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Birth plans?

post #1 of 88
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It's crazy early, but I love birth.

What are your birth plans? 

We're planning a family birth again (aka UC). I've already put together a wishlist on amazon that is mostly birth supplies. After ds4 was born dh requested a birth tub big enough for 2.  h20homebirth.gif 

post #2 of 88

I'm definitely having a hospital birth, but I'd like to get a dula to come with me.

post #3 of 88

Well, for my first, I planned a natural birth in a hospital, but had a c/s for breech baby.  Then, with my second I tried to VBAC, but babes went into distress, I had to be put under for an emergency c/s and it turns out my uterus was stretched pretty thin at the scar tissue.  So this time, I'm going to have a repeat c/s.  I'm at peace with this, just wish the other two had gone differently.  I am looking forward to being much more certain, a lot less worried about delivery this time around.  It sucks to have to fight your entire pregnancy for the birth you want, only to be disappointed in the end.  Not that a healthy baby is a disappointment, but ykwim

post #4 of 88

I'm not sure what my birth plans are this time. I've had both natural out-of-hospital water birth, and I had a hospital epidural birth. I liked both, lol. I really don't know which I prefer. 

post #5 of 88
Very up in the air. We are moving to North Dakota, leaving behind the midwives and birth center we used for our son. There are no birth centers there, and only two hospitals. CPMs operate in a legal gray area, not expressly prohibited or permitted. I'll really have to do some interviews and some gut checking once I actually get there. I'm seriously considering a natural labor until transition, and then getting a spinal that would hopefully wear off for pushing. I really don't want to go through transition like I did with my son ever again! But we will see!
post #6 of 88
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Very up in the air. We are moving to North Dakota, leaving behind the midwives and birth center we used for our son. There are no birth centers there, and only two hospitals. CPMs operate in a legal gray area, not expressly prohibited or permitted. I'll really have to do some interviews and some gut checking once I actually get there. I'm seriously considering a natural labor until transition, and then getting a spinal that would hopefully wear off for pushing. I really don't want to go through transition like I did with my son ever again! But we will see!

 

We will also probably be moving this summer, and I'm not sure where, so it's all up in the air where I'll have this one. 

post #7 of 88
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Originally Posted by marmo View Post
 

Well, for my first, I planned a natural birth in a hospital, but had a c/s for breech baby.  Then, with my second I tried to VBAC, but babes went into distress, I had to be put under for an emergency c/s and it turns out my uterus was stretched pretty thin at the scar tissue.  So this time, I'm going to have a repeat c/s.  I'm at peace with this, just wish the other two had gone differently.  I am looking forward to being much more certain, a lot less worried about delivery this time around.  It sucks to have to fight your entire pregnancy for the birth you want, only to be disappointed in the end.  Not that a healthy baby is a disappointment, but ykwim

I'm going to attempt VBAC as well and I really hope it goes well because my first childbirth was rather traumatizing - emergency c-section after 48 hours of labor because the epidural stopped my labor.  We'll see how the scar looks and feels during the late stages of pregnancy and if some issues arise, I might also opt for a c-section. We're not planning to have more children after this, so that makes that decision easier.

 

I totally understand that disappointment … I'd also love a natural vaginal birth, but if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be.  I'm certainly not going to push my luck with this one if I'm advised against it.

post #8 of 88

Similar to monkeyscience & SierraBella, I am moving-- quite soon~! Within the next few months we are going on the "OREGON TRAIL" as we call it. Packing up and moving just outside of Portland. So along with all the changes and nuances that we will encounter with our first pregnancy, we will also be transitioning into a new way of life. To me, this is PERFECT and exciting! We have been wanting to move for some time now, so right now it just feels like everything is changing for the BETTER-- all at once! It's miraculous... it's giving me so much positive energy. :)

 

The fact that we are moving soon definitely influenced me to introduce myself here on Mothering.com, so that I'd have a community to rely on throughout all the chaos! <3

 

I plan on having a natural home birth, but I have yet to locate a MW, since I know i'll be moving. My friend recommended me to a great one here in Austin, Texas, but that won't do me much good once I move! But I'm thinking about asking her if she could refer me to someone else? Perhaps she has a connection where I'll be, or resources for me to use in finding one? Anyone here have suggestions/wisdom to share?

post #9 of 88

Katelyn- I would look up the local groups on MDC and ask there for recommendations.. someone you can email and/or call from Austin to see if you can transfer to her when you get there.

