L.J., you are meeting the friends! What a nice step to make...what did you think of his friends? Friends are often a reflection of what kind of person a man truly is.
It does seem very tough, to me, to date a single dad, which is why I am avoiding them.
I just don't want to have to deal with their exes, children and the "baggage", for lack of a better word, that comes with dating a single daddy. I have enough on my plate right now and I enjoy the fact that ds is only child involved.
Wemoon, hold your ground on this one! That is incredibly disrespectful and inappropriate...a topic he should be the "listener" and not the "fixer". If he apologizes, makes sure it is worthy of your acceptance. If he doesn't apologize or apologizes and you do not deem it worthy of your acceptance...at least you know now that he is not the one for you.
Brussel, your situation sounds almost exactly like mine until Sunday. My guy had also been very stand-offish and confusing. In fact, this past weekend, which was a 4 day weekend for Holland...he never asked me out, called or was even online all bloody weekend.
I tried to also not care and even thought to myself, "I am just going to end it anyway...I am not ready for this, I shouldn't be reacting this way, etc, etc." After speaking with some of my single, never married/no children, friends...they all told me that they often feel the SAME exact way!
Yahoo...it wasn't just me being the paranoid, "damaged" me! :LOL
On Sunday evening, he finally logged on, approached me and we chatted. As it was hard to talk about this stuff via MSN, I called him. Basically, he told me that he felt I wanted to take it slow, he wished I would take more of the initiative (in calling him, approaching him on MSN, etc), he didn't know what I really wanted and/or if he could give it to me and he even admitted to playing a little "game" by not being online all weekend to see if I would call him! We talked for over an hour, really got things sorted out and now we both feel very comfortable. I no longer feel like I have to play games with him...everything is out on the table, we both know where we stand!
Soul-O...a playdate with a firefighter!
Ok, with his children...but, sound to me like you will have more fun than the children!!!!
BTW, I am still seeing my ex's boss...it has been very nice, he is very attentive. Although I don't think it will go anywhere. That is the nice thing with dating, it doesn't have to go anywhere if you don't want it to...you can just enjoy the much-deserved attention!
No hot dates for me this weekend...ds and I are going to Paris this weekend. It is another long, 4 day weekend for Holland again! There are some benefits to living in a country that celebrates all of these religious holidays!
will sign off! Man, I sure do talk a lot!