would it be accurate and to the point to use the term "cosmetically altered" when describing the circumcised child? as in:
"oh, so you had him cosmetically altered?" (you had your son's penis circumcised.)
"no, he is not cosmetically altered." (we chose not to allow a circumcision.)
i think it would tell it like it is, and maybe make people think differently about what they are doing when they circumcise their newborn.
his penis is forevermore, cosmetically altered.