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Would it be bad to start babywearing at three months?

post #1 of 30
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My little is a month old today, but we won't have money for the wrap I want realistically for a few more weeks at least plus shipping time. (We have money, but it's all set aside for things we NEED since we're catching up from Christmas, of course, but I want the Boba Baby Wrap!) Would it be bad for me to start him around three months? I really don't know much about it at all and I could use some help. Could you guys link me to some information? What do I really need to know? The help is much appreciated!

post #2 of 30

It would be fine, but have you tried the Boba?  I didn't have the BobaWrap, but did have a Moby, and I had moved onto the Ergo by the time he was around 4 months because he had gotten too heavy to keep the wrap tight and wanted a bit more room to move.  If you haven't test driven it with your little one, I would suggest that in the interim you find a store that carries a bunch of different carriers/wraps and try them....you might find that the Boba doesn't work for you/your baby.  Another avenue (and potential source to borrow carriers) is a local LaLeche League.  Our group frequently had "baby wearing nights" in which mamas brought in their various carriers.  Good luck. 

post #3 of 30
Just an added note-I purchased my ergo and maya ring sling used off craigslist. I paid $30.00 for the ring sling and $45.00 for an organic ergo used twice. I bought two for less then the new price of one! Just a thought.
post #4 of 30

IMO, the most important thing for your infant and family is for him to be carried now.  i would do ANY THING possible to get a sling and make carrying your infant #1 priority.  The benefits show up in a few short months.  Breast feeding and carrying an infant from birth to creeping or crawling is the most powerful way to bond with your baby and makes them super secure and content. 

You can make a sling with 2 yards of fabric from the fabric store.  Or, cut a sheet to size from the thrift store.  Tie the opposite corners together and put at a diagonal over one shoulder and make a pouch on the opposite hip for the baby to be in.  You can adjust the knot to make the sling fit your body.  My friend, a doctor who could afford any sling, chose to make her own like this using colorful fabric.  She carried all 3 children from birth until they chose to crawl away from her to explore the world.  The idea of carrying your infant from birth to crawling is ancient for the human species could not have survived if we left our offspring unprotected and open to prey.  These same biological needs remain in us, as Jean Liedloff describes in the only parenting book a parent will ever need, THe Continum Concept.

All the Best to you and your family!

post #5 of 30
You know, it is possible to just hold your baby all the time even if you don't have a carrier. My kids are 17 months apart and I found it hard to care for my oldest if I had the baby in a carrier. It was annoying to have to take him in and out when I needed to pick up my oldest or bend over to change her. I actually found it more convenient to have him in the crook of my arm all the time. We both liked it. So a carrier doesn't have to be essential for keeping your baby on you.
post #6 of 30

No, you do not need a carrier now. Plenty of babies survive and thrive just fine without them. You can carry baby in arms when you are up and moving around, but at one month old you are going to be spending a lot of time nursing anyway. I never did good with wraps and always preferred to carry them in-arms when they were that tiny. Around 4 months or so when they are starting to move around more we start getting a lot more use out of the carrier, primarily an Ergo.

post #7 of 30

I really like the Moby Wrap for under 4 months, but if you're saving up for a Boba, how about spending around $10 for a piece of jersey cotton so you can make your own homemade stretchy wrap. There are lots of instructions online. Just google "homemade Moby". I'm pretty sure you don't even have to sew, just cut.

post #8 of 30
Ok, so it looks like the Boba wrap is a stretchy is that right? I would strong recommend that you do not get a stretchy wrap for a 3mo baby if money is tight. You will get very little wear out of it. If you are keen to use a wrap then I would suggest a woven, otherwise a soft-structured carrier like an ergo or Beco which will last you for as long as you want to Babywear.
post #9 of 30

I agree with Katelove.  Your money would be much better spent on a carrier that would last longer.  But if you want to try a stretchy wrap now (they're great for newborns), I'd check out thrift shops or Craigslist.  I've seen them used for as low as $20.  Or like researchparent said you can easily make one.  There may be a local babywearing group near you where you could try out different carriers.  Check Facebook

post #10 of 30

Agreed that the stretchy wrap wouldn't be the best investment after the first few months.  My little guy lived in our Boba when he was a newborn but we were firmly moved into the Ergo by 6 months and could have done that sooner, I'm sure.  I say look into a different kind of carrier if now isn't an option - the stretchy wraps tend to stretch too much once the babe gets bigger.

post #11 of 30

agree with above, stretchy wasn't great for us past 2 months, but my guy is a monster baby. Woven wraps take some getting used to, but the Ergo/Beco/Boba are pretty user friendly. You can try Craigslist or check out the FB page babywearing on a budget, all the wraps/carriers are less than $100. 

post #12 of 30
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Originally Posted by Alexsandra View Post
 

IMO, the most important thing for your infant and family is for him to be carried now.  i would do ANY THING possible to get a sling and make carrying your infant #1 priority.  The benefits show up in a few short months.  Breast feeding and carrying an infant from birth to creeping or crawling is the most powerful way to bond with your baby and makes them super secure and content. 

