This is just a post in hopes that some moms who have BTDT will have some words of wisdom or commiseration!
My oldest DD, who is just shy of 8.5 years old, apparently is starting puberty. We know this because she complained to my DH (who is a pediatrician) last weekend that one of her nipples felt weird and bumpy underneath, and when he checked, he could feel breast buds (which I don't think where there when she had her well-visit in August, if the doc checked).
Anyway, he's assured me that she's on the early side of normal for this but still normal... and I was definitely needing a bra by the time I was about 6 months older than her (and got my period as a young 11 year old), so I know that nothing is really amiss. But. As soon as he told me, my first response was to be heart broken. I know that sounds ridiculous and dramatic, and I've mostly gotten over that first response, but it was still my initial reaction. I think it was a combination of factors. First, that she is our oldest (of 3) DD, and the very idea of her actually growing up seems so crazy and scary... but more strongly, my own memory of the misery I felt at being the first and most developed girl I knew as a child. I just hated it. I remember feeling sad and confused because I still felt like a little kid inside, but knew that I no longer looked like a little kid (like my friends) and was aware on some level that the world saw me differently. I know that her experience may be totally different (I definitely hope so, and will do everything in my power to assure it), but it breaks my heart to think of her feeling that way.
Anyone else have any weird reactions/feelings when their younger-than-expected daughter started growing up?