Are there behaviors that you expect parents to abstain from while your kids are spending the night at their house? Specifically, two things.
Should parents abstain from having sex, even with the door locked, if there are other kids in the house? One mom said if she found out the parents of the home were having sex when her daughter was in their house she'd be furious, even if the door was locked, and I asked how she'd know, and then asked if she and her husband have sex when their kids are in the house. She said she probably wouldn't know but still parents should just abstain to be respectful, and that having sex when your own kids are in your house is different than having sex when someone else's kid is in your house. I think this is silly. If the door is locked and you are discreet, the kids won't know, and I don't see how it's different to have sex when only your kids are in the house or when your kids and someone else's are both in the house.
The second thing is alcohol. Should parents refrain from having any alcohol at all, even one beer, even if it's only one parent drinking, if someone's kids are over? I see that as a "know the family" thing. One of my daughter's friends is Mormon, and I don't think they drink, so my husband doesn't drink if she spends the night. We wouldn't want her to feel confused or upset. But he might have a beer or two if the child of someone we know drinks were here. (I don't personally drink.)
I'm curious about thoughts here and reasons behind the thoughts. It was interesting for me to hear these other moms' perspectives. Like the mom who thought it was horribly disrespectful to have sex discretely in your locked room if a child's friend were spending the night. It's hard for me to wrap my head around that but I'd like to try a bit harder to understand.
Are there any other things (other than obvious and/or illegal stuff) you expect parents to not do if your child is at their house?