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Third trimester hormones and still working

post #1 of 7
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Even though next Friday is my last day of work i'm having a really hard time holding it together. I feel so stressed all the time and i'm taking work things personally and having a really hard time separating from my client's issues at work. I work with people in conflict and normally i'm so cool (and therefore effective) about it but lately i feel like every client's crisis really affects me. Even though next Friday is officially my last day i have to come in at least two days the following week to finish off a big important project i'm working on. It's so stressful. I hate that i feel such lack of control over my emotions, it's not at all how i normally am. It drives me crazy. Also, i have total brain cloud and i forget things immediately after thinking them, like i thought about writing about the brain cloud and then i forgot immediately and then i remembered. It makes me feel stupid, even though i normally consider myself smart. I feel like others pick up on my increased stupidity and use it to their advantage. So i guess i'm also paranoid. Holy crap i really don't like the third trimester, by far the worst for me.

 

Any support at all would be so appreciated.

 

I'm 35w2d and i can't wait until it's 4 months pp so i can sit on the beach and drink a gin and tonic with a splash of cran and walk a flight of stairs without feeling like i've run a marathon and not feel like i have a brain cloud all the time (I would have said something wittier but brain cloud).

 

 

 

 

post #2 of 7

Not much advice but I can tell you it's normal. And after your baby arrives, you get "mommy brain". Good luck. I feel you on the flight of stairs and wishing for the occasional beer!

post #3 of 7
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Thanks, I find 3t really rough. I know every woman is different and some women have A hard time with the first or second, but for me it's the third for sure.
post #4 of 7

I had a really rough 1st trimester, a good 2nd, and the 3rd has been ok, but now I'm having some return of symptoms, I thought I had kissed goodbye.  Disappointing!

 

Today is my last day of work, and I am super excited.  I have a lot I need to get done, plus it looks like it will be pretty busy on top of that.  Even though I am SO ready to quit, and just focus on getting ready for baby (we still have stuff to get together for the birth, baby things we need, and painting to do), I am sad and upset at the decisions my boss has made that have led to his choice of who to put in charge "while I am gone".  When I don't come back, it will become permanent as long as he doesn't burn the place down.  It's upsetting, because I have worked REALLY hard to turn my store around from where it was when I tool over from someone who was rude and incompetent.  Unless something huge changes, this guy is going to bring everything right back to where it was three years ago.  I have customers who have told me that if he winds up running the place, they WILL take their business elsewhere.  On top of that, my boss has been super condescending since I've been pregnant.  He has told me that I have changed, that it's just my hormones, and pretty clearly stated that I don't understand what the guy in question is going through, because he used to have "real" career, and this job is beneath him (it is beneath me too, I have a BA in a hard science from a prestigious school- I just happened to end up working what amounts to retail- the difference is I DO MY JOB ANYWAY).  And it's not just my boss!  Since this guy started, I have had more trouble than ever before with customers trying to go over my head to him, calling me his secretary, asking when he will be in and if I'm SURE I can help them.  UGH!!  Because he is older than me and a man, SO many people assume he is the boss, or the more experienced person.  DUDE!  He has been doing this job 7 months.  I have been doing it for 8 YEARS, and I am his boss!  I'm pretty sure I can help you!!!

 

Soooo, I get it.  I doubt we will care at all once we are gone.  I have to remind myself over and over that once I am gone it is not my problem who effs up what, or who says/thinks what about me.  I will be home with my baby, and way happier than them.  I am the one who will have escaped the cooperate machine!  Also, when everything does crash and burn, I will feel some satisfaction that my boss is reaping what he has sewn.

post #5 of 7
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Holy crap Mattie that is some serious sexism.
I face some of that too. Like there's this man who I used to get along with but ever since I became very pregnant he's always trying to trick me to advance his own interest, and probably to feel smarter than me.

"I doubt we will care at all once we are gone."
Agreed, I also keep reminding myself of this. Just one more week.

In an ideal world no woman would be forced to work through the third trimester. It's just too damn hard and people take advantage.
post #6 of 7

Work is okay for me right now. It's a little harder getting up and down sometimes, but I'm functioning. I'm sorry you ladies are having such a rough time of it. 

 

I would like it, though, if patients would stop commenting on my pregnancy. Particularly the stupid comments. I'm very careful, now, to avoid saying anything to a pregnant woman I meet in a service occupation, because she has probably heard it all 100 times and is sick of it. (Well, I might say something NOW, but if I weren't clearly pregnant myself I definitely wouldn't say anything.)

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Work is okay for me right now. It's a little harder getting up and down sometimes, but I'm functioning. I'm sorry you ladies are having such a rough time of it. 

 

I would like it, though, if patients would stop commenting on my pregnancy. Particularly the stupid comments. I'm very careful, now, to avoid saying anything to a pregnant woman I meet in a service occupation, because she has probably heard it all 100 times and is sick of it. (Well, I might say something NOW, but if I weren't clearly pregnant myself I definitely wouldn't say anything.)

LOL!!  I was able to hide it pretty well with my baggy lab coat for a LOOOONG time, so it hasn't gotten to me too much.  Even up to a few weeks ago, if I was sitting down, people wouldn't notice.  DH and I had pizza the other night, and the pizza girl was obviously pretty far along as well.  He asked her, "When are you due, I want to see who is pregnanter?"  Which I thought was cute, and wouldn't have minded at work.  I have passed on a LOT of golden opportunities to say, "I'm not pregnant!"  It would have been fun, but I just can't bring myself to be that mean.

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