I may or may not be close to you when we move. I applied to grad schools and waiting to hear back. One of them is OSU, in Corvallis :) If we move there, my midwife would be my advisor/professor, lol. 

post #10 of 88
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Originally Posted by Right of Passage View Post


We're planning a family birth again (aka UC).

 

Sorry, I'm not familiar with the terminology.....is this a home birth w/ the family present? Just curious :)

post #11 of 88
Katelyn - My brother and his family are moving to Portland in the spring, too. I hear that's a great area for natural birth.
post #12 of 88
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Katelyn - My brother and his family are moving to Portland in the spring, too. I hear that's a great area for natural birth.

Oh wow that is great to hear!! 

Like I said, I have a feeling the universe is making all of these changes happen at once for a reason :D I think that we are SUPPOSED to start our family in Oregon. I'm very excited!

 

Where is your brother moving from? I noticed you're from Houston, so we're pretty close at the moment! My entire family has always revolved around Austin (both my mom and dad's sides are from towns in the area, and everyone in the family has stayed close by)... but I'm so excited to go somewhere new where the weather sounds perfect and where it actually rains sometimes... hehe

post #13 of 88
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We're planning a family birth again (aka UC).

 

Sorry, I'm not familiar with the terminology.....is this a home birth w/ the family present? Just curious :)

I prefer the phrase family birth over unassisted birth but either way it's a freebirth. IMO the "unassisted" label carries an undercurrent that birth requires an attendant, it doesn't. Thats probably not a popular opinion around here any more, but I truly believe birth happens best when mom is alone on her own turf. When you go onto someone else's turf you have to deal with their rules and fight when you're most vulnerable, I've done that and it ended in a cesarean and trauma to me and ds1. This will be my 4th VBAC, after being told I should never attempt because it's too dangerous and my body cant handle it. 

post #14 of 88
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Katelyn- I would look up the local groups on MDC and ask there for recommendations.. someone you can email and/or call from Austin to see if you can transfer to her when you get there.

I may or may not be close to you when we move. I applied to grad schools and waiting to hear back. One of them is OSU, in Corvallis :) If we move there, my midwife would be my advisor/professor, lol. 

 

MDC?... 

 

Oh that's neat that you might be at OSU in Corvallis, because we will be living south of town so yes we would be QUITE close! :) 

 

Such a small world!!

post #15 of 88
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MDC?... 

 

Oh that's neat that you might be at OSU in Corvallis, because we will be living south of town so yes we would be QUITE close! :) 

 

Such a small world!!

 

MDC is this website forum: MotheringDotCommunity :)

post #16 of 88

Oh silly me haha

post #17 of 88

I'm not sure.  My first two were UCs.  The four after that were home waterbirths with midwife.  My seventh was induced in the hospital at 34 weeks because he died.  Not thrilled about going back to that hospital and triggering those memories, but feeling some trust issues with my midwife.  I'm not ready to decide, yet.

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I'm not sure.  My first two were UCs.  The four after that were home waterbirths with midwife.

Oops, didn't see your post here before I replied to your 'Exercise' thread. You're definitely not a first-timer! It's just me so far, I think... :innocent ...&:heartbeat:throb:Hug

post #19 of 88
Such a range of experience and birth plans!

I have a midwife, and think I'm planning a hospital birth this time around. I had a home birth with my dd, and the labour was peaceful, intimate, empowering. But after she was born, I hemmoraged and had a retained placenta. It was pretty traumatic (passing out, ambulance, separated from my baby...).

So, now I have this amazing AND traumatic memory of her birth. I know I have an elevated risk of hemmorage and retained placenta now, and I'm in British Columbia, and my midwives have an excellent relationship with the local hospital. So that feels like the safest option for me. A natural, midwife (and doula) supported hospital birth. But we'll see whether I feel like gettin in the car 5cm dilated. Ha! Seems unlikely...
post #20 of 88

I just decided which prenatal clinic I'm going to join and that one is connected to a birthing center I tried to get into last time I was giving birth, but couldn't get in.  This time I should be able to, the only problem being that I've previously given birth via c-section.  Let's hope they let me in there despite the fact :)

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