My oldest is 15 and youngest is a month old...it's hard at dinnertime when they all want to share about their day...oldest wants to talk about career day and talking to the electric car engineers, middle son wants to talk about building a windmill at school, my three year old is bored out of his mind and keeps escaping the table to get attention, and I'm eating my dinner standing up while I bounce the baby! Hard to feel like we have cohesive family time at the dinner table.
I wish I could spend more time in my kids' classes too. They love their arts and science magnet school, it's small and fun. When my oldest was a kinder, I would take the toddler and baby and volunteer for an entire Friday morning of school every week!! Now sometimes I go days without even entering the school, just dropping off and picking up.
It's also hard because our house is smallish for the number of people living here, and my 15 year old has a tiny cupboard under the stairs sort of bedrooms so he feels like there isn't space for him to be here with his friends without the little kids jumping on them (which is true), so he always goes to friends' houses and they don't come here to hang out. I'm sad about that because I like his friends and want them to feel welcome here. I wish we had a rec room or basement or something but we don't- it's an 1893 farmhouse, 1500 sq feet, just adequate but with no extra space. Doesn't help that our living room doubles as my preschool space so there are little kid toys in there...the teenagers don't want to hang out in the preschool room with a three year old climbing all over them?? Nope!