You can make a sling with 2 yards of fabric from the fabric store.  Or, cut a sheet to size from the thrift store.  Tie the opposite corners together and put at a diagonal over one shoulder and make a pouch on the opposite hip for the baby to be in.  You can adjust the knot to make the sling fit your body.  My friend, a doctor who could afford any sling, chose to make her own like this using colorful fabric.  She carried all 3 children from birth until they chose to crawl away from her to explore the world.  The idea of carrying your infant from birth to crawling is ancient for the human species could not have survived if we left our offspring unprotected and open to prey.  These same biological needs remain in us, as Jean Liedloff describes in the only parenting book a parent will ever need, THe Continum Concept.

All the Best to you and your family!

 

Congratulations to the OP on your baby!


I would be last person to say that I didn't wish that I had started wearing my baby earlier. Yes, it is important to wear your baby and starting earlier is better.  But I think I would stop short of saying that I would "do ANY THING possible to get a sling and make carrying your infant #1 priority."  That is unnecessarily alarmist, in my opinion. 

 

Yes, there are lots of easy cheap ways to start babywearing.  Yes, babywearing makes life unimaginably easier.  But no, I don't think it is necessary to be alarmist and lay on a guilt trip.  If for whatever reason you don't start wearing your baby until three months, everything will still be fine. 

 

I would have liked to start wearing my baby earlier, but I was majorly sleep deprived, and the silliest reasons that kept me from starting earlier seemed like huge immovable obstacles at the time.  So I didn't start wearing my dd until 3 or 4 months, and I went on to wear my dd until she was 5 years old.  My dd is almost 10 years old now and she didn't care that I didn't start babywearing just a few months earlier. 

 

However, I can tell you that I wish for my own sake that I had started babywearing earlier because there are many aspects of my life in those early months that would have been a lot easier and more convenient for ME.  (For example, the tendonitis that I developed might have vanished sooner. I would have been able to multitask household chores more efficiently.)

 

So I say that if, after reading about the many cheap and easy ways to start babywearing, you still can't get to it until 3 months, everything will still be fine.

 

Like the pps, I agree that if you wait until 3 months, skip the stretchy ones, and skip the ring sling.  I started with the mei-tai, which was a good choice, and eventually evolved into the Ergo, which is great.  At 3 months, I'd suggest going straight to the Ergo, if you can afford it by then.  (Again, I didn't get around to buying the Ergo until 1 year old, but I wish I'd purchased it much earlier. Still, I got four years of good use out of it.)


Edited by emilysmama - 1/10/14 at 11:40am
post #13 of 30
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Originally Posted by emilysmama View Post
 

 

Congratulations to the OP on your baby!


I would be last person to say that I didn't wish that I had started wearing my baby earlier. Yes, it is important to wear your baby and starting earlier is better.  But I think I would stop short of saying that I would "do ANY THING possible to get a sling and make carrying your infant #1 priority."  That is unnecessarily alarmist, in my opinion. 

 

Yes, there are lots of easy cheap ways to start babywearing.  Yes, babywearing makes life unimaginably easier.  But no, I don't think it is necessary to be alarmist and lay on a guilt trip.  If for whatever reason you don't start wearing your baby until three months, everything will still be fine. 

 

I would have liked to start wearing my baby earlier, but I was majorly sleep deprived, and the silliest reasons that kept me from starting earlier seemed like huge immovable obstacles at the time.  So I didn't start wearing my dd until 3 or 4 months, and I went on to wear my dd until she was 5 years old.  My dd is almost 10 years old now and she didn't care that I didn't start babywearing just a few months earlier. 

 

However, I can tell you that I wish for my own sake that I had started babywearing earlier because there are many aspects of my life in those early months that would have been a lot easier and convenient for ME.  (For example, the tendonitis that I developed might not have vanished sooner. I would have been able to multitask household chores more efficiently.)

 

So I say that if, after reading about the many cheap and easy ways to start babywearing, you still can't get to it until 3 months, everything will still be fine.

