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Relocating while pregnant

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 

I recently found out that my husband is probably going to be doing his graduate program in Maine!!!  We live in Hawaii now, very tropical, so this will be a HUGE change!!

 

The move will probably take place in June, although I will most likely leave the island to stay with my parents in Texas a few months earlier while my hubby figures things out in Hawaii, and saves money.    It's overwhelming!!!!   At least June in Maine won't be that much of a shock!  But I will have to quickly find a midwife and health insurance in my 7th month of pregnancy when I move to a new state!  Eek. 

 

Anyway anyone else doing a relocation while pregnant? 

post #2 of 23

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hehe- always wondered if i'd get to use that emoticon!!!

 

we moved to MA for grad school.  i'm still in culture and winter shock.  

 

we're moving in May.  Hopefully just local.  but it is a big deal.  kinda like- what hospital should i consider a back up OB in if i go that route?  thank goodness my midwife travels.  if you're looking for a homebirth midwife, i could ask her.  i know one of the back-up midwives at my first 2 homebirths is in ME now, but maybe not practicing or in a great location.  and june is lovely up here....... but man.  leaving Hawaii for this place?  i've secretly been hoping my husband would relocate somewhere tropical or at least not New England..... but it's unlikely.  it's been a brutal year.

post #3 of 23
We moved at 31 weeks with my daughter and moved again when she was 14 months old. We may or may not move this time depending on some things that are going on in our families. It was hard but it ended up working out ok. I loved my midwife down here and although I was a hospital transfer I love her more than anything
post #4 of 23

We may be moving around 7 or 8 months along.  We won't know for a couple months or right up until it's almost time to move.  My husband is just finishing his Administrative degree and will be looking for jobs this Spring.  He won't be done teaching until mid-June so we wouldn't be able to move until then at the earliest.  We have three boys (ages 8, 4, 2) already and every time we move it seems to get harder on on us and them.  So, I know that this could get pretty tough.  However, we really need the new job so we will take it if we can get it.  We don't even know a location yet as he will be applying locally and in some other states as well.  I'm a little nervous to think about finding a new homebirth midwife in time (hope they wouldn't be too full for the month of August) and just figuring out moving logistics in general. 

Then again, he may not find a new job at all and we would stay here.....which would actually be way worse (money wise).  So....here we go.  Sigh.  It's really all the unknowns that have me up at night.

 

I will commiserate with you :)

post #5 of 23
My partner and I live about 800 miles apart. I'm going to be moving there in may (about 28 weeks). Almost immediately after that we both will be working out of town for 10 days, then getting kids and going camping for 5! I'm still trying to figure out how exactly I'm going to work all the monitoring I will probably have again (due to my pregnancy history) into this madness. I'm trying not to think about it... Yet!
post #6 of 23
We have moved six times in eight years, and have had 5 children in that time as well. We moved just before my oldest was born, when she was almost 1, right when I found out I was pg with number 3, when I was 30 weeks with number four, and when #5 was 6 weeks old, and again when she was 6m old. Just seeing that in print makes me feel better about how our house doesn't feel as.settled as I would like. Ha! Of course it doesn't!
post #7 of 23
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We have moved six times in eight years, and have had 5 children in that time as well. We moved just before my oldest was born, when she was almost 1, right when I found out I was pg with number 3, when I was 30 weeks with number four, and when #5 was 6 weeks old, and again when she was 6m old. Just seeing that in print makes me feel better about how our house doesn't feel as.settled as I would like. Ha! Of course it doesn't!

sounds eerily familiar!!!  we moved across the country when my first was 21 weeks in utero, again when he was 3 weeks old, stayed in that location til i was 7 or 8 months pregnant w/ #3, stayed there for births of #3 and #4 and then moved for a winter.  lived there for 9 months before relocating to where we are now, which is going to be changing in May.  So 5 times in 7 years, will be 6 in 8.  

 

how i look forward to that changing!!!!  hopefully!!!!  maybe?

post #8 of 23
Thread Starter 

My hubs just told me he is NOT taking the graduate program in Maine and is going to finish out his Master's degree here in Hawaii.  :)  WOOT!

 

However we are still moving in the next week or two, to a HOUSE!!  For the past few years I've been living off the grid under a tarp in the jungle, just roughing it...but I've had QUITE ENOUGH of that, thank you!

 

We're gonna be moving into a 3 bedroom house with electricity, a real toilet, a bathtub, a fridge and freezer...WOW, so excited!!!!!   

post #9 of 23
Wow! Such great news! I'm not sure which of those modern conveniences are most essential for pregnant ladies...I'm thinking toilet now, bathtub at birth and freezer during the newborn period !! So happy for you.
post #10 of 23
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Originally Posted by OtherSoul View Post
 

My hubs just told me he is NOT taking the graduate program in Maine and is going to finish out his Master's degree here in Hawaii.  :)  WOOT!

 

However we are still moving in the next week or two, to a HOUSE!!  For the past few years I've been living off the grid under a tarp in the jungle, just roughing it...but I've had QUITE ENOUGH of that, thank you!

 

We're gonna be moving into a 3 bedroom house with electricity, a real toilet, a bathtub, a fridge and freezer...WOW, so excited!!!!!   

dude- that' is so wonderful!!!!  in many ways. :clap:joy:bgbounce:twothumbspeace.gif

 

my husband and i did tent living in New Mexico for a couple of summers.  i can handle no electricity, but running water and a kitchen are luxuries i'm kinda hooked on now!

post #11 of 23
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Originally Posted by OtherSoul View Post
 

My hubs just told me he is NOT taking the graduate program in Maine and is going to finish out his Master's degree here in Hawaii.  :)  WOOT!

