Four hours for the first, home-birth, nuchal hand, big baby... hemorrhaging mommy.
Two years for the second. Two years of pushing all the adoption paperwork across desks.
None at all for the third: c-section.
I've never pushed more than 30 minutes-- not with the nuchal hand baby, not even with the late-turning nearly-shoulder-dystocia baby.
I have short labors (less than 12 hours start-to-finish), usually only about 10-15 minutes' pushing, I've never torn or been cut, and I bleed moderately to lightly for about 10 days afterward and am back to feeling like myself after two weeks.
I believe my MW wrote down that I pushed for about an hour but really I was relaxed and let my body do all the work without actively getting involved until the last 10 minutes. Since she thought I had been pushing she thought it was moving slow and had me move to the toilet from the tub. I was then moved to the bed to check progress where they found DD crowning and realized she was a little stuck and at that point I was encouraged to push. Even then it wasn't until the MW assistant was in my face and showing me how to make some noise and push out DD. So really *I* think I only actively pushed for about 10 minutes.
took like 18 hours to be dilated but once I was ready the 'active' delivery stage of my birth was only 20 minutes and I only pushed once to get my water to break. Then I just breathed him out. A very lovely home water birth with a fully intact perineum. I even succeed on my intention for an orgasmic birth with a flooding orgasm mid-labour that made them think my water broke. I am excited as we prepare to get pregnant with a second soon and can't wait to have an even better more orgasmic birth.
Wow! What a variety of responses!!
Birth #1 - 42+ hour labor, maybe an hour or more of pushing (was exhausted and had epidural after 30+ hours of very painful labor)
Birth #2 - 4 hour labor at home, pushed maybe 20 minutes (just as MW arrived)
Birth #3 - 2 Hour labor at home, pushed 10-20 minutes since baby's shoulder was stuck on my pubic symphysis (MW made sure to show up early this time since my last birth she almost missed!).
All my babes have been posterior and the last two turned during labor or just before.
I was in the hospital, sitting on the toilet trying to relieve constipation. Midwife checked me 30 mins prior and I was only 1 cm dilated. Contractions were very intense already though.
My body was pushing and suddenly I felt myself sort of split open below (don't know how else to describe it). I could feel the baby's head. I freaked out! I started to worry labor was going too fast because I heard the tearing can be bad when the pushing isn't controlled. Anyway, baby slid out a few minutes later into the toilet.
There's actually a name for that. It's called the fetal ejection reflex. I've never experienced it-- and I might never, because I'm such a control freak, the hardest part of labor for me is letting go and trusting-- but it's a thing.
Three hours. A homebirth, all natural, 21 hours of labor total. I'm surprised I'm falling into the most common category, since I always thought three hours was considered a really long time to push (or unacceptably long to OB's. I had a CNM). I figured I would have ended up with a c-section if I had been in a hospital.
Although if it's not considered pushing if it is a reflex, maybe I didn't push at all? Not to be gross, but that stage of labor always reminded me more of throwing up than anything - not really voluntary. 1 hour with the second, maybe half an hour with the third, and for the fourth I don't know... five minutes?
I voted less than an hour but I didn't push with my first. I did push with my 2nd, 3rd and 4th but it was less than a minute each time. One or two pushes (not controlled by me) for the head and the other (slightly more controlled by me) for the body.
It was definitely fetal ejection reflex each time...