My husband had been doing the same but doesn't always get the same results. Often she'll get more upset and lately will lash out as she gets more upset by kicking/hitting/biting. There had been one or two times a long time ago that Molly tried that with me and I would give her space to flail and reassure her/ask her to take a deep breath and calm down then discussed being kind/not hitting/ect. And she doesn't do that for me anymore. Ever. BUT patience is not my husbands strong point, plus he has a bit of the I'm the daddy don't question me mentality Abd so her fit fires him up. And he'll be harsh with her or put up his hands in defeat and walk away. In the past week though he's decided that when shes lashing out and hitting at him in her upset state that it clearly warrants a spanking. For blatant defiance is what he says. He did spank her last Sunday at church (in the family bathroom) during such a fit but when I'm around he tends to get mad at me for not allowing him the freedom to parent her the way she needs it.
advice? Has anyone experienced a child acting differently for dad than mom? Is it a phase? Is it related to personality of us parents? How would you approach differing philosophies on discipline? I'm not anti-spanking completely but I do think these situations he wants (and has) spangled in are better handled with love and compassion helping her work through her big emotions. Thank you!!