My son came off the bus upset today... according to him, another boy on the bus who he has known for several years and often sits with on the bus was hitting him on the way home and hurting him. He said he tried to get out of the seat to sit alone somewhere else but the boy wouldn't let him.
There was another time some weeks or months ago something similar happened with the same boy, and I let it go because my son said he enjoyed it and it sounded like they were mutually participating (they were "play fighting" with each other I think.) Although I was a bit concerned the way he described it, I just let it go and it hasn't come up again.
However.. what do I do now? He was not happy this time and was upset, he wanted to get out and sit in another seat and the boy wouldn't let him and kept hitting him.. they are both in Kindergarten. Should I write a note to the bus driver? Call the other kids mom? (we're friends) or do both or neither? What should I tell my son?
I don't want to make a huge deal of it, but I want to stop it before it gets to the point of bullying or physical injury and I don't want to let my son down by doing nothing.. I want him to know he can come to me and tell me stuff.. When I was in 3rd I was bullied in my seat by 2 girls two years older than me, and I never told anyone. They physically hurt me every day the entire school year for part of the way to school. I never told anyone, so I don't blame anyone for not helping me, but I would have probably felt worse if I had told someone who end up doing nothing about it, which is probably why I never did.
I also don't want to damage my sons relationship with the other boy because they do get along sometimes, he's known him for a few years.
What would you do if it was your son?