Funny thing is that we moved to our area last year and I think there are some midwives in our area I'd get along well with/trust but I really feel like I want to try UC this time. I just learned I'm expecting again - it will be my 5th baby, due some time near/around September, I think. I'd like to do my own self-care (prenatally) with my husband (I REALLY want him MORE involved this time!). I trust my instincts and I know I can do this. I just ordered "Hearts and Hands: fifth edition; a midwife's guide to pregnancy and birth" as well as "Unassisted Homebirth: an act of love". I know my husband can do this too - he was an EMT for 6 years (5 years ago) and is able to remain calm even in uncertain or crazy situations. But I also think having a couple of close friends/relatives would be helpful in case one or more of our children are awake and needing some food/care or to do some running around/getting things, etc..., as I know my husband tends to be quite tired by the end of things as well and again I'd really like for him to be totally focused on the birth, me/us, and baby.
I am wondering if there are any good videos online and/or articles online that go through some common emergency situations that *may* happen during a normal low-risk birth? I think much of it will be covered in one of the books I read. I'm not anticipating any emergencies, as my last two births have been without any concerning issues.
My first home-birth (second birth), however, included a stalled labor after 12 hours and at 6cm, a swollen cervix which was iced and then contractions began again once the swelling went away (my body knew what to do!) and after 12 MORE hours of labor (a few hours of rest between the two) a healthy baby was born. So I know things can and do sometimes go not as planned and I'd really like to be prepared for it "in case" but I really hope, again, not to be expecting anything to go too "off" for this birth.
I got the books because I do think I need just a bit more encouragement and "talking to myself" through this decision. I really want this birth to be peaceful and I've felt even with my midwives being respectful (and one not so respectful when filling in) like I wanted things more intimate and less medical, more natural and more relational... this is the time to meet our baby, bond with him/her and while obviously the baby and mother need to be alive and in good health to do so I really feel like something gets stolen away when so many procedures take place so soon before that bonding hour (or more) is completed.
Does anyone have ideas of the importance of weighing the baby right away after birth or putting it off (of course then the baby may weigh an ounce more from nursing??). I don't feel like it will make a huge difference if we were to hold off until our new family was well connected and settled and ready to rest? I'm even tempted (but it probably wouldn't be accurate enough) to just hold the baby while on a scale myself and then get back on the scale without the baby while daddy holds him/her? Hey - don't laugh - it's a good idea but I just doubt our scale would be accurate enough, you think?
Well, thank you for letting me jabber on! I'm excited about this baby and about this possibility of UC this time around!