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post #21 of 47
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Can't stop thinking about having another baby. Argh! Why does my brain do this????
post #22 of 47

I'm also thinking about #3. wtf? Baby's age is still being counted in DAYS. 

post #23 of 47

Me too!!! My partner is being driven crazy by it. But my son (almost 5) is 100% for it. :) My poor partner...he is an introvert and dreads the diminishing opportunity for calm & solitude in the house. :)

post #24 of 47
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Poly, be sure it's oversupply and not one of the many little things (like oral issues or minor breathing things) that can cause a baby to struggle with good flow. Most care providers don't know how to tell the difference and if you take advice to tamp down your supply it can bite you in the butt later... I learned this the hard way. Better to find ways to help a baby cope with the flow and keep your supply nice and healthy in my opinion. 
I'm worried about this too because I'm not spraying or feeling painful or anything. The breastfeeding center LC I talked to on the phone yesterday said to feed from one side for three hours then switch, instead of switching every feeding. She also suggested pressing down on my boob when feeding to kind of stop the flow briefly, since pulling L off the breast when she starts choking just makes her not want to go back on. That seemed to be helping, she eats for 30 min at a time instead of 5-10, and doesn't fuss again in ten minutes anymore, but her poop today is greenish again. Ugh. We are still using the nipple shield most of the time which I am so frustrated about. Just waiting for my tailbone to heal so I can drive and go to the LC in person.
post #25 of 47
Hi Everyone,
I've been MIA since Norah was born but thought I should join the postpartum chat. Sounds like a lot of us are going through the same kind of stuff. Add me to the club of those with an acting out older child. DD has started removing her diaper during her "naps" and peeing on the floor. She's done it twice. I'm going to start keeping her potty in her room during naps to see if it makes a difference. She's been very sweet with the baby but otherwise very...testing. Also waking up at night screaming for DH or I to come lie down with her.

Norah was super sleepy the first few days and definitely calmer than her sister, but now that we're coming up on 3 weeks she's fussier--she seemingly wants to nurse all the time, but then she chokes and spits up a lot. She will sometimes give 2-3 hour chunks at night (mostly 2) but also has been waking up every 1/2 hour-hour wanting to nurse AGAIN. She is also congested a lot. I'm actually wondering about reflux. I put her in her bouncy seat to see what happened and she slept much better--but I know that's not considered very safe. Last night she was very fidgety and grunty.

I'm trying to remember that intermittently crying and eating and pretty much doing nothing else is NORMAL at this age, but it is driving me crazy--the sleep deprivation doesn't help. We are not cosleeping because I'm just not comfortable with how our bed is set up, though I bring her in to nurse/sleep starting in the morning.

Blah. A big adjustment has been how clingy and attached to DD1 I feel--like someone else said, I feel like her baby/toddlerhood is just racing away from me and I'm not remembering/appreciating it enough. Her bright little monologues are so incredibly precious and she is changing so fast. I almost feel like i resent the baby from keeping me away from her older sister.

My parents are still here through this weekend, then DH is home for a week--I am sort of panicking over how I will handle life with 2 kids once I'm on my own with them. I guess overall I'm feeling a bit emotionally...bruised.
post #26 of 47

Hey Poly, just PM'ed you!

post #27 of 47
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Blah. A big adjustment has been how clingy and attached to DD1 I feel--like someone else said, I feel like her baby/toddlerhood is just racing away from me and I'm not remembering/appreciating it enough. Her bright little monologues are so incredibly precious and she is changing so fast. I almost feel like i resent the baby from keeping me away from her older sister.
 

 

Just checking in though I'm certainly not post partum yet. @Blanca Hang in there. I went through this with my second. It didn't help that my son had "colic" for 11 months and cried / was not happy most of the day through 11 months. His older sister was a breeze in comparison and I had a lot of resentment. Luckily we all just hung in there and perservered. I hear you on it though and it is hard.

 

Hang in there.

post #28 of 47
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Thank goodness I'm not the only one with baby fever.  It's so nutty!

 

Blanca, hang in there!  DS peed on the floor the other day too.  Like pulled his pants down, sat on the toilet, then popped up, said "No pee potty, pee floor!".  And proceeded to pee all over the floor.  Aaaaaah!!!!  My in-laws are here now and it's embarrassing how bad he is being, frankly.  He has also been more aggressive with the baby.  Overall still good, but he sometimes jumps on me while nursing.  He hit her again yesterday.  And today kind of fell on her and hurt her enough that she started crying. 

