Originally Posted by teacozy
Not accepting a patient in the first place isn't the same thing as terminating or "firing" one.
I think his reasons make sense. He doesn't feel like there can be that mutual trust that he really does have your children's best interest at heart and that he really does know what he's talking about. He doesn't feel like he can adequately do his job. Like he said, he has had lots of experience with non vaccinating parents throughout his career and that has been his experience. He knows it's not a good fit for him.
My pediatrician's office has the same policy. They ask upfront before you join if you plan to vaccinate on schedule. If not, they politely ask that you look for a different doctor.
This may not be as big of a problem in other countries as it is in the US, but a parent of a newborn who caught measles in the pediatrician's waiting room from an unvaccinated patient would probably have a pretty strong case in a lawsuit. The US is a very sue-happy country, and it's a risk a lot of doctors are just not willing to take. That makes sense too.
good thing you are in agreement for now, chances are you won't always be, as in other relationships most don't work in the long term
while vaccines are really easy to bully on new fearful parents, there really is far more to consider when an office tells you their policies - it many not just be vaccines- most new parents don't know what the future really will hold
down the road your child's BMI may be a concern you don't see eye to eye on, and we do know in some states they are hoping Dr's take a strong stand with parents (and some are also removing the children when the Dr.s and the state feel the parents aren't following the Dr's orders)
want your child to play a certain sport? well the Dr many no longer treat patients who choose certain sports such as football and refuse to do physicals for them - I can certainly see the AAP and other groups pushing for not allowing patients who's parent's don't tow their line
we already see issues with older children that a new parent of a 21month old may not realize - we see threads on here all the time over retraction, antibiotics (no matter what the AAP and other's say there are still tons of Peds that push antibiotics), ADD & ADHA meds, you many not agree and suddenly you are looking for a new Dr - it goes both ways doesn't it? Cancer care - well we certainly see this playing out in the news all over Dr's & parents not on the same page, end of life care, that thirteen year old tonsils patients - lots to consider when they tell you if they will take you or not
usually when you are told up front what they will tolerate from you, there usually is more that slowly comes out- good luck with things, unlike vaccines effectiveness rates you do, you simply have only a 50-50 chance in most relationships and I hear when you leave and look for another Dr. they write all kinds of things about the parents in the children's charts-might want to keep that in mind