I am a long-time reader of Mothering, just FYI.
I will try to be brief. My 10yo DD came to me recently in tears and very upset. She wanted to confess something to me and had a really hard time getting it out because she was terribly worried I would hate her, reject her, send her to a hospital, etc. :( What finally emerged is that she finds it arousing to see other children experience minor injuries, like a skinned knee, scrape, or bruise. This also is the major player in her sexual thoughts at this time. She is VERY vehement about the fact that she does NOT want to feel this way and that she does NOT ever want to hurt someone herself, and would not. She also says this only happens with MINOR injuries and only with people she does not know. I believe these statements, as she was sobbing and very sincere. She also confessed to me that she will draw scenes like these. I had actually seen a few pictures like these in her desk but didn't think much of them, since she draws a lot. They were just some cartoons of kids playing and falling down. Indeed, the injuries were minor and accidental.
I think it helped her a lot to talk to me about it and hear that I of course still loved her and that sexual fantasies and somewhat unusual sexual preoccupations (I even sort of explained fetishes and S and M since she was desperate to hear that "other people have thoughts like these") are part of the human experience. But she is still worried. Do you think this is something we should seek treatment for? I'm worried that the wrong therapist could really mess this up. I am an open minded person and maybe this is the beginning of a BDSM orientation or maybe it is just a tween presexuality phase? I have no idea. :( Maybe it's some emotional hurt? DD can be a tough kid and we have had some hard times, but I do not consider her seriously in trouble and our family is intact and everything. She does tend towards anxiety and also had some medical issues as a young child--I can't help but wonder if that plays in?
FWIW, I am confident that she has not been sexually abused (we have always discussed this type of safety and I asked her about it again when this came up).
WWYD? Please be kind and sensitive. I feel bad for my girl. She was so worried.