 

I'm so frustrated because it's like he won't accept any kind of positive attention from me.  And Kat is still so easy right now that I actually have a lot of time for him.  No hugs or kisses or snuggles - he'll hit me instead.  When we play together he just starts throwing his toys everywhere.  If I set him up to play by himself for a minute, he's climbing the one piece of furniture that can tip over.  We can't do anything without him acting out.  I'm trying really hard to focus on the positive - for his sake and for mine.  But the ways he's choosing to act out are just not ignorable.  And mentioning them - whether asking or telling or yelling - makes him do it more. 

post #29 of 47
So great to read all these responses. I don't feel so insane now. I'm 13 days pp with my first. First week had major problems bf; latch was great, milk production slow so we tried 3-4 different techniques that put me over the edge; not enough time for all this stuff plus the self care needed to make milk. I'm pumping like a maniac, feeding her from breast and finishing with formula/bottle. That's all I can do to get through this and hope milk flows more. I'm pumping 1-2 oz from both each time so not enough.

First week was hit with the sleep deprivation (after recovering from a 12-hr birth of course) but it's evening out.

Night sweats holy crap!

I also have moments of extreme worry/OCD but feel better knowing this is normal.

I did placenta encapsulation and they seem to help. They are known to give you ENERGY so I have to pay attention to when I take them.

Mom was here first 2 weeks but she's leaving and husband working next two weeks. First days by myself with her! Hoping a couple friends can drop off some food. Yep, these are tough days but support is key and knowing we are in this together helps.
post #30 of 47
t is really amazing to me how terrible the post partum period is. My lady parts are soo ouchy. My boobs are on fire. The engorgement was so bad i finally had to pump. I tried hand expressing bc i guess that is better so as not to destroy this delicate balancr between babe and breast. . . Whatever! I couldnt remove enough to be comfortable. Finally pumped and dumped 9. Ounces of milk! No wonder everything hurt.

Really having trouble getting comfortable and sleeping. My guts are just too loose. If i lay on my side it is very uncomfortable. Boobs hurt if i roll on my tummy. So the only way to lay is flat on my back, which i hate. I hope my abs can get back to work soon!

But my babe is a sweet thing and i really am so happy to not be pregnant and to know that i will never have to suffer this condition again!
post #31 of 47
I've been really lucky this time had have felt pretty god overall, but I'm glad my placenta pills are done.

The birth high wore off last night and Ka-boom ! Hormone bomb of uncertainty.

Uli is a fantastic baby so far -- he took to nursing with surprising ease and my milk came in pretty gently on day 2.

I'm surprised the nursing is going do well because my first had a hard time latching on to huge boobs and now they feel like an advantage instead if a liability. I was side-lying the first night instead of at four months.

Does anyone else belly wrap? I did it after my first and it really helps thing go back together.

I just use my maternity support belt turned around backward and wear it for a few hours a day.
post #32 of 47
I belly wrap and have a hip wrap too. Makes a big difference!
post #33 of 47
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I belly wrap and have a hip wrap too. Makes a big difference!

 

What do you have? I've been thinking about doing this.

post #34 of 47
What size are you? I found a shrinx hips at a thrift store but it is too small for me. I was going to donate it to goodwill but would happily send it on to someone.
post #35 of 47
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I'm a 4-6 normally in pants.  I'd be happy to pay shipping if you think it would fit!

post #36 of 47
I have a Gabriella elastic binder for my belly and a Shrinxhips. The Shrinxhips is really well made and easy to use. The Gabriella is a basic cheap binder. It works fine but isnt anything special. I have to wear a tank top under it bc i find it uncomfortable near my skin.
post #37 of 47
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Originally Posted by vtamanda View Post

I have a Gabriella elastic binder for my belly and a Shrinxhips. The Shrinxhips is really well made and easy to use. The Gabriella is a basic cheap binder. It works fine but isnt anything special. I have to wear a tank top under it bc i find it uncomfortable near my skin.

 

I'm torn on how much money I want to spend.  That's why I keep putting it off.  I wonder if I would end up wearing a tank underneath anyway.  It's hard to believe that even an expensive one would be comfortable.

post #38 of 47
That was my logic. Bc even the expensive ones were getting lukewarm reviews. No doubt they are all uncomfortable, but postpartum is uncomfortable! So.
post #39 of 47
But waering a tank under it makes it hard to nurse. Gotta take it off to pull up tank. Now if u had a nursing tank, you would be golden.
post #40 of 47

Has anybody ordered tops or dresses from Milk?  For the $ (and I am normally a pretty cheap girl) I just want to know if they will last...  

 

My sweetie is growing like crazy.  She is 2 weeks and 2 days old and is about too long for most of her 3 month sleepers.  It is crazy.  

 

Also I need to gripe a minute.  I have taken her to the hospital lab for 2 pkus and now we have to go in for a third.  It is highly inconvenient for me to find a sitter and get to town (30 miles away) just to have them poke my sweet little one.  The first one they didn't get enough blood on the card.  The second time they used an expired card.  This is just irritating now.  

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