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So much pink! Do you shop for your daughter in the boys' section?

post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 

I'm really troubled by the amount of pink and frills and ruffles and lace in the girls' section, so I often shop for my daughter in the boys' section. 

 

Do you shop for your daughter in the boys' section? What have been your best finds so far?

post #2 of 25

I will browse both sections when I have her with me. If it's just me I stay in the girls section. I love the frills and so does she lol. BUT by age 2 my daughter was picking out things she loved if she was with me...she now has a mix of boys and girls clothing that she has been picking out for the past two years. I loved dressing up my kids when they were little but I would never reject their opinion to what they like when they start stating their opinion.

 

I do love that she has a taste for everything.

post #3 of 25
Yes, I always shopped both sections. But I find boys clothes to be super annoying sometimes with fire trucks and puppy dogs on them. I like Hannah Anderson stuff best in the colorful unisex stripes.
post #4 of 25

In the summer I bought boys white swim tops to go with her cloth swim diapers because of the huge size difference.  The girls sizes run so freaking small - tight and short - that when she would normally wear 9-12mos sizes in clothing (this was during her first summer when she was 7-10mos old) h swim tops in hose sizes wee far too small.  I'd have had to go up to a 2t to get it to not cut circulation off on her arms, whereas the boys 12mo was a perfect fit with room to grow.  I was pretty disgusted when I came to the realization that size differences between girls and boys begin sooooo young!!  DD is now almost 27mos and wears 3 and 4t at 34"/30lbs - but pretty sure she fits smaller sizes in boys.  So yes, we do sometimes shop in boys just to get the better fit.

post #5 of 25

Most definitely.  I hate how polarized the fashion is.  Whatever happened to kids (not just girls vs. boys) clothes?  Neutral colors.  Minimal embellishments.  That's how I like to dress.  If I give my daughter (almost 2) the option, she almost always picks out a brown polar bear shirt or a batman shirt.  So I shop both sections and try to find some middle ground.  There is a great blog I like to read from time to time called Princess Free Zone (http://princessfreezone.com/) that covers this subject a lot. 

post #6 of 25

Yes! I avoid anything too girly, including clothing that features princesses and fairies. My granddaughter, aged two, loves to wear her boy cousin's hand me downs and t. shirts that feature dinosaurs which are available only in the boys' section. However, she likes wearing pink too and has a pink tutu like Angelina Ballerina. She loves climbing so she wears shorts most of the time. It is just as well she likes boy clothes as she has a new baby brother so economy dictates that many, though not all, clothes in the future will be ones she can hand down to her brother!

post #7 of 25
Thread Starter 

There's a new kids' clothing company coming out called Jill and Jack that has the sort of thing you guys would like. They're looking for design feedback through a survey now, but one of their designs is a dinosaur shirt for girls. They're at www.JillandJackKids.com

post #8 of 25

My daughter is 2 and is beginning to have own opinions on clothing, which includes that she loves pink and purple. But I shop in both sections. She has a lot of striped boys' Old Navy long sleeve shirts that are soft and cozy. It can be hard to find girls' long sleeve shirts that are basic and don't have scratchy embroidery, ruffles, gathered shoulders, etc - those kind of clothes are good for sometimes but I also like for her to be COMFORTABLE.

post #9 of 25
I like zutano, Hanna Anderson, me too & tea. I buy as many gender neutral clothes as possible but dresses can be tough. Old navy and osh kosh aren't TOO bad.

Boys clothing can be just as bad with trucks, puppies and blue everything!

I have a harder time with the words...daddy's little princess, mommy's handyman...the worst bib ever Ladies Man...gross. I am more forgiving of the pink John deer dress because at least it tries...almost. I find it hard to not see as sexist and crass (and homophobic...kinda). I think it's part of sexualizing everything...but also extremely lazy.

I let my daughter pick her clothes and she does a good job. right now she has a cement mixer shirt she likes to wear with fluffy pink (skulls & peace sign) skirt.

I find the consignment shop and the second shops have better selection. I am also get hand me downs so I run them both my son and daughter through them especially pjs. For example they both have football pjs they wear together and they both have ruffled pink pjs they like to wear at the same time. I think they see it as sharing interests...although I think she's more into the footballs and he's more into dressing her up so she looks cute.

