So I have been divorced for almost 15 months. Just before the divorce xdh started a new job, a managers position. So his child support is based on his old income of 98K. Last year he made 180K and this year he said he has made 225K. I have known about the increase but been hesitant to try for a modification for many reasons, such as pride and the fact that he is consistently paying me every month and I am afraid to poke the bear. He was occasionally physically abusive and mostly emotionally abusive so I hate still depending on him and I can pay all my basic bills but my debt has doubled due to college classes. I am also not able to comfortably afford childcare when I need it for things like interviews, tests for college courses which is not often and when xdh goes on vacations and I need a babysitter for a 'break because he doesn't have them on his parenting time'. So can someone give me a reason to go forward with this? I tried the all law calculator and it doesn't even calculate for such a massive income he is making. The most I saw was a 10K a month=120K a year income and it has him as paying 1365$ a month, right now he is paying 1125$ a month. He has helped me in the past with things like bday parties and buying school clothes but since I am dating someone now I feel like he is not giving me that extra money we had agreed on rather than going back to court. My state has a very specific formula for child support so I doubt if I can just ask for 800$ extra, if the formula says he needs to give me more or less (more likely it would be 1300$ or more) that is what is decided.
I am also unsure on how to go about going back for a modificaiton. I see the papers online, but I cannot get his w-2's so is that something the court will petition him for?