Thank you for empathizing annlea.
Blessewithboys, I'd consider her less nurturing, rather than fully detached. She loves my son and it is getting better now that he's becoming a toddler. While she's not cuddly or affectionate she does value and foster his growing curiosity. Unfortunately, if she's done any damage it's already been done. There's no going back on the infant years. I do think he'll be okay though, as she consistently cared for his other needs, she's not the primary figure in his life, and he's bonded with so many other nurturing family members. She's not his entire world the way mama would be.