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Sleep...or lack thereof

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I am crossposting this thread I just made in Life With a Babe, hoping you mamas might have some suggestions since your LOs are about the same age.


I am chronically sleep deprived and I'm at a complete loss as to what to do about it...


DD is 14 months old. She has a bedtime of 6:30-7:30 depending on how the day goes and how tired she seems. She goes to bed for the night very easy. I nurse her down, it usually takes 5-10 minutes. If she's not out in about 10 minutes, or she seems restless or like she's trying to keep herself up, I'll kiss her and tell her good night and leave. She'll chat to herself for another 5-10 minutes and will then be asleep. The first stretch of the night she'll usually sleep until about 10:30-11:30, but from that point she wakes up at least 2-3 times to nurse (depending on the night...sometimes she nurses all night, or will nurse twice but for an hour each time). She's up for the day by 6:30 at the latest (sometimes as early as 5:30), but she spends the last hour+ that we are in bed nursing. She'll be mostly asleep while she does it, but I can't sleep through it, so I am usually up for the day by 4:30-5:30. I'll try to unlatch her and comfort her down, but she gets very upset and 99% of the time will just get up for the day right then.


She's co-sleeping, obviously. I really don't know where to go from here. I don't know if she's hungry at night or comfort nursing. I think she is hungry in the morning because if I unlatch her she'll decide to just get up and then she'll sign for food. I'm at the point where I'm starting to consider getting a good quality organic toddler formula and just giving her a bottle in the mornings so she can fill her tummy (I really don't know how much milk she's getting at this point and it might not be enough to fill her up...she doesn't nurse nearly as much throughout the day anymore and will go several hours without nursing. I could potentially pump some milk for her to get in a bottle in the mornings but it takes a while for me to pump any significant amount).


Suggestions? I'm just exhausted, I'm a single parent and she goes to work with me so I'm "on" all day long. I am totally ready to sleep when I put her down for the night but I have to get ready for the next morning, clean up, take a bath, and I like to watch a show or two since that's the only time of the day that is really about me, so I'm lucky to get to sleep by 10...

post #2 of 6
Oh sweet mama!!! I just woke up this morning saying to myself "that's it. I can't take it anymore. I need some help to figure out how to make this stop. " then hours later I see your post. I haven't even been on mdc for ages. I am in the same boat, if you haven't guessed! Like, almost exactly the same. Same bedtime and hours awake and waking time. And I so get it. I am a single mama too, of three. I need the alone mama time and the prep time for the next day, clean up from dinner etc. So, although I don't have any solutions for you, I wanted to share and send you love and total compassion for where you are. I will say, being on my third, that all mine have been like this. At forty and now single though, it is just harder to deal with. I was reminding myself this morning how at two they seemed to magically sleep thru the night. Personally I can't wait that long this time! So I will check back in hopes some other wise mamas have some great advice and hopefully you and I and any other exhausted sleep deprived mamas can soon get some relief! Sending love!
post #3 of 6
Ana has to be skin to skin all night, and sleeping alone, even for naps doesn't really happen. Most of the time, she goes to bed between 6:30 and 8. Depends if Dad is home or not. Then she normally wakes every 2 hrs until about 4:30, then it's generally more often. She usually only nurses 2-10 min, depending. She has patches of waking every 15-20 min when she's teething, those nights give me sympathy for you.

If she doesn't night wean when it becomes necessary, I plan to do the 10 night plan in a book which I can't recall the name of had in it. A man doctor wrote it. Anyway, basically, you wait till they are almost out completely, and console them as you have taken it away for I think 1 min. You slowly increase time between giving it back and making her unmatched every night till she falls asleep on her own. Typically that's 10 days to 2 weeks. Or try a paci?
Good luck, mama!
post #4 of 6
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Is that the Jay Gordon book? I'm trying to get to 18 months before I night wean but I don't know if I can get there greensad.gif
post #5 of 6
I think so, yes. I'm waiting as long as possible too. Maybe you can use the technique to slow her down to something more manageable for you? Do you both get plenty of good fats during the day? Maybe a bit more of that would make her more satisfied if she's actually hungry? And proteins too?
Edited by MrsKoehn - 1/24/14 at 10:58am
post #6 of 6
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MrsKoehn, no, that's definitely something I could work on, especially the good fats. Thank you!
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