Whether its beige, blue or pink a monochromatic wardrobe is just not cool! ^_^
post #10 of 25

We don't shop for clothes in stores.  We shop online for better access to quality organic clothing and to avoid exposing our children to the gender dichotomy, and more and more as time goes on, we make our clothes at home.  That said, I know very well what you mean!

 

All of our children, regardless of sex, wear the same set of hand-me-down clothes until size 7.  We match styles of clothes to the child's development rather than sex-- long gowns are ideal for newborns so they stay warm but their diapers can be changed without much fuss, sweats/leggings and t-shirts are the ideal uniform of kids from rolling age until they walk competently, mid-length skirts and dresses are the most convenient attire for toilet training, and things that fit more loosely and don't fasten in the back are important for children working on dressing themselves.  Most of our little kids' clothes are neutral colors-- lots of grays, blacks, browns, whites-- my mother says our smalls look like tiny lawyers.  We also have some blues, greens, purples, and reds.  There's a little yellow, orange, and pink in there too, but because I find those colors less attractive and harder to match into outfits, they're definitely just an accent.

 

I think the primary purpose of a child's clothing is to protect them while not getting in their way too much.  I feel that a lot of girls' clothing these days is designed with decoration in mind instead of ease of developmentally appropriate movement.

post #11 of 25

I shop online mostly, but I have found some things at H&M for my older DSD (about to turn 10).  Today she wore a black sweater with tiny silver skulls and plum skinny cords.  

 

For my infant DD, I buy everything for her from Zulily.  Almost everything is organic.  Very funky / Euro styles.  I dress her in cream / chocolate brown / purple / green / orange.  

 

Whenever she wears something the slightest bit frilly (or with any pink in it), the daycare teachers always say "That was a gift, wasn't it?"  Ha!

post #12 of 25

I actually find a lot of Hanna's clothes too gendered. To me they've gotten more so in recent years. For example, the baby socks were recently offered in two shades of blue, two shades of pink, white and gray. No green, yellow, red. But I do like the quality.

 

I have been really pleased with clothes I've gotten from another Swedish company, Polarn O. Pyret. I like that they specifically have unisex in mind: "There is really no reason to design different models and fits for small boys and girls since there is no great difference in the way their bodies are shaped." That's basically how I feel. They also have a lot of nice clothes intended for girls in colors other than pink and pastels--rich reds, greens and blues. It's kind of pricey, but I mostly shop the sale section where the discounts are deep. The only complaint I have is that almost everything I've gotten from them has a tiny logo on it somewhere visible. I hate that. My feeling is that if my kid is going to advertise for a company, they should be paying us. :) But otherwise, I'd recommend them.

post #13 of 25
I often look in the boys section. I don't have too much trouble finding simple shirts, legging etc. there is plenty of non-frilly stuff and I like colour. But it is really hard to find shorts for girls. It is all skirts and leggings. Leggings are great for winter but our summer is way to hot.

I intend to make more as time goes on but I don't always have enough time.
post #14 of 25

It is a bit overwhelming. Just wait until they start bombarding you with princess and Barbie stuff. It's really annoying. 

 

I had a boy first, and saved a lot of his clothes as hand-me-downs for my next child. I had a girl next, so I used mostly the gender neutral stuff for her...blue jeans and khakis were good. The nursery was gender neutral as well (John Lennon print).

 

My daughter had absolutely no hair for the first year and very short hair until she was 4. Her hair grew in so weird. I can't tell you how many times people thought she was a boy, even when she was wearing pink! Perhaps that is why baby girl clothes are so darned girly...because some baby girls have no hair  and can pass for boys...like that's the end of the world!

 

Now that my daughter is older (7) she likes to do dress up sometimes and even puts on make-up, but she was never into princesses and dolls...maybe because she has an older brother who she looks up to..I love it! I was really into match box cars in the early 1970s, and I didn't even have a brother. Thank goodness my parents were smart enough to buy me cars and not try to force me to play with dolls! 

post #15 of 25

A 21-month-old, here.  We browse both sections, leaning more toward the boys.  I tend to steer clear of pink because it is so hopelessly overdone for girls.  Besides, she tends to pick bright primary colors (reds). Her Disney-loving uncle got her shirts for Christmas and had to avoid the girl section entirely at the Disneyland souvenir shops because there was nothing BUT pink.

