lay on my front. 

 

Anyone have any good ideas to help your husband feel more involved and less left out?  I can tell mine is feeling a bit left out.  He gets really disapointed when I mention that the baby is moving but when I put his hand on my belly the baby stops of course...

 

Have lots to do to get ready, but trying not to stress over it.  After all, there's not that much you REALLY need right away.  Mostly you need your boobs and a car seat to get the baby home of course.  Diapers are good too.

post #16 of 37
Lol @crossfitmom "boobs and a car seat" is my philosophy 100% though I'm starting to cave and add dipes :-P
post #17 of 37
Oh agree I don't want her to be early. I'm just ready for for the pain I'm having this time to be over.

I'm probably gonna wait till lil miss gets here to get nursing bras as I have significant cup increases when my milk comes in
post #18 of 37
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Originally Posted by Selissa View Post

Oh agree I don't want her to be early. I'm just ready for for the pain I'm having this time to be over.
 

Ditto this.  But I want this little girl to be earlier than my "normal" which is late :)  I wouldn't mind anything over 38 weeks…  So far she's done everything different than her brothers, so a girl can dream, right?

 

I googled my nighttime hand numbness and Dr. Google says it's carpal tunnel from the swelling (I have been so darn swollen this pregnancy!).  The swelling stays out of your hands during the day for the most part, but then when you lay down it equalizes and aggravates the carpal tunnel.  It makes sense because I am a computer junkie, so use my right hand too much.  Last night I tried keeping it elevated while I slept, and because I was so exhausted from the previous night's lack of sleep I slept really well.  I have acupuncture next week too, and I hope she is able to help some.

post #19 of 37

Almost 32 weeks and starting to feel quite uncomfortable, just so winded and out of breath and wanting to do things my body will not let me do. 

 

This baby keeps me awake most nights, He/she is so active ALL the time of all my 5 babies I have never had one this active. Sometimes I think he/she will break a rib.

 

I still need to wash clothes and diapers as well as buy some baby things

 

My to do list for baby:

Wash/ clothes diapers

buy changing table

buy infant seat

buy bouncy seat

sew more cloth wipes

make home made diaper creams

make freezer meals

buy more snappis and diaper pins

buy amber necklace for baby

buy homebirth kit

 

Getting nervous and excited about my first homebirth.

post #20 of 37

32 weeks for me! I feel like the last month has flown by. I have major insomnia happening, but am fortunate enough to have a flexible work schedule & this being my 1st am able to sleep when I do feel tired. I just miss more daylight than I'd like to some days. I also am experiencing some carpel tunnel. Had it creep up on me back in 2nd trimester, but it's a bit more persistent now. Found that if I really make sure to keep wrists totally straight with no bend in them as I'm falling asleep that helps (of course I still wake up with them bent & numb a lot!).

 

I've been walking & swimming a LOT. If I skip more than 2 or 3 days/week I get really moody & my back starts aching, so that's motivated me to stay active. Also I've gained more weight than I wanted to (about +40) and they say the last month is when you gain the most so I'm really not happy about that and hoping not to gain too much more. Trying not to stress it though.

 

On my to-do list:

 

-Find pediatrician/family doctor

-Research car-seats and the new latch laws & purchase car-seat

-Buy some other minor baby stuff we still need

-Finish a bunch of work projects

-Finish packing BC bag

-Watch movies/read/sleep when I can

-Do some daily yoga

-Organize house & maybe prepare some freezer meals

-research nursing bras (thanks for the Bravado suggestion-- Sounds good! I need something for smaller ribcage but larger chest)


Edited by newmama2b - 1/5/14 at 12:43am
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