We have the opportunity to move to another, more desirable area. DH works from home and we can really relocate anywhere in the state. I am trying to figure out if it is best for us or the kids.....
We moved to this town (fresno) 3 years ago right after DD2 was born to be closer to both sets of grandparents. It has been awesome (DH expected WAY more out of his family, but I feel like it has worked out well.) kids see grandparents on average at least 1 time per week, although, almost always very quick visits. Where we lived before, we saw them 4-6 times per year.
Downside of the area we live now: HOT in the summer, high cost for cooling.... super bad air quality, like in the top 10 for the country. If DH lost his job, there is nothing in the area where he could bring in as much as he is now. There is not really any great outdoor stuff (this is a big one for us as we love hiking/ running outside/ biking, etc)
Upside of where we live now: MUCH lower COL, we are buying our house (we would have to rent if we moved, at least for 3-5 years), close to grandparents and DH's siblings/ nieces and nephews. I love the charter homeschool DD1 attends.
There are 2 areas we are looking at, the place we came from before (San Diego) and where my sister lives (Monterey) and we have also lived there in college. We like both places and they both have the outdoor stuff we like. One is 6-8 hours away from family and a pretty brutal drive (through LA). The other is a 2.5-3.5 hour drive and usually no traffic. Both have better job opportunities for DH, but honestly, San Diego (our second choice) has WAY better/ higher paying jobs). Also not sure about the homeschool opportunities in Monterey, San Diego has some great charters.
I am having a hard time figuring out if moving is best for our family and more importantly the kids. The air quality thing has me worried and DH really misses the outdoor activities and doesn't feel at home here because of that. My parents would move to where me and my sis live in (if we chose Monterey) 5 years, but DH's family will all be here forever.
I am just not sure.... Do you think moving when kids are this little (will be 6, almost 4 and 1.5) is a problem at all? Is it bad to take them away from the town their grandparents live in?