The Not Dating Thread - Page 2

[girlzmommy00]

Add me to the still not ready list. I'm bearly getting by dealing with DH walking out on us last year. Every so often I start to feel better about everything and then I'm just a big mess all over again. Still waiting for the hurt to stop.

[Sativarain1]

(((hope you feel better soon Stephanie))))) I too have not been dating for awhile, its sooo hard to find like-minded guys and someone who will accept my kids, and be honest, non alcohalic, no druggies etc etc..... someday right =)

Valerie

[LiamsMommy]

Hello eveyone,
My husband and I separated in January of this year. Needless to say I am not dating and really don't think I will be for awhile.
I am pretty bitter. I get sad sometimes because I know that I want to have more babies and don't know if I will have the chance.

[Holland73]

Originally Posted by LiamsMommy

I am pretty bitter. I get sad sometimes because I know that I want to have more babies and don't know if I will have the chance.

I so understand exactly how you feel, at least I felt the same exact way in the first 6 months when my husband and I separated.

Take the time to heal yourself, get to know yourself again and rebuild your life! Understand where your hurt is coming from and respect that hurt...do not fight it or try to deny it! Also, try to understand it is all apart of the "process" and that there is "sunshine after the rain"! AND...you will be stronger because of it!

[MissMisha]

I'm with you LiamsMommy. I left last October, am an older mom and wonder if I'll ever be able to give Baby Bear a sibling. It makes me sad because I would love to have a little girl, too.

I did try to date, but it was a disaster. I wanted a date to prove I was still worthy, womanly or SOMETHING. Ex decided to fool around with every woman in town but me, so let's just say I had some esteem issues, LOL. However when the new guy started the entitlement speeches and reminding me how lucky I was to be dating though I have a baby, I hit the road. Didn't handle the exit speech well, either. I now KNOW I need to work through my own issues, including esteem issues, and figure out why I have to attract such critical people (or have such thin skin, LOL).

I'm really hoping a miracle will occur and this really sweet guy will materialize out of nowhere, or maybe the produce section of the supermarket. Maybe I'll start scoping out the bananas....

[LiamsMommy]

My ex came over today to spend time with Liam. (he never takes him because he doesn't know how to care for him) Anyway, I started getting really depressed. I don't really know why but when he comes over it happens a lot. I get anxious and depressed and start thinking about going back with him. But I know that it would not be a smart thing to do.

[2countryboys]

Okay, my ex left 6 weeks ago. I've been feeling very lonely lately, I'm doing better now though. I did go on a date over a week ago, it was ok, nice to get out of the house. Now, I feel like maybe I don't want to date (despite the lonely feeling). My aunt has a couple of single guys she knows who want to talk to me on the phone (one of them I have talked to). I really need to get out of the house, but I'm not up for a relationship right now. It would be great to be showed affection by a guy, but...I don't know. My emotional state is conflicted right now. I'm not one to go out by myself and I don't have single girlfriends. I guess I'm just rambling. I thought this thread would be a good place to do it because it concerns not dating, make sense?

Sorry if I don't make sense, I should just go to bed, lol.

[2countryboys]

Oh, and Liamsmommy, I can sooo relate to both of your posts. I too would LOVE more children. But with knowing that I can't handle a serious relationship anytime soon, I'm not sure I'll get the chance. God willing, we both will .

I also get depressed and very sad when my ex comes to see the boys. The same with if I talk to him on the phone. Not sure why.

Anyway, just letting you know that you're NOT alone in your feelings on these issues, hon.