Our DD is nearly 3.5. We sort of got through the monster-three-year old phase alive (kind of) - but there are some lingering bad habits that we helped to facilitate that I'd like to address.
We'd like to create some family 'rules' with her - I think she would respond to it, in theory anyway, but I'm struggling with what could be the consequences of NOT doing them. We're slightly considering reward charts...though I'm not really a believer, just because I think she responds much better to praise than to anything even slightly negative (at the merest hint of parental objection, she'll shout and argue until the cows come home, which is how I guess we've let her get away with some of these things so far)...but we're still debating the chart idea. The following are the types of things we want to try and put boundaries on: I also need some help with how to phrase these things as positive statements???
-- No throwing food on the floor (food goes in mouth, into the rubbish, or on the kitchen bench)
-- Trying not to shout (using nice tone)
-- Not getting water on the floor (water stays in the sink, or for water play - outside or in the bath).
-- DD helps to pick up toys at the end of the day (seems impossible this one)
-- No hitting or poking (she gets a big kick out of trying to poke us in the eye when we're least expecting it, not sure what that is about) (gentle touching only)
There are a couple more, but my brain has farted momentarily.
We also have another issue causing us big probs, but will save that one for now.
Anyway - what would be the natural consequences for the above....? Cleaning up food she's deliberately thrown on the floor herself? Take her food away? (trouble with the latter is often the food thrown is at the end of the meal, or a banana skin or whatever).
Thanks for any thoughts.