 

Sometimes it feels like, starting from infants, children are relegated to candy frou-frou or mech-truck-tools-in-testosterone-camouflage--with little choice in between.

post #16 of 25
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I had a boy first, and saved a lot of his clothes as hand-me-downs for my next child. I had a girl next, so I used mostly the gender neutral stuff for her...blue jeans and khakis were good. The nursery was gender neutral as well (John Lennon print).

 

My daughter had absolutely no hair for the first year and very short hair until she was 4. Her hair grew in so weird. I can't tell you how many times people thought she was a boy, even when she was wearing pink! Perhaps that is why baby girl clothes are so darned girly...because some baby girls have no hair  and can pass for boys...like that's the end of the world!

 

 

 

Same here.  When I found out my next child was a girl, I purged most of the stereotypical 'boy' clothes, but kept nice sweaters / rompers / jammies that were gender neutral.  I even saved some cute things in pale blue, which came in handy as my DD has GORGEOUS blue eyes.  My mom gave DS a beautiful baby blue cashmere sweater that he never wore, but I dress DD in it.

 

But people still ask how old 'he' is All.  The.  Time.  Especially when she wears outfits for our favorite sports teams...because I refuse to dress her in the pink versions.  Those aren't the team colors!!!  End rant....

post #17 of 25

This annoys me to no end! I don't know how we got here. . . where everything a girl wears has to have pink on it. We are at the point where if you see a child wearing a red, orange, or green coat, for example, you automatically assume it is a boy.  That isn't the same with adult women - my coat is red and it doesn't come off as a men's coat.  It is so hard to find clothes that is somewhere between ultra boy and ultra girl.  We do shop the boy section for some things - especially play shoes. Seriously, there isn't a single pair of shoes on the girl's side that doesn't have pink somewhere.  The boys get the whole rainbow and girls only get pink.  Why are tan and red shoes "boy's" shoes??  We are teaching girls they can only like 1 or 2 (lavender) colors!  And, I have NEVER liked pink, so it is especially annoying.  I don't have a problem with putting her in pink SOMETIMES.  Just not ALL the time. (My sister is all about pink and princesses, so of course she sends all that stuff for gifts, so I definitely don't need to buy any more.

 

We shop a lot of consignment, so often take what we can get.  I do love all the adorable outfits the high-end organic companies have, it is just waaay out of our budget.  Gap tends to have some girl's clothes that aren't overly pink and frilly. Gymboree also usually has a line or two that isn't overly "girly."

 

The problem is with toys, too. . . now, everything is pink and purple: play kitchens, play dishes, baby doll beds, easy bake oven, etc. These things used to be sold in colors that matched the real ones.  I'm pretty sure there aren't many house with a lavender/pink kitchen. . .  You can find others, but it is typically higher-end and harder to find.  I'm not sure why this has happened.  Are the companies pushing this or is this what is selling??? 

 

I recently saw a Lego ad from the 1980's and what the girl was wearing would be considered "boy's clothes/shoes" today.

post #18 of 25

 

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I can't tell you how many times people thought she was a boy, even when she was wearing pink! Perhaps that is why baby girl clothes are so darned girly...because some baby girls have no hair  and can pass for boys...like that's the end of the world!

This was DD - no hair the first year.  And even though I did have her ears pierced young, while wearing dresses she was referred to as a "cute boy" of which someone actually asked once why I'd pierce a boys ears...headscratch.gif

 

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I recently saw a Lego ad from the 1980's and what the girl was wearing would be considered "boy's clothes/shoes" today.

Legos....have you seen the "girly" legos??? They are all about shopping, laying by the pool, riding ponies and have very little to actually build!  Thank god I saved all my pirates and imperial guard legos at my parents house because at least they require building and DD loves pirates!

 

My biggest gripe lately is the characters.  I went to buy a pair of winter boots, thought a generic shoe store would do - all they had was dora the explorer - which we don't watch.  Many shoes are this way.  I did end up driving to the more expensive place down the road for kamiks (it's also where we've gotten her stride rites and keens) but my wallet can't always take that kind of a hit especially when she outgrows them so fast!  A little bit of character wear is ok, but not an entire wardrobe.

post #19 of 25
Try having a ds that likes pink and princess things ! We shop mostly online now. I get so tired of clothes being so narrowly focused on one gender or the other.
post #20 of 25

Shopping in both is probably the practical way to go.  You are right there is a point where too many pink things become a bit too much.

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