I have posted on here before about a few issues with OCD, etc that I have. However, there is some truth to the problem I'm having with this couch issue, so I'm hoping someone can take what I say, and maybe tell me why "it's okay"? Right now I can't stop thinking of the negatives, and I am dragging myself down.....over something silly? nonetheless....
So both of the couches in our house (we have a family room and a living room) are very firm and modern. I insisted on firm couches because I have a bad back, and sitting on something soft can be painful for me. Well, it was....my back is doing a little better now. It took a LOT of trial and error in couch stores to find the firmest couches we could, and I think my hubby is scarred from doing all that couch shopping with me. Not to mention looking at some from Craigslist. We ended up with two firm ones, but it turns out firm couches tend to have low backs (think modern lines). And, they are bad for cuddling upright, relaxing, etc.
So, since having our son (first baby), I haven't really had a cozy place to cuddle with him. That is mainly not due to the firmness, back the lack of a high back, so you can't really rest your head on anything. Thus, cuddling is hard to do. My rocker I nurse him in is also firm, so we can't really sink into it. I have this thing where I have been beating myself up, when we go to others' houses, and I see how happy my hubby and baby are, on any other couches. They just smile and cuddle. Our couches are like rocks, and my hubby never really cuddles the baby on them. You can't put your head back at all, so you just sit upright, in ours. We get plenty of floor time with the baby and some bed time, but there is something about being able to sit, kinda reclined, cuddling a baby. And I feel like I have denied us of that experience with this little one.
I have wanted to sell one of them to get a softer couch with a higher back, that has recliners. There are cheap ones out there, but hubby won't look with me. I think eventually we WILL replace one of these. But I keep looking back and thinking about all the cuddling time and happy memories we have missed out on. Do you guys think that's indeed true? Or am I fluffing it up too much in my head?
Anyways, thanks for listening.