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Belly touching

post #1 of 15
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It has started already. For now it is 'just' people who know me who suddenly lunge at me and touch my belly. I am afraid though the bigger and more obvious it gets the more strangers will want to do the same thing. Happened to me a lot with my other pregnancies. I did not like it back then and I still don't like it. It usually happens so fast that it is hard to prevent these people from touching me. Any ideas? Input? Has this happened to you too and how did you react?

post #2 of 15
Ugh. This only happened once last time, but I was big in winter, so the coat hid things. Heading into summer pregnant makes me want to carry a big stick. A good, loud, 'don't touch me there!' Is a solid response in most situations, but I don know if you want to use it on friends...
post #3 of 15
I wonder if this is a regional phenomenon? I hear about it, but never experienced a stranger touching my belly. I've probably had family members, but I can't specifically remember
post #4 of 15
I'll be the freak and say that I love letting people touch my belly. No strangers, though.
post #5 of 15

I HATE it and absolutely refuse to let anyone except my husband touch me.  There was a woman at work one time that tried and let's just say I did not react well...

post #6 of 15

I've never really dealt with this.. but the other day my good friends - a married couple who is infertile - both oohed over my belly and wanted to touch it.  It felt super weird to me.  I didn't know how to react.  The few times in the past a stranger tried that, I was curt and put a stop to that.  I have even let a friend feel the baby move in past pregnancies when farther along.. but at this point if you're touching my belly its just my stomach.  I let them touch.. not sure how I will handle it if it happens again.  Maybe just kindly tell them I will let them know when they are able to feel the baby.  

post #7 of 15

I'm mixed on the belly touching.  In my current community, when people I know touch it, it's to give love to the baby.  But when strangers do it, I feel like I'm on display.  Ew.  Only one friend has touched my belly so far.

post #8 of 15
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Originally Posted by Minerva23 View Post

Any ideas? Input? Has this happened to you too and how did you react?

I always liked the idea of just reaching over and patting/rubbing their belly.

 

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Originally Posted by LiLStar View Post

I wonder if this is a regional phenomenon? I hear about it, but never experienced a stranger touching my belly. I've probably had family members, but I can't specifically remember

Me, too! I've never, ever had a stranger touch my belly. I only had a stranger touch my baby once, and she was a little old Russian lady, I felt like was possibly regional. 

 

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Originally Posted by mamaBlue View Post

I'll be the freak and say that I love letting people touch my belly. No strangers, though.

I love it, too! Not strangers, but especially once I get bigger it feels soooooo good to me. Usually it's just my mom, kids and DH though. 

post #9 of 15
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Originally Posted by mamaBlue View Post

I'll be the freak and say that I love letting people touch my belly. No strangers, though.

 

you're no freak -- i love it too.  

post #10 of 15

 

 

You could get one of these! hah

post #11 of 15

I think it's only happened once or twice at like walmart or something and it didn't bother me.

 

I don't mind family touching at all. Right now the only one touching is my oldest daughter and she's so clingy so I tell her NO lmao

post #12 of 15

I live in big friendly Texas and never had much of a problem. I think out of my three pregnancies I've only had a stranger rub my belly once or twice. I'm so go-with-the-flow that I don't mind anyway. I work with some refugee families that come from places where fertility is celebrated and a Big Deal. One lady went nuts and gushed about how beautiful I was when she found out I was expecting. I fully expect to get many belly rubs from this family. That's fine with me, even if this is a family I will not enter the house alone (they tried to arrange a marriage for me once). I guess I don't mind because I act like whatever is happening at the time is the most natural thing in the world (included the proposed marriage arrangement, I politely stated I was already engaged).

I've already gotten belly rubs from coworkers and the lady that ran the preschool my kids go to. I don't mind.

post #13 of 15

My sister is the worst she would grab my belly on either side and try to shake it, without enough warning to stop her (shes older and just had her first a year ago so I blamed it on her ignorance). During my last pregnancy she grabbed me and it hurt me so much I was caught off guard that I smacked her across the face. I know it's not nice, but it really was a reaction. I had asked her not to do it many times, so I think when she finally hurt me,  belting her was instinct. 

On another note, strangers touching is so annoying and it happens a lot to me, maybe because I'm under 5ft so people think I'm "cute" pregnant. I love when someone touches my belly out of wonder or curiosity or excitement just do so respectfully and with permission.  

My fiances hands are gigantic and it feels so comfy when his hand is on my belly :)

post #14 of 15
This is one of my biggest fears...bc I do not like being touched in general and am a mean old bat. I am fairly certain the first person who tries will be rudely told off.
post #15 of 15

I had my first belly rub this weekend. It was my brother in law shockingly. He is really really excited for us and to be an uncle to the little one. It didn't bother me at all. Our relationship didn't get off to the best start so I'm just happy that everything is great now. Strangers though...that would not be okay. 

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