 

However we are still moving in the next week or two, to a HOUSE!!  For the past few years I've been living off the grid under a tarp in the jungle, just roughing it...but I've had QUITE ENOUGH of that, thank you!

 

We're gonna be moving into a 3 bedroom house with electricity, a real toilet, a bathtub, a fridge and freezer...WOW, so excited!!!!!   

 

 

WOW! What a change, how exciting!

post #12 of 23
Wow. I am just lazy and spoiled! Cannot conceive of giving up my showers for more than a few days at a time.
post #13 of 23
Congrats on not having to move too far!

Wow, I'm intrigued to hear how you handled living off the grid like that with kids? It sounds magical, and obviously hard too.
post #14 of 23
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Knittedmama View Post

Congrats on not having to move too far!

Wow, I'm intrigued to hear how you handled living off the grid like that with kids? It sounds magical, and obviously hard too.

 

I only have one son (he's almost two) and YES, it's been really hard at times!!!  Especially with keeping him clean and trying to do potty training.  He just goes potty everywhere without a diaper on, doesn't understand about a potty even though he has a baby sized one, because he never sees us use a similar potty (the outhouse is a walk away and it's a composting bucket).  It's also hard to really have a variety of nutritious meals with only a single burner and no cool storage.  We've done our best but I look forward to an oven/fridge/freezer.  I also worry a lot about him picking up some kind of parasite from the soil here (it is a legit concern, lots of baddies in the mud/soil here) because he has literally stuffed handfuls of dirt into his mouth with my back is turned just for a second!!  I've also been cloth diapering despite the minimalist conditions!  We spend loads at the laundromat in the nearest town 15 minutes away.  But our stuff sits in bags or buckets until we can get to town, which invites mold, stains and other problems!!  ahhh lol.  

 

It's been an amazing learning experience...and I suspect that one day we may move off the grid when we can make it more comfortable for us.  Off the grid living can have all the modern amenities if you get set up right.  Until then...I am going to be loving being hooked up to unlimited electricity, running water, etc.  :)

 

The good thing is that my son has such an amazing connection to Nature now.  <3  I'm a little worried about him adjusting to living indoors honestly.  When we went to visit my friend who has a big house, he literally just stands at the door crying to go outside the entire time we are there.  

post #15 of 23
Gosh that does sound tough! Having a fridge especially will feel like such a luxury when you move! My family stayed in a tent for 3 weeks when my son was 3, we'd moved interstate and our house wasn't available yet. I was SO ready for all those everyday luxuries we take for advantage by the time we moved in.
post #16 of 23

my husband told me one day, if he can, he'll build me an earthship, or put me near a community where i can build one/have one of my own...

 

or a yurt.  i might have been campaigning for one after all this moving.

 

meanwhile, he really prefers on the grid living.

post #17 of 23

Wow I've heard of living off the grid before but I've never heard anyone talk about their experiences with it. I'm really impressed! I think I would love it for about a week, and then I would absolutely miss our freezer. Living in an Earthship would be our dream home, hopefully we will end up in one someday.

 

So it looks like I'm going to be relocating when I'm 22 weeks along. 5 months ago my DH and I moved 10 hrs away from all of our families to a new province. The adjustment has been hard because we went from a metropolis to a tiny town. While we love this town, we have come to realize that it will be very difficult for us to ever get a home here and there are very few options for renting. Our current apartment is a 20min walk (because we can't afford to run the car) into town, and a dive. I'm not working because we planned to get pregnant and have me stay at home with the baby so I haven't really met anyone here. My DH has a decent enough job, but we just feel like we will always be living on the fringes of this society, never actually being able to be full members of the community like we imagined.

So we recently decided that we need to move and try somewhere else before this baby comes because relocating will only be that much more difficult with a newborn. We have another, slightly bigger, small town in mind. It's another 10hrs away from where we are now, which means family would have to fly in to visit (not that I'm super keen on them visiting, as bad as that sounds). We have some good friends who are moving there this summer and they plan to settle there as well so it will be really nice to know some people. The town is also about an hour from a major metropolis so it isn't as isolated like the one we are in now. It also boasts having a higher ethnic diversity which will mean our kids are less likely to be the only coloured kids in the neighborhood (unlike our current town). So all in all the move sounds like it would be the best thing for us.

However, my DH graduated from university last year and he's still trying to figure out his career. Which means when we show up he will just have to job hunt like crazy until he finds something that can support us. It's a pretty scary prospect because we just recovered financially from this last move, and this time I won't be looking for a job at all.

 

I know we don't have it nearly as hard as some of you women do, but it's still been a struggle. We've been so consumed with trying to figure out our lives that we haven't been enjoying the present very much. We can't look to family for any support because they still want us to move back home, despite us saying more than once that we don't ever want to live there again, let alone raise children there. We plan to just surprise family with our new addresses after it's all been done.

 

WHEW! Thanks for listening, I really needed to let out some of my worries!

post #18 of 23

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post #19 of 23

Thank you HouseofPeace. I've been feeling pretty alone in this pregnancy so I really appreciate this community.

post #20 of 23

With my last pregnancy I moved on May 21st from  Chicago to San Francisco. Along with 7 other kids and 2 dogs. My husband was already in California. I was 36 weeks and actually gave birth to him  5 days later...3 weeks early on the 26th! It's difficult, but you gotta do what you gotta do!!!

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