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Encouraging 5yo to sleep in his own bed.

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My oldest son is almost 5. I co slept with him from birth in my bed, at about 10mths hemoved to his own room/bed and I went to him at night when needed. I started to leave him in his bed after I had settled him when he was around 2.5 and I was pregnant. He started to sleep through the night all night in his bed, most of the time, at around 3. Once I had the baby, he started coming back to my bed earlier in the night. I figured it was a phase because of the new baby and let it pass. A year and a half later, he's still in my bed each night. I also have an all night nursing toddler now, and am honestly too crowded and touched out to get any decent stretch of sleep. We have tried to talk to him about sleeping in his own bed, have bought a new bed/covers, and have even resorted to bribes (which we don't normally do). Nothing is working, but neither is this sleeping situation. I need help/suggestions to gently get him into his own bed all night without making him feel displaced.
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He's probably going to feel displaced.  The only other thing I can think of is that if there's something he would really like to do, you could explain "Mommy will have the energy to X if we can all get a good night's sleep."  I would just make a consistent rule and enforce it.  Gently lead him back to bed.  Repeat.  Repeat.  Repeat.  You deserve to get a decent night's sleep.  Hang in there.

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I moved dd to a bed on the floor in my room before moving her to a room of her own. I told her she needed to fall asleep first before coming into my bed and she was fine with that. I think this helped the transition to her own bed. Maybe you could transition both kids to mattresses on the floor so he doesn't feel like he is being displaced.
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I've found that just being REALLY honest with my son has helped.  I let him know that I was starting to feel really frustrated with the sleeping arrangements and we had to find a way for us both to sleep better so we could be happier and better rested during the day.  One thing that helped me was putting my son in with my daughter (he's 5 and she's 7).  He knows that he can come with either of us but that we are going to trust that it's an emergency / he REALLY needs to be in our space.  It's not perfect, but it's working fairly well.

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