 

Like the pps, I agree that if you wait until 3 months, skip the stretchy ones, and skip the ring sling.  I started with the mei-tai, which was a good choice, and eventually evolved into the Ergo, which is great.  At 3 months, I'd suggest going straight to the Ergo, if you can afford it by then.  (Again, I didn't get around to buying the Ergo until 1 year old, but I wish I'd purchased it much earlier. Still, I got four years of good use out of it.)

I totally agree with this. I did not like the idea of making my own sling/carrier because I don't trust my own sewing skills. I will say that I LOVE our ring sling, and my guy is 18lbs.  Another thing to think about is that some babies just do not like being in a carrier/sling/wrap. Just the way we don't always want to wear a certain pair of pants,or shoes.  You can still form a very secure bond and attachment with your child even if you don't wear them 24/7. 

post #14 of 30

I understand the benefits of baby wearing....but please don't let anyone tell you that you can't or won't bond with your baby unless you wear them. I have an almost 15 year old, and an 11 year old, and a 2 year old, and one on the way. Baby wearing was not the 'in thing' in 1999 that I was aware of and my daughter and I bonded just fine and she was/is very well adjusted. It really ticks me off for people think that if you don't' baby wear you are jeopardizing the bonding with your little one. You have 2 wonderful God given arms, and I used mine all the time. That is exactly what they are for.  But I do like the idea of going to the fabric store and buying your own fabric .. that sounds like a GREAT idea!         

post #15 of 30

Sorry camerahappymom,

 

I didn't mean to imply that the only way to bond with your baby is by wearing the baby.  I am completely in agreement with you about carrying the baby in your own arms is just fine.  In fact, for the first three months of my dd's life, I didn't have a carrier and carry in my arms is exactly what i did, and I did that a lot.  It was only when I developed pain in my arms as a result that I searched for a less painful alternative, and baby wearing  is what I came up with.  And thank goodness for that! But yes, if a mother's arms are strong enough, then carrying in the arms are great.  After all, that's what they're there for!

post #16 of 30
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Originally Posted by emilysmama View Post
 

Sorry camerahappymom,

 

I didn't mean to imply that the only way to bond with your baby is by wearing the baby.  I am completely in agreement with you about carrying the baby in your own arms is just fine.  In fact, for the first three months of my dd's life, I didn't have a carrier and carry in my arms is exactly what i did, and I did that a lot.  It was only when I developed pain in my arms as a result that I searched for a less painful alternative, and baby wearing  is what I came up with.  And thank goodness for that! But yes, if a mother's arms are strong enough, then carrying in the arms are great.  After all, that's what they're there for!

 

I get it.. I just get so tired of being around these crunchy granola mom's that think they are better than you because they are baby wearing, breastfeeding, etc.. I am a avid breastfeeder, I just choose to keep mine covered out of respect for myself.. I wasnt' fond of baby wearing because I was so afraid the baby was gonna fall right through the Moby :(  My husband wore our baby LOL..and he loved it.  I just have not found one that does not hurt my back. I tried the over the shoulder baby holder, and loved it. did not realized it came in sizes..and I bought one too big :( so there again I  struck out. Sorry I sounded so offensive.. i do love the idea  about making my own. I don't' understand why they charge so much for them..it's just fabric..

post #17 of 30

Fabric IS expensive, especially fabric that you need to be strong enough to carry a baby. I priced out what it would cost, in just fabric alone, to make a Mei Tai for someone I know and it was on par with some of the less expensive manufactured carriers you can buy. This was just factoring in fabric costs and not getting any money for my labor. Of course large manufacturers get wholesale priced fabric so they can still actually make money above and beyond materials costs.

 

I echo others comments about trying to find something second hand now if you can. I've found great deals on carriers in consignment shops (under $20). Of course this only helps if your area has a good babywearing population to provide those pre-owned carriers. The sooner you can get a carrier, the easier you will probably find it is to function with a teeny baby. However, you can start at any age really.

post #18 of 30

https://www.facebook.com/groups/156002947911287/
this is the babywearing on a budget fb page, all carriers under $100!!

post #19 of 30
I didn't start wearing my eldest until she was about 3 months. Everyone survived just fine. I may have even gained some arm muscles from carrying around my chubby girl! Lol

Like others said, I would skip the stretchy wrap at that point. They aren't great for heavier babies. I started with a mei tai (babyhawk) and loved it. Now we mostly use woven wraps. They've got a higher learning curve but are totally worth it, in my opinion!
post #20 of 30

I started my Boba around 2-3 months and I loved it. I wore her in it until she was six months and the only reason why I haven't worn her lately is because I haven't really had a place to wear her. I loved it and she transitioned just fine. Boba usually always has free shipping :)

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