Originally Posted by saadiak
@manysplinters - I've been taking floradix liquid iron for my whole pregnancy, and I was taking it before, too, because I have chronically low iron. I don't want to even think about how sick I'd be feeling without it! I'm glad to hear you're not feeling zombie-like!! :)
My biggest stress right now is figuring out what to do financially when baby gets here. My husband and I both work for the city (I'm a HS teacher and he's a horticulturist for the Parks Dept) and we do fine with both of our salaries, but if I stay home with the bun, then I sincerely don't know how we're going to make it work. But I can't imagine sending a 3-month-old to daycare, or hiring a full-time nanny! I don't know how on earth we would afford it, for starters, but also - to have a baby and then not even get to be home with it = :(! I just feel so at a loss for what to do.
I'm also thinking about work-from-home options, so I'm interested to hear what ideas everyone comes up in response to Mrs. Gail's question, too! I've been thinking about tutoring - it seems like a natural choice for a teacher, but it's all just so much to plan for right now when I'm just trying to feed myself and get feeling good!
I feel like I could be a spokesperson for liquid iron supplements right now - it's crazy how different and how fantastic I feel - I can even jog a bit (if it wasn't so icy!) I am a bit of a carnivore and never even considered the possibility I was deficient until I sort of hit rock bottom and felt like something had to change, and I was willing to try anything. I'm not taking floradix, but it was probably all the ads for it on Mothering that got me thinking that iron could be the problem.
Finances wise, it is really tough to do it on one income, but you could also try to find a middle ground for time away - I don't know how it works in your area, but could you extend your leave and go back after first semester of school (like after Christmas break or something?) My partner and I did that - i.e. I stopped working for 6 months after our first and second children, so we had close to no income because I am our sole income earner. We also did a pretty restrictive budget - like a personal allowance of $20 per week - which sounds pretty harsh, and it was, and admittedly I cheated a bit, but overall, it was really great to rein in spending and realize that there are other fulfilling things in life than spending money on stuff. When people wanted to give us gifts, we asked for a couple of practical things, like a stroller, a wrap and some basic things, and we were lucky for handmedowns for the rest of it. I felt a bit like I wanted to spend on the baby, but at the end of the day, it wasn't really needed. We bulk purchased dry goods and tried to plan meals, and ate out once a month, maximum. We co-slept with the baby so didn't need a crib till about 9 months, when the transition made sense for us. Our major expense was mortgage payments. I could never have done it without having a partner who spearheaded it, but it's been awesome for our finances and now on #3 I am going to take a full year off, which is so exciting for both spending time with new babe and my other kids who are still small, and with my partner who normally stays home with the kids. My second child especially I felt bad about having to leave before she was really ready. I kept nursing, but she never had much one-on-one time, due to a 17 month old sister hovering around all the time. In any event, if you can, I would give yourself at least a few months after the baby is born before decision-making about when to go back, or about tutoring. The person i was prior to giving birth had a wholly different perspective than the person I became after my child was born - not good or bad, just without knowing what having a baby was really like. And even the difference between heading back at 6 months versus 3 months would be huge.