Well, my date is on Saturday, May 1, but we have been talking almost nightly, via MSN, for the past 2.5 weeks.
He is really great, I am so surprised! We met via the internet, which is why I have waited for 2.5 weeks to meet him, but so far things are fun and exciting! He even sent me the sweetest e-card on Monday because we weren't going to be able to MSN that evening, he takes tap dance lessons on Monday evenings. Also, come to find out, he is the colleague of my friend's sil's brother...did you catch that????
And they rave about him and what a great guy he is!
Talking with him has made me realize that I am not as "screwed" up as I thought I was. Made me realize, my stbx is the screwed up, unhealthy one...not me! Granted, I already knew he was, but it is nice to feel like I am whole again, especially in such a short amount of time. I have been talking about all of this in my therapy sessions and through these sessions, I have realized I am definitely ready for this!
Can I share his "stats" with you all?? I am just so excited, this is so much fun! It is has been so long!!!
Age: 37 (an older man...I am only 30
Never been married, no children
5'7-5'9 (not as tall as I would like, my stbx is 6'7"---I am only 5'3"
Short blond hair
He is an Electrical Engineer working for the University of Amsterdam (I live in Holland)
Has a wonderful relationship with his parents and sister, which was VERY important because of my experiences with stbx and his childhood of abuse and abandonment.
He plays the drums, takes tap and lindy hop (swing dancing) lessons, rock climbs and skis!!!
The best thing is that he is always asking about ds, he is very understanding when I have to leave MSN for 20 minutes because ds is crying ("He needs some attention from his Mommy"--that is what he says
)--we only MSN after ds goes to bed, he also asks about stbx because he knows that he is also a big part of my life (stbx and I have a very good "co-parenting" relationship)...all in all, he is just a really nice guy!
Now, what will happen...I honestly don't know.
: I am very optimistic, but because I feel so secure with myself and my situation, being a single mommy, I guess it doesn't bother me about what may or may not happen! All I know is I have a great time talking to him, he has a lot of potential for me as a possible partner and it is just FUN!!!!
Sorry this is so long, I just really, really wanted to share this with you all! It is nice to share this kind of stuff with other single mommies...my married and single with no children friends just don't always completely understand!
Thanks for letting me share!!!!