Is there an active support thread on here?
Hyperemisis support group?
I had it with my first to the extreme. Couldn't do anything...at all. My husband had to take care of me and eventually ran out of days and so had to send me 7 hrs away to be taken care of by my parents. Just couldn't work, lost 25lbs in the first 6weeks. Horribly depressing. I was really blindsided by the whole thing, I thought I just had to deal with it, and I didn't want to tell anyone until after 12 weeks. My midwives finally convinced me to try diclectin with all their evidence based info and telling me its just b6 and gravol. I was very relucoant but tried out of desperation and determined to stay out of the hospital. I couldn't keep them down though because I was at the point where I couldn't even swallow my own saliva which I was hyper producing so it just was useless.
Eventually it was the outdoors that helped me stabilize. I moved outside (luckily it was spring summer) into our teepee and with far less triggers I was able to start keeping down water and eventually small amounts of oatmeal (which I hate). I was amazed at how much sleeping outside and living outside was able to bring me back...
This time (8wks pregnant now). I took the advice of midwives and started on diclectin right away. They say its just b6 and gravol and is completely safe. It is making a world of difference. I am nauseaus 24hrs but not to the same degree and it stops me throwing up for the most part and I get sleep and am able to stay hydrated and take care of my 11month old baby. I never take any type of medication for anything except homeopathy so I still feel nervous about it but there are 35years of history now and motherisk has published studies of women with HG taking doses up to 8-12 a day with out any issues and able to reclaim their lives, stay hydrated, and avoid the depression and isolation that comes with HG.
In retrospect I wish I had told friends and family with my first pregnancy so that I wasn't feeling so isolated. I just had it in my head not to tell people before 3 months...so I felt very horrible and totally alone. If I had lost the pregnancy I would have needed to talk about it anyway with friends and family so why keep it a secret, and also the gift of HG is that it is hyper protective for your baby so you are less likely to lose your little one anyway. Also the good news is they usually come out healthy and happy with HG, full birth weights even if you were wasting away! Mine was 9lbs and 2 weeks late! Sending you lots of peace and health and courage!
The beginning is always the worst. If you're at 14 weeks, it will likely ease at least a little, soon. Are you taking any meds?
If you become dehydrated, it can make the HG worse. Have you been able to have any IV fluids at all? Do you think you could be dehydrated?
There are lots of things that can help, but delivery is really the only cure.
Hope